Daycare Adjustment

Hi L.,

I saw your written update on why your daughter was screaming! I am so sorry to hear that. I am currently looking for a daycare myself and it would be great if I knew which places to avoid. what was the name of that daycare? Also, did you find a better one? If I hear any recommendations I'll make sure to post them.

S.

How long is she at daycare during the day? Did you go straight to full day, every day daycare? Does your daycare offer hourly care? Perhaps you could just take her for a few hours a day, at least until she gets used to it.

I'm sure she will get used to it. We put my daughter in daycare when she was about 3 months old. Just recently when she was 15 months old, she moved up to a toddler room with new caregivers. For the first few days she would get upset when I left, but now she doesn't get upset as much. She's gotten to know everyone in that room and is ok with it.

Also, all kids get upset about going to daycare whether they've been going since they were an infant or when they are older. They will get used to it and realize that you are coming back for them!

Aww, poor thing! I would think that she will eventually get used to daycare, but I'm sure it stresses you out in the meantime worrying about her. I'm a childcare provider and I watched a little boy that was the same way. It took about 3 weeks for him to come around, but eventually he seemed to like it. I agree with someone else, maybe you could find someone to watch Maigan in your home. Is she going to a home daycare or a public daycare? Hope you find a good solution!

Hey L., I think the others had good advice!! Can you maybe only take her for a few hours a day but at first stay with her maybe for an hour to see if she will calm down! Other then that or just letting her cry until she gets use to it, which she will really but do you have any family that you might could pay a litte something to just watch her a few hours a day or maybe find a private daycare in someones home! I wish I could help you more. I use to run a daycare in my home and the ones that did cry always stopped within a minute after Mom left to maybe 5 minutes at the most...I promise but if she screamed the whole time (how long was it) and didn't eat or drink well that isn't good and I can't understand why someone there couldn't love her enough to console her...that bothers me!! I would stay there with her for awhile before I left her again to see why no one could or would console and love on her!!!! Good Luck..............D.

I don't know that this is what you are wanting to hear but When I was small (about 2) My mother had never worked outside our home. She worked nights for a year. My mother kept me during the day and my father had me at night. My mom had a chance to go on days so she took it. I was put in daycare for one week. I did as you daughter is doing. I might have gotten better but my mom pulled me out and went back to nights. Have you thought about having someone come to your home. Maybe you could do your meeting on the same days each week or you might have someone that would be willing to work with you. They could come to your home and keep the children during the time you are working. That way they are at your home and with you but you can still have a professional business. You might have a elder in your church thats grandchildren don't live close. She might enjoy being with your children as much as your children will enjoy being at home. Good luck.

Send something to school with her that reminds her of you. Picture, blanket, flower, shirt, etc. Come by at lunch and eat with her and let her know you haven't forgotten her. Call and ask to speak with her and just remind her you will always pick her up! Hope this helps!

K.