K.S.
Ok so I have no experience with this or know anyone who has so this is just my opinion. I think you owe it to yourself not anyone else to have some alone time. I think you should find yourself again and be happy with that before you pursue another relationship. Also this is going to be hard on the kids so I would suggest getting them into counseling especially with the distance and counseling for yourself is not always a bad thing as well. I totally understand how this man probably makes you feel and you are not a bad person because of that. However I would wait until you are legally separated from your husband before you see this man again. I would also contact an attorney to make sure you take all he right steps to make sure having this person in your life will not hurt your divorce. Remember when you find yourself, everything else will fall into place - kids will be happy and so will any relationships you start. If he is willing to follow your rules then tell him you want a relationship with yourself first! I think you owe it to yourself and your kids to have some time without a man in your life. Good Luck as I am sure this year will be difficult!