Close Names in Famileys...

I guess they will all get to stand at the end of the lunch line...At least they'll have someone to talk to then.

J.,

Oh, do not fret that the names are close, perhaps the children will be, too. They will have a shared bond of names that begin with a less-than-usual letter, can form their own little "Z" club, pretend to be cool superheros, and feel really special together. I would be happy, not upset. Help them celebrate as they grow!

Best wishes,
K.

I'd say get over it! You're not the first person to think of those names and you won't be the last. It'll be cute growing up with all Z names!

I would not be upset about it because she must really favor you. There must be something really special about you that she admires about you to want to name her child almost the same name as your child. I would be excited that she cares as much as she does.

They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

There is a belief that your name is not actually chosen by your pareents- that you actually tell them what your name will be- and that name holds the key to your destiny (see Numerology at www.Decoz.com for free shareware)

Each name is unique- the fact that they all begin with Z is neat since they are all related...

I would actually see it as a compliment- your sister must appreciate your taste....

When I was pregnant- so were my husbands' 4 cousin's wives... I was the last to deliver, and every time we told them what names we were looking at- as soon as they gave birth they took the name we chose....being hormonal I was reallly angry- but the name that we have for our son- once he was born fit him perfectly- he really was none of those other names.....

Things work in mysterious ways....

M.

J. I agree That if this is the only thing you have to worry about then it is NOT really worth fighting over or getting upset about.....HOWEVER....I do think that you shuold feel good about it because they must value your opinion & that should make you feel very good. It seems to me that your ideas and opinon for important decisions like a baby name are also important to them and they may feel that they were doing it in honor of you....If it bothers you just next time the name is brought up ask them where they got it or how they came up with it....their answers may surprise you....

Dont get your feelings hurt or get upset over something that may turn into being something worth bragging about later....

I don't see the connection...it's not like she chose the same name and spelled it differently. My cousins (sisters) name their sons Luke and Lucas and there are no hard feeling. I think if that's the biggest thing you have to worry about, you need to thank god and remember it's just a name.

J.....we have close names in our family, and while it can get confusing at times we love it. I have Breanna, Bryson, and Bowen. My niece has a Braeden, and my other niece has a Brennen. Like one of the other posters said "life's too short" Have fun with it:)

I kinda know how you feel. my sons name is myles cooper. well my sister in law named her son cooper( as his first name)- her oldest son is carter and he went to daycare with a cooper as well. really- it could have came from either place. But at first i was like arent there any other boy names you could have used. she did asked if i would mind- i said no because i would never tell anyone what they can name their son. so she has carter and cooper- my other sister has a conner and i have a cash, 4 "c" names out of 8 grandkids. it is okay to be upset if that is how you feel. i am sure, like myself, in a few years it wont be that big of deal. i guess just take it as a compliment. "Z" names are rare- you can share that together and feel awesome that it was your idea!!!

J.,
I am not trying to be harsh, but there are worse things in the world. Get over it! First of all the name isn't even the same. I actually envy you...if that is the biggest problem you have then you are a mighty luck girl! Good Luck.

Don't worry about it and don't take it personal. We don't own names- Would you feel this way if they started w/"B"? Besides- your sister could easily change her mind- as prego women do this.

Enjoy your baby and your day.

Our situation is a little different. We used a similar name on purpose, but there is a 2 generation difference. We named our daughter Caroline. Her grandmothers are Carol and Carolyn. It's kind of funny sometimes, I'll catch myself almost calling her Carolyn. I've been using that name for the last 13 years, and hers for the last 1.

I wouldn't fret about it. Zara will still have a unique name.

I would not worry about it, my sister in law had a baby 6 months before me, her name is ellexis, my cousin had a baby 2 months before me, her name is Elliora, we had a baby last and his name is Elijah. Our family made a joke about it because we had picked that name for our son, when i was pregnant 4 years ago. we had girls instead, we did not know what we were having this time, so the family said that it had to be a boy because all the other names from 2007 started with E-L.

When I was pregnant for my first child we had decided not to find out the sex of the baby so of course we had set names picked out. My sister was also pregnant at the time due a few days before me. She knew she was having a girl & couldn't decide on a name. Well, to make a long story short... she had her little girl before I had my baby (which ended up being a boy) but she "stole" the name I had picked out, for her daughters middle name. I was furious. To be honest with you sweety, it's not worth getting upset over. It'll cause a rift between you & your sister & possibly affect the relationship you could have with your little neice. She'll name the baby whatever she wants for whatever reasons. Maybe she's "copying" you because she looks up to you. Be honored not upset. If it truly bothers you, talk to her & explain how you feel about it but also be supportive of her decision. She'll find her own identity sooner or later. It is her child & she does have the right to name her what she chooses. Love your little Zara & love your little neice Zoey to.

Well, I had something similar. I had my first only daughter at age 40. I named her before she was born. I went through names and said them out loud to my husband. The only one he liked was M.. So that is what we named our daughter. Her middle name is Raye after her father Norman Ray. M. Raye was born in 1998. My niece's daughter Morgan Rae was borned in 1997.

Months went by (or maybe a year)went by, and then I got the comments of why did I name M. so close to Morgan's name and the same middle name.

Well, this is the truth - Morgan Rae didn't even come into my head. As I said M. was the name Norman liked and I picked the middle name to go along with his middle name.

Even if I had thought about Morgan Rae, I would have still named M. Raye!

It's your kid!!

I wouldn't be upset. So what if their names all start with the same letter - if you really like the name you picked out then use it. I know it's an emotional topic, but it might be cute to have cousins with similar names. I know you like having something for yourself, but naming a child is everyone's right as a parent, I wouldn't let it cause a problem for your family. Maybe she'll change her mind before the baby comes.

J.,

I understand this happened to me also with my daughter she is now 23 and my niece that was named after her is now 12. They are not as close in age, but it is still the same issue. I have come to find that my niece looks up to my daughter so much and wants to be like her. I don't know if it has to do with their names being so close, but they don't care.

In the big scheme of things, your sister seems to has the same adoration for you. She would not want to be like you if she didn't see you as someone worth being like.

If it really bothers you, then tell her. But, if it doesn't, just realize she loves you and be happy that you have a great daughter and will now have a wonderful niece who will look up to your daughter as your sister looks up to you.

I understand your desire to have a unique name for your new baby. In fact, you little one is very unique with her own special personality and talents that you are soon to discover. Think about this perspective though...having 4 children of my own I have come to realize that children (like us adults) need to feel like they belong. I think the greatest way our children can feel a sense of security and belonging is within the family. It might be a neat experience for you daughter to have names somewhat similar to her extended family. It might promote a feeling of closeness. Have a great day!

when i found out we were pregnant with my oldest son, we picked out robert james for a boy and hannah marie for a girl. a couple months after i found out i was pregnant, my husband's sister found out she was pregnant. she informed us that her son would be zachary james and if it was a girl it would be hannah helen(after both of her grandmothers). i was so mad cause we already picked out hannah. i told her and she said i had no right to use her grandmother's name for my child, funny thing was my hubby forgot that was his grandmother's name. well, i ended up having a girl before her and named her hannah marie and she is not happy about it, but said she would have to pick another name now, not my problem. don't let it bother you though, cause if you do it will cause disharmony and your kids won't get that close family bond that is so good for them. we haven't let it bother us and when i do speak to her everything is fine.

When I was growing up I had always said If I had a boy I was gonna name him austin dean seth michael. my sister in law became prego. and they talked about all kinds of names for the little boy she went off and named him austin dean . her friend ended up pergo she told her to name him seth micheal she named him seth william. so I know how you feel. shes my ex sister in law now but we still get along but im still really hurt by this because i ended up having 2 boys.

when my sister got pregnant with her second daughter, she waited til the last minute to announce the baby's name: Jasmine Marie. I was upset for a bit cause I'd made it clear for several years that I wanted to have a girl & name her Jasmine Leone. it took me several months to get over that one but then when her daughter was 6 mos I got preg. with my son & named him Brody. 6 mos later she got preg. with her son & named him Cody. that really got me but now that I've had the kids for several years then Jasmine's name just seems to fit her. I still call Cody 'Peanut' to make it less confusing but I just moved on, figured life's too short to waste family gatherings fighting over names.

This has happened to me. I spent some time upset about it, but then realized it is an honor. Your child will be Zara no matter how close anyone else in the family comes to the name of your baby. They like the name you picked, or they would not be coming close to it - Just look at it that way. Plus, you have way too much to be excited and thankful for than to be upset about something like this.

Some famous person once said "Imitation in the most sincere form of flatery". I would not be upset about it. Lots of families end up with nicknames or abbreviations to be sure they call everyone a distinct name and they are all distinct names. It is not like they are going to be Z.L. #1 and Z.L #2 for the girls.
It is customary in Jewish families to name a child after a deceased relative who lived a long (and hopefully healthy) life. I have cousins named Alan, Alvin and Alex, all names for their late grandfather Al. Alan and Alvin are only a few months apart in age. Alex is several years younger. As adults, they are all called Al at some point in their life, but not by those who know them best.
Enjoy your baby girl!

There are more important things to worry about i don't see what the problem is?? Im confused??

J., All of the names are beautiful and everyone is different from the others. The only similarity is that they begin with the letter Z and that is unusual. What is there to be upset about? Afterall everyone has the right to choose the name for their child that they want,even if it was the SAME name as you have chosen. Be happy that you have a new baby,what a blessing! And be happy that you have a sister that looks up to you so much that she wants to be like you. It is said that imitation is the purest and highest form of compliment. Besides I think that sounds really cute "Zara and Zoey" . They will no doubt be playmates and grow up together and be great friends. How wonderful is that? Have a lovely day J. and enjoy the babies while you can,they do not stay little for very long! L.

My son's middle name and my sister's son's middle name are the same. They are our maiden name. I was upset when she named her son that and basically told her before she named him that I would not be happy about it. But, I guess I have gotten over it. My son was born 5 years before hers and she has actually gone back to her maiden name so her son has the same middle name as her last name. I would bring up to your sister how it might upset you and maybe you can settle it before the baby is born. But, it's her choice so you might just have to accept it like I did:)P.S. My sister has always done things to imitate/copy me. She would buy the same jeans, the same makeup, the whole deal. We were not raised together but are more alike than sisters who I WAS raised with.

we have a close set of names in ours -- and the boys (who are cousins) were born only 5 days apart...

one is Camron Michael and the other is Caleb Michael

Then we have ANOTHER problem name... but it is a problem for another reason -- our oldest shares a name with a "new" person in our family... one that was planned 7 years ago but her daddy was married to a different woman - so our daughter has to share a very similar name (including her last name) with an illegitimate child. At least once they are both married - the problem could be half over. LOL

Your sister must look up to you. If she wants to do everything you do (or even almost everything you do). She must think you have fabulous taste. Since your daughter was already born and you already gave the name Lyn to her, everyone will know you were first and she's the copy-cat. Take it as an honor though. And remember...it's hard to pick a middle name. Don't be too hard on her. It's a compliment to you, even if for some reason she has an alterier motive. She must like your taste... YOU'RE A ROLE MODEL!

I wouldn't 'sweat the small stuff'. Instead I would consider it a compliment and focus more on building a peaceful family bond which will be to your childrens benefit now and when they are older. They'll probably think it's cool that they all have similar names, maybe even strengthen their bonds...who knows!

Almost 6 years ago myself, 2 of my good friends, my cousin, and my neighbor were all pregnant. Well, my daughter was named from day one. I picked a unisex name of Dallas. My cousin named her's Austin, my one friend named her boy Dellas, my other friend really liked Houston and my neighbor named her little boy Arlington. Those are all cities in Texas except Dellas (she had a boy and thought Dallas sounded too female). I love the fact that all of us are still close and all of us had kids in 2002. Live it up. It is a great idea to have One Big birthday for all of our kids each year too. :)

I would be honored that she choose a name similar to my child. In my family names are similar but that is how we do it. We are proud of names and we love our names. I would be proud. If not you may feel resitment towards a child that had no control. Let it go. Its not that serious

it would kind of irritate me, i like have different names for my kids. but also, you might think of it that she really likes your choices. some people don't have minds of there own.

Hi J., I think your name problem is not really a problem...I mean if she was using the same first name that would be wrong, but the middle name is not that big of a deal. Well, not unless you are calling her by her middle name, I guess!

In my family it is a sort of tradition to use the middle name 'Lee'. My mom's is Lee and my brother's, then my sister has a boy with the same middle name, and both of my brother's have sons that have 'Lee' for a middle name and I have a son with the middle name of 'Lee' too! And it has continued into the next generation too, my nephew just had a baby boy and his middle name is 'Lee'...so, I myself think it's kind of cool! Just my opinion...have a great day! :) D. R.

If you really feel strongly about it, bring up the fact how confusing it will be for the adults to remember. We have a Lily and a Lucy. It is so confusing! I always say the wrong name even if I think about it first.
If you can get past it, it would probably be best for your relationship with your sister. As long as you know that your kids are loved and well-raised, their names don't matter so much. When you are old and gray, you will be sitting back with your sister telling her how mad you were when she first suggested a name just like yours, but that now you see that she just wanted to be like you..... and you will both be laughing the whole time.
I hope this helps!
S.

HONEY there's a saying, "Don't sweat the small stuff". They also say that kind of thing is a form of flattery- but who needs flattery? does it help if i like the name you chose best? ;) is this coincidence or had they heard you choice of names before coming up with theirs? i certainly would not question synchronicity and if they got the ideas from you well then i guess yer a trend-setter. Walk on the sunny side of the street...and if these are people you are going to spend much time with over the next several years you'd do well to set a tone of tolerance and equanimity- Each child is special uniquely regardless of how uncommon or not so their name is-yes? you could also maybe end up with a nickname and if they follow your example on that too, then you see that you are an example to them and you should keep yourself a good example and try to be as you would want someone that you might model yourself after to be towards you. A name has meaning and it is not lessened by someone else having it. You chose a name you love and they could not help but choose the names that they love. Nothing is spoilt. Now if ya really feel the need to be your own person or for someone else to be, you might try to say so- remeber to use the tone you would want to be told the same thing with. And if someone is Trying to bother you, letting yourself BE bothered will Only perpetuate the duration of this occurring. Life gets full with little ones and you will need the space to not fret over such things - these kind of mental frettings will ruin one's peace and life is MUCH more difficult when we can't find our peace- MUCHMORE and SO unnecessarily so! let it slide and if these kind of things do not slide, then try not to spend too very much time with people who work on you that way. and sometimes we simply cannot escape our circumstanes and simply must endure for sometimes years a thing that simply will not relent until then- some times in life we go through periods that are short and periods that are long and there is Nothing one can do but to endure what will be as best they can because nothing will change it but time...do what you can and what you cannot change or make better or effect...That you must offer to the divine or to the world to do with it as it will in it's time and REAlize it is not under you control not heedful of your wishes or drothers. Sometimes the situation is going to be 'good' and sometimes it is going to be 'bad' and nothing you do will change it so you have Only to endure as long as it does. ;)
My grandma always said, "This too shall pass." So do not keep yourself from your gladness over things that will be that will be. This is the beginning of the world that is 'not all about you' and even when it Should be it is sometimes not. That was Hard for me. But this life is not all fun and games and candy canes we are here to learn! some things too. flow with it all, honey. to swim to float or to sink? to yourself sometimes wink and try not to only thinkthinkthink. The mind will turn round on itself but the heart can discern where the mind can only turn. If you'd be a ClassyLassy 'tis better to be a MessyBessy than to be a PettyBetty. Try to stay kind in your mind. an unkind and ungenerous mind is far apart from it's loving heart.
just smile and be glad concentrate your attention and energies on your little family and not on the million trifles that might occupy your heart and mind if you allow them.
double peaceandlove