My husband and I do not do gifts specifically for Christmas, birthday and anniversary for each other. Of course, those special days are acknowledged with a little something, usually a spa gift certificate for me and something my hubby needs such as wallet, workout clothes, tools, etc. My daughter will give him and me a gift of some sort.
We do things all year long as we need it. For instance, we just got a new KitchenAid cooktop installed in our kitchen. It is something very nice, adds to our home and is something we needed. As for daughter, we do special things for her at Christmas and her birthday which is 12/27 but still....we focus on all year long and things we/she needs vs waiting until a holiday and spending all the money at once.
Prime example for daughter was when she continued excelling in orchestra and in the middle of the year, we went and she tried out violins until she found one that was right for her. This expense was certainly not one we wanted to hold off on for a year because her ability and performance needed it at the time. She continued interest in orchestra, has continued to excell and we know it must be a good violin when we observe her instructors always choosing her violin to play because they love it.
I understand the budget.... find something from the heart. Maybe some special photos of you, your daughter or both you and daughter.
Happy Holidays and I hope you have a safe trip back to Maryland!