We were regular Disney visitors when our daughter was younger. She is 13 now and I think we might be going back next year for one last hurrah. It is our preference to stay within the monorail line at a deluxe resort. We LOVE the Polynesian. I could stay at that hotel and never even to go a park.
If you have little ones, the Polynesian, Grand Floridian and Contemorary are especially nice because they are on the monorail line. Just walk upstairs and hop on. The Polynesian and Grand Floridian have a boat taxi that runs to and from Magic Kingdom. Very convenient. This is great if you have a napper, forget something in your room, take packages back to your room or just want a break. Your view is Magic Kingdom and you see the nightly fireworks show. Polynesian and Grand Floridian have nice beaches.
You do pay a premium for these hotels but it is worth it to us. We actually stayed in the Concierge area at the Polynesian. Pricey....YES (upwards of $500/room/night), however, they had light foods for breakfast, light mid day snacks/drinks, early afternoon happy hour/light snacks, and later night desserts. GREAT service.
We also bought passes when we checked into the hotel that were good for any park and expired at midnight on the day of checkout. The valets will hold luggage for you after your checkout.
We have always booked about a year in advance. You get a better selection of rooms that way. We fly from DFW to Orlando and take a cab to the hotel. The fare was less than $50. You get a straight shot to and from the hotel without having to share a shuttle, wait around, going to and from other hotels for pickup and dropoff.
Chef Mickey's at the Contemporary is a great buffet place where the characters greet children. The Polynesian has a Character breakfast that is a lot of fun. The Polynesian has a great luau as well as a character luau. We always did the regular luau. When we first went there the luau was very authentic (better than one we attended in Hawaii!!) It is now more commercial. You need to book these events in advance when you book your room.
I made all reservations myself with a Disney rep at the phone number advertised. I made the air travel arrangements as well. My husband is in sales and travels weekly so I am accustomed to managing and dealing with airlines and hotels because I manage all of his travel.
Just pack plenty of patience! Have fun.
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