Dating with a 5 Month Old....

Just get out and do the things you enjoy doing. You will meet people and you already have at least one thing in common. I love theater, and met my husband at a community theater audition. I was looking for a role in a play, not a date, but he came over and introduced himself, we went out for coffee, and the rest is history.

I agree with Suzhi, Just continue to do what you normally do with friends and family. You'll find each other. I actually met my husband at work.

There's not really any good place to go to look for that special someone, you kinda just have to quit looking and he will come into your life when you least expect it. For your free time i would just hang with friends and family.

I sort of agree with the bar thing but i met my husbandat a bar. I wentout with friends and started talkingto this guy, he gave me his number and i threw it away because I didn't date guys i met at a bar. Well the next day i was driving intotownandmy car brokedown. I went to the nearest house to use the phone and it was the guy from the bar! We spent the entire day fixing my car! Now 5 years later we have 2 kids together 1 each with ex spouses. I was living at my parents at the time, turns out i graduated H.S. w his sister and grew up 1 mile out the road from him and never even knew him. He is 5 years older so we didn't hang out w the same people and i knew his sister but didn't hang out w her. So you never know i guess. I don't advise trying to meet men at bars though. Maybe join a gym?

P.S. I was not looking for anyone when i met him, was just enjoying my single life and my daughter.

Do your own thing and "he" will come to you when the time is right. Enjoy time with your friends or even a quiet meal out alone. Don't go out actively looking for someone because chances are you'll only get discouraged or end up with some douchebag just looking for a good time. Just be patient and when the time is right, the right guy will find you, I promise. Don't be afraid to talk to guys in a bar. They're not all bad. My husband (though I didn't meet him in a bar) used to go to the neighborhood bar nearly every night after work. Why? Because his 1600 SF house was lonely and only brought him down. He had his dinner at the bar with the other "bar flies," sometimes played cards, and had a couple of beers, then went home and went to bed. He couldn't stand being in the big empty house all the time by himself.

My advice:
Meet with friends, and go out to places where you usually go, restaurant, movies, mall, and don't try to pick someone up, it'll come to you.

I met my current husband, after an awful wreck of a relationship @ a shopping mall, he kinda ran over me in the parking lot (totally not as bad as it sounds, but not recommended JAJAJA)

Good Luck!!

I just want to caution you about meeting guys at church. some of them are there because they have major problems that they think god can straighten out for them...example: my best bud met a guy there that she thought hung the moon. they went out for a year, he proposed, then she found out that he was really gay and was hoping that god would "fix" him and he wouldnt want to be with men anymore...he also gave her herpes...just because they go to church doesnt mean they arent rats...

I met my fiance at church and it's been great . . . not that every guy at church is great. My ex-husband's faith was worse than I thought, by the end he said he did't believe in God, so it was important to me to find someone with the same beliefs. I would suggest seeing if there's a singles group/young adult group that you can get involved in and meet people.

Friends are always a good place to start. I met my husband through a friend. I don't think that many people can share the same story, but here is mine, hehe: I met my husband at Burger King, haha. My friend worked there and they were co-workers. Of course, we were only 17 at the time when we met, but still fun to know that "you can have it your way" haha (get it... from Burger Kings ad. haha).

Good luck!

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Try an online site... I know, I know... they seem impersonal and cheesy, but that's how I met my husband! I wasn't into the bar scene and lived in a college town during my early professional years... so it was either a college kid or a professor (neither of which was particularly appealing). I went on a couple of bad dates, but also on a couple of good ones and one stuck! Give it a try-

Walking, running, dog park, grocery store, library, join a website for your car, drive a Volkswagon, BMW, Chevy, etc, car enthusiasts sites are very interesting. And hey, what's wrong with goin' out for a few with your GFs or sister or coworkers and peekin' around?

btw, Congrats on the bouncing baby boy, and kudos gettin' through it yourself!

bars are generally a bad idea but that is where i met my other half. most relationships in bars fail. I also started church a good place to meet people and martial arts. do anything that gets you out of the house in a group of people. I tried match.com and wasn't happy with it a waste of money in my opinion. but it was fun checking the guys out. as a single mom for 7 yrs a couople of advice tips never bring someone home to meet your kid for at least 6 months most relationships fail in the first 6 months. my son was older got his hopes up for a step dad and got let down. it was harder on him than me.

dont expect most relationships to make it longer than 6 months it takes 3 months for their true colors to come out. and generally when their true colors show its blinding. they get comfortable with you and generally if they are controlling it shows about 3 months. if they cant accept you for who you are move on don't change for them. also I highly advise reading men are from mars women are from venus. before dating. it has helped me alot to be more patient with men. and dont let the babies daddy get into your buisness. you dont owe him any explanitions on your personal life. he is an ex and you may have to remind him of that.

hey now...I met my husband in a bar!

By doing what you love.

Young lady you have a "5 month old baby" -- this is certainly not the time you should be thinking of entering into another relationship.

It is a special bond time that you as a young, single mother should take full advantage of. A time between you and your "very young infant son" -- and not time to attempt to make your baby's daddy jealous -- This is not the answer if indeed this is what is going on.

Yes, this is grow up time and maturity needs to step in.

Pray for a suitable mate as your son grows older -- perhaps pre-school would be appropriate to start a relationship, but, be cautious.

Mrs. Modest

Spend your adult time doing things that interest you and you will find other people who share your interests including quality men. Like reading? Join a book club, hang out at the local Borders or go to author readings. Like gardening? Look into a master gardeners program. Like animals? Volunteer at the local dog park or just go there with your furry companion. I am a newly single mom and have dated three men - all of whom I know one way or another through my work which I am fortunate to say is a sincere interest. I work on issues related to social justice and so, the people I meet are like-minded, and community and service oriented. Most are smart, politically active, have a wide range of life experiences and are fun. I haven't met Mr. Right, but I'm not looking for Mr. Right right now - just some good companionship.

I'm really old school most would probably say, but it has a lot to do with my upbringing I suppose. I've always felt that the man should "find" you. I really believe the Word of God when it says: "whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord." As I got older, I realized how important and real that scripture was, especially when I saw my girlfriends getting married. They got wrapped up in their relationship with the Lord, and it wasn't long before their beau found them. That didn't mean they secluded themselves so much until he wasn't able to notice them, but they prayed and left it in the hand of God. They were strong in their faith with God and I know this is the reason they ended up with the husbands they have now. So I had examples before me. As a young single lady, I wrapped myself up in the Lord...I prayed about marriage, but left it in His hands. I went on with life, helping in the community, got involved with young people, and didn't know my husband to be was sitting right their in the church with me. I saw him week in and week out for 5 years, never thought he would be my husband. He was faithful to God and so was I, and yes...when he prayed about a wife, God presented me to him at the appointed time. I was glad I got the opportunity to get to know me, to find out who I was and who God wanted me to be, because apparently something appealed to this man many years later. He knew I had matured over the years, and I really believe that when he saw me, he saw how devoted, faithful, and loyal I was to my faith, and that's what caused him to even notice me. So I say...there's so much more to find.....but if you put your faith and trust in God, and give him your all completely, he will send that one that's looking for you. I won't put a time limit on what only God has the answers to, but I will say be prayerful and patient. Right now your new born will need a lot of your attention and love which I'm sure you will give him, and I know that being alone is not an easy feeling, but rest assured if you put it in the hands of God, and trust Him, He will help you to see so much more about your situation and give you direction on what you should do. The last thing your precious son needs is someone in mommy's life that wasn't meant to be. It could be a bad experience for you and your baby. So I say just turn it over to the one that know what's best for both of you and I pray all goes well with you and your new bundle of joy!

God Bless
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The gym, an online dating site, go running,