Curiosity: How often does your spouse go out with his friends? When you are out without each other how late do you come home? How often do you go out without the kids?
Currently I arrange to go out with my husband for date night at least once a month and just my girlfriends once a month but always after 830 so the kids are in bed and am home by NLT 1 because I know the kids will be up in the morning by 6.
We have a date night for us once ever two weeks.
Hubby goes out on his own about once a month, if that, and is usually out no later than midnight.
I have date nights with the girls about once a month as well. I will usually go right after work and be home before bedtime, but occasionally there will be a night where I don't get home until midnight or so.
My DH does not go out with his friends.
We go out on average once a month maybe more if there's a movie we want to see.
I've gone out with just me and my girlfriend once , we drove 3 hrs to go to a josh groban concert .
We get together with another couple sometimes hang out us and our kids and them and their kids.
Jer goes out once a month with a couple guys from work. They'll have drinks and talk about stuff that totally doesn't interest me. (mostly work/politics). I go to Bible study and afterwards have lunch or coffee or something during the day once a week, so I don't really go out with the girls. OR they have children too and we'll have playdates but not really going out like we used to. One of my friends and I keep saying "Oh, we should go eat at __ and get a drink", but we haven't actually pulled the trigger and set a date.
We go out every other week (either a Thursday night, a day date on Saturday, OR a Saturday night date). It's IMPORTANT. On the weekend that we're not on a date, we're doing something "family". We don't really come home late. One of our babysitters is a good friend, but single, and she was harping on us to not come home so early, to stay out, blah blah blah. (Before married/kids we'd stay out til 8am, have breakfast out, and THEN come home, but that is just so not what we're interested in anymore). I just kinda took her aside one night and said "Chica, we're married. If it's going WELL, we're going home early". She bust out laughing and left, and she hasn't bothered us about that again.
We usually leave sometime around 5:30 or 6pm, and come home around 11 or 11:30pm on a normal night, but up to 1am if it's an event we're going to (a Christmas party, or a few weeks ago we went to a charity event that was dinner, a band, a lot of schmoozing, and later swing dancing, so we were out until 1 that night). I have the boys' dinner ready (or they can occasionally order pizza), they're very easy with bedtime...but they do get up at 6am whether I like it or not......so yeah. We don't stay out late. And we always continue our date when we're home. We are more interested in social stuff early, but as time goes on, we want to be alone. That's just how we both work.
When we have the kids (long visitation) we have a couple who we swap with to babysit. They watch our kids one night and then in a week or two we watch theirs. It's worked out perfectly. Pick up is around 10 a.m. the next morning and everyone has fun.
We go out as a couple once or twice a month.
My husband's time with his buddies is usually on the golf course, though he does play poker once a month. He's home from that between 10 and 11 PM.
Time out with my sister/girlfriends varies widely, but generally we do something once a month. Sometimes we do lunch or dinner and a movie so I'm not out late for that. Every now and then we go to a show or a concert so of course then I don't get home until around midnight. And about once every year or two we do a girl's weekend/mini vacation! My husband goes on an annual golf trip so he gets his "time off" too :)
DH goes out with his friends about once every three months. He used to go out twice a week. Mama put a stop to that once we had the baby. He also is a member of a golf league where he is gone every Tuesday until about 8:30pm from March to September.
I go out with my friends about once a year. DH hates it when I go, so I come home early to appease him. I always leave after 8:30 so the kids are sleeping and I am usually home no later than midnight, usually before.
My husband goes out with his friends once a week and so do I. We come home when we're ready to come home but he's usually home by 8pm and I'm usually home by 9 or 10. If I'm out on a weekend night with my girlfriends I might not come home till 3am. We have a date night as often as we can find a free babysitter which isn't very often. We don't schedule our friend time or date night around getting the kids to bed. We go when we want.
