Concerns About Ex Mil's House

Hi R.,

Don't you just hate bugs!! Here is what I do. Get yourself some Skin-So-Soft from Avon, it repels mosquitos and other bugs, smells nice and is non-greasy. That will help with that little problem. As for the mold, remember, our ancestors lived in old houses, in the woods for generations and they were all ok.

Pray over your children, asking God to keep them safe. This should bring you some peace about the visits.

Stay connected to the rest of us Moms and keep on believing!You are in my prayers for safety for your family and for the restoration of your marriage.

W.

Hey, good thing you have a good relationship with the ex mother in law. One thing you might do is offer to help her get the place cleaned up. You might say, "I know how difficult it is to clean up after a household full of people, and I'd like to offer to help." As far as the A/C goes, offer to buy her one, it does get awfully hot in the summer these days. And the mosquitos are a real concern. Those girls are too young to fend off the diseases that mosquitos carry. Bring over some "Bug Stop" and spray the exterior of the building. I live on a swampy lake and that stuff stops mosquitos dead. These are all just suggestions. The real point is, if you're going to bring up a problem, be prepared to offer a solution as well. That usually stops conflict before it can even start. Good luck.

Hello R., I feel your concerns dealing with the ex mother in law, but i feel like this. Sit down and talk to her about your concerns with the mold and mosquito bites and if you can find some articles on google and show them to her and let her see how dangerous for your girls and not only them but her as well.That way she will see that you care about her health as well and she will work things out with you. She might even trying to buy a window unit air condition and start spraying before your girls come over, or suggest these things to her. Also my suggestion to you concerning going back to school on line is a wait of time, i tried it and it take more than you think and it cost money but i did instead with got started in a home base business and working it from home and making great money. If you want more details please feel free to call me ###-###-#### anytime. P. C.

Hi R.,

I wouldn't worry about the mold unless you've seen something that leads you to believe there is some. There are lots of people without central air and the lack of it doesn't mean they have mold.

As for the mosquito bites, I would send some spray with them and ask your ex to use it on the girls. Do they respond badly to the bites? I have one son that you would never know has been bitten and one who swells up in big red welts that last for weeks. The girls aren't your ex-MIL's responsibility, their father is there. You may also want to talk to your ex about your concerns about the dirty house. If he's there every weekend, he should be helping out or working out a way to get someone there to help. It's his mother and he should want better for her.

Good luck!

For starters, I'd say a lttle bit of dirt never hurt anyone ... when we were younger we used to get filthy and my um wasn't a housekeeper either. We survived, and grew up with actually LESS health probs, I guess we built up immunities to it. Likewise we had no ac back in those days either. Now if you have reason to worry about mold, that could be a problem. I'm assuming she uses fans though. You can get like charcoal packages that absorb the damp and cut down on mold, I wonder if you could sort of broach that with your ex MIL, just as a worry, and give her some to place in each room while the girls are there?

As for the mosquitoes, that's another story, as they can carry quite a few nasty diseases, so I'd get a good no-DEET bug spray for your girls (or a sunscreen lotion that contains an anti-bug component) and just ask her to make sure and put it on them when they go outside. Does she have screens in her windows? If not, maybe you could ask your ex to do his mother a favor and put some in, I'm sure neither of them wants to see the girls bitten.

Sounds like you are making things work between the 3 of you, so I honestly think she'll respond ok to your concerns. And if you really are worried about hurting her feelings, just blame it on being a first time mom and maybe being overprotective of Kat and Kayla. You may end up with her giving you more advice but she'd feel needed and it would make your other requests seem less threatening.

Good luck!

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Take care

R.:)

First off, don't be so judgmental about her having no AC. Since my husband & I are only in the area for a couple years, we decided to rent instead of buy. The house we're renting is a really old, early 40's home. It's huge & we love it, BUT there's no AC. So, we have window units. We don't have any problems with Mold or anything else for that matter on our things, because we don't have central air! \

As far as the mosquitos, I have found that when my girls go visit their biological father...I have to provide everything that I know he wouldn't think of......sunscreen, bug spray, tylenol, etc....! & I always ask him to make sure that the girls use these things. I would hope that if you explained to either one of them (your ex or exMIL) that they would understand your concern about your girls being bit by all the bugs.

Good Luck!

I agree that you should address this through your ex. And he should definitely be helping his mom out with the cleaning if he's there every weekend. Of course, some men always expect their moms to take care of them - no matter how old they are! My hubby is great at home and does most of the housework and cooking (he's a SAHD). But he doesn't lift a finger at his mom's house unless she specifically asks him to move something or change her air filters or something.

As for the mosquitos - you could also send some of those outdoor candles that repel mosquitos.

Good luck!