Do You Have a Best Friend?

I've had best friends off and on. Rough spots usually require time apart for me. Right now, I think my family are my best friends. I don't really have a lot of time for people outside the fam. My 2sils and my 18 yr old daughter are my very best friends. They are the ones I share ups and downs with. The ones I call when I can't wait to tell something or times when I need to vent. The people that I know have my back, no matter what.

My sister is my very bf, but I also have a non-related best friend and we have been bf's for 17 or so years. I met her at a job. We became instant friends. She was even in my wedding. We don't see each other as much as we used to b/c I have little ones and live 30 minutes north of the city. BUT when we do get together it's like we were never apart.
She is 20 years older than me too. Her daughter is my age. It's kinda strange. Her granddaughter is close in age to my oldest son so we still have lots in common with talking about the little ones. I love her dearly and wouldn't be where I am today without her.

I had an amazing best friend until the day she found out I was going to marry my now husband. I tried to include her while I was planning my wedding but when I admitted to her that I was not going to have bridesmaids that's when she really went M.I.A. I've been married now for 10 years, she still has never married and although we can have a very superficial conversation on each others walls on FB, that's where it stops with us. I've never known how to properly adress the situation with her and now I feel like so many years have gone by that is it really worth opening old wounds?

Since being married, we've moved quite a bit so I have a lot of acquaintances but that's about it. Here and there ladies in my church will plan a girls night which I will attend, but outside of those nights, I pretty much hang with my hubby and kids. There are plenty of days I wish I had more close girl friends but my schedule is so "go,go,go" that I feel I'd never have enough time to really nurture a great friendship. It sucks, but maybe this is why I am so fond of Mamapedia, I feel like I have lots of girlfriends to talk to about personal issues even though we've never met:)

I have had my bestie since K. We have had our rough spots thoughout the years, but we are still best friends many years later. When we were in school we looked so much alike that people thought we were twins. :) We don't look so much alike no though. We are actaully haveing a girls day this Friday and I can't wait,

I've got three sisters. We're all very close. I DO have a favorite sister of course, and yes we've had all the things you asked. But we all try to check our egos at the door and enjoy each other for who we are. We are 44 (me), 47, 50, and 54.

As for unrelated friends, I've gone through phases where I had a BFF, but people drift and change, no harm done, and no hard feelings.

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I didn't have a friend at all until after I divorced my husband. When I was married, I was overwhelmed with hubby, stepkids, job, school, house, baby... Then I was in an apartment and I found myself so freakin' lonely I had to reach out and I was lucky enough to find a group of women that I have been friends with now for four years. We get together anywhere from once a week to less than once a month, depending on what's going on. We email and FB often. We have family picnics in the park and go out for girls only drinks. Once a year we go for a weekend at a cabin. We're still all busy with kids, work, school, and stuff, but this group makes an effort to stay friends. I am blessed.

I would say that my husband or my sister is my best friend. I started dating him (husband) my senior year in high school (he's 8 years my elder, so this was a "big" deal back then) and most of my friends kind of fell away. I went to a commuter college and didn't make many/any good friends in college as many do. It makes me sad I don't have a lot of girl friends. I have a couple I still keep in touch with, but I've never really felt super close to them. I guess I have a hard time opening up to people and now I feel like I'm that girl who tries too hard and feel like it's hard to make friends now... oh well! Now I have my son :)

I do have a outside of marriage best friend, she knows that we are best friends. I've been friends with her for almost 30 years, and we are 33 years old. I think with any relationship there were rough spots, but when we were able to accept each others differences, it worked itself out. Our rough spots were minor and nothing worth ending the friendship over.

I did have a friend I met in high school and we were friends for about 15 years, when I had to slowly cut ties. It was made easier when I got married and had my daughter, but it was hard. She just seemed so angry and bitter and would lass out. She didn't like my husband and I couldn't figure out why. We hung out in a circle of 10 girls, and when I asked the other girls to be honest with me, they couldn't figure out why she didn't like him as they loved him. I thought if everyone saw a problem I would re-evalutate my relationship, but since she was the only one, I thought the problem was her. Turns out I was right as she doesn't like anyone elses husband either.

I have a good friend that I have know n for 20 years and yes we still keep in contact.
I had a best friend for like 5 or 6 years. we knew we were each other's bestie's. I got married march before last and the night before i got married her father passed away which she wasn't close to at all and kinda despised. She was very upset so i tried to console her as best i could that night ( we slept in the same bed) the next morning she had to go tell her little sister. Itried to be there the best way i could for her. Unbeknownst to me, she had replaced me soon after with 2 friends that she could "help" and who drink heavily. (I am sober.) When I found out I tried to be cordial with these other 2 and everything came to a head last october. Some stuff with the rangers and the world series and my sister. She went off on my family and said that my family was all a bunch of haters and I went off on her. we hugged it out a couple of weeks later but was never the same. I had a miscarriage earlier this year and only family knew. I announced on facebook that I was pregnant a second time last month. the dr told us it was ok to say something to everyone since I was 13 1/2 weeks. just so happened it was the night before her 30th birthday. She has been trying to get pregnant for a while but she is having a hard time. so when I announced it she actually got so pissed off that she unfriended me, my entire family including cousins, and any common friends. I have been really messed over it for a while since I only have 1-2 really close / best friends at any given time. They say it is like breaking up or getting a divorce and it has been really hard.

I have several other than my husband, all from various stages of my life.

My best friend from 2nd grade is still a friend (we're now 41), though we've gradually grown apart over the last 6 or 7 years. We rarely see each other or talk. We had dinner tonight with our children though, and it was just like old times.

My best friend from college is still a best friend. We talk on the phone weekly, but don't see each other as often as we would like to. She lives 30 minutes away right now, but is moving out of state for a job promotion soon. We'll stay close through phone calls and visits.

I also have a best friend from a teaching job about 15 years ago. She's my go-to source for all mom questions. Our parenting styles are identical, and we are such close friends. She lives about an hour away, and we talk often and see each other every couple of months - more in the summer.

My last best friend to mention is from another teaching job about 11 years ago. She and I became close over the past 10 years, but she moved to Maine last summer. I'm in Texas. We're still close, and visit often, but I miss her. We don't talk nearly as often as we used to.

I have a new friend that is the mom of one of my son's friends that I am enjoying spending time with lately, and I'm hoping we will become close friends as well. Especially since all of my friends seem to be moving away! :)

My best friend is my hubby - but I have 2 girlfriends that I LOVE ~ we don't get to talk as much as we would like because we are all busy with out own lifes, but when we talk, we pick up where we left off, no one is upset because you didn't talk to them for a couple weeks/months, etc....and we understand that no matter what we still love each other.....we go through phases where we talk/see each other more often then we get busy again....

I have different best friends. One from College, 2 from High School and my business partner.

I can call on any one of them and it is like we just got off the phone. We do not judge each other, but we do speak the truth. My best friend that is my business partner, just found out she has cancer. She is is in a ton of pain. This is new to both of us, so we are just taking it one day at a time. Tonight my family will be taking dinner to her and her father and husband. Yesterday was her 48th birthday and she was just not up for it. Tomorrow I will go over, wash her dishes, mop her floors an d clean her bathroom. I researched her cancer and I am terrified for her. I do not want to frighten her, so I am just going to do whatever is necessary to keep her strong, happy and with the least amount of pain as possible

My best friends from high school, 1 is a guy (been friends since 8th grade) the other is a woman (friends since jr. year in high school), we are throwing ourselves a huge glamorous 50th Birthday party this weekend. It is funny because we gave each other surprise 16th birthday parties back in high school. We are part of a lunch bunch that meets up once a month for lunch. We have been through so much together.

My BF from college is in another state, I have not seen her in person in 3 years, before that it had been 12 years! But we email and talk on the phone. I was with her when her mother died very unexpectedly decades ago, we are now older than her mother was, when SHE died.. She also went through infertility, miscarriages, and a husband who was raised very differently from us, so I hear a lot of grumbles. She is super smart and very strong..

Through all of this, we can have some disagreements, but we admit our mistakes and move on. I have to have them in my life. They keep me grounded and , I would do anything to help them.

My best friends have changed over the years. High school & college I had two best friends that now I would just call friends since we hardly keep in touch.

Now I have 4 best friends (3 female, 1 male). These are people I can tell anything to, without judgment, good or bad and they will love me no matter what. Honestly I can not tell my hubby everything without fear of being judged (most of that stuffed happened before I even knew him but I would be judged upon it now if I told him).

These 4 best friends:

All 4 know that they are my best friend. 2 of them consider me their best friend, the other one has another best best friend (not even one of us 4 girls night girls), the last one she is going through a lot of life changes so her friendships are ever changing right now. Hands down they will be my best friend even if they do not consider me a their best friend.

The 3 females; I knew one since college but we were not really friends college just knew each other, she has been my friend for 5 years and best friend for 4 years and counting. The other two friends for 4 years, best friend for 3 years and counting. The male friend, he has been my long friendship, known him for 12 years now, best friends for 10 years.

The 3 females, we have had disagreements over who each other is dating/marring but in the end we are there for each other no matter what. These 3 relationships seem to be the easiest for me. The 1 male who has been my longest standing friend we have had our ups and downs and seems the hardest relationship/best friend relationship to balance... but I will always be there for him and I know he will always be there for me.

Rough spots, it really depends. We would state our opinion, take it or leave it but we always respected each other so much that we never let anything break our friendship up. Sometimes we would need a week to cool off but always came back with 'we just care about you so much, sorry for creating trouble' type standpoint and we move on. My male friend is a dye hard atheist, while I am a Christian... we duel it out sometimes but in the end it seems no matter how frustrated or mad we get at each other we still care about each other so much to let it ruin our friendship.

My best friends from high school and college, the main reason we are only friends now and no longer best friends is we have drifted apart. We still e-mail here and there, maybe 2-3 times a year, and on rare occasion we see each other which happens ever 2-3 years.

With the 3 female best friends it would take a lot for us to not be best friends, like moving away and not talking as much. With the 1 male best friend I think we will be best friends till death does us part, we live thousand of miles apart now but still talk weekly and there for each other no matter what.

I have 3 "best friends"... one that is a childhood friend - since kindergarten... even though we hardly see each other (she lives in a different state) she knows me inside and out and we still consider each other "best" friends... one who I have known for 12 years... our friendship has been rocky at times and we have both hurt each other over the years more than once but also love each other more than anyone besides our spouses n kids... and a third who is a more "recent" addition, I have known her for 4 years and our relationship is extremely easy going but at the same time I don't feel as close to her as my BF of 12 years because I feel like there is a lot of her life she chooses not to share with me, despite the fact that she does consider me her "best friend" also.

Interesting questions!
It is weird, but I don't think I have a best friend. I have a few really good friends, one that has been a super good friend for several years. Him and I lived together and were super close for 2-3 years. We have known each other for five years and it was always a good relationship. I would go over to his house when he had a bad breakup and he would always be there for me. We had a rough spot when he had some drinking issues, but I never let him think I was going to leave because he was going through a bad time. I don't see him as much now because I have a family, but he comes and visits and LOVES my baby! We still try and get together a few times a month for lunch and chats and such. =)

i had a best friend from the time i was in 2nd grade. we were bf's until i met my now husband at the age of 24. we had some rough spots because she didn't like me having friends other than her. she didn't like any of my other friends, but she could have all the friends that she wanted. we would not talk for a while and then start talking again, and things would just pick back up. we were complete opposites. well, she was dating a guy for about 7 years when i met my husband. her boyfriend had never even talked about marriage, etc. with her. my husband proposed after 9 months of dating and we got married right after that. she was, i think, jealous. she said some really negative things about my husband, and tried to cause some trouble between us. so i stopped talking to her for a while, because my relationship with my husband was more important. we started talking again after my first child was born, but then she couldn't understand why i couldn't stay on the phone for 2 hours at a time, or why i couldn't just pick up and go somewhere whenever she called and wanted to. so we stopped talking for a while again. then my 2nd child was born and i invited her to the hospital to see him. we talked for a while after that, and i even gave all my baby things to her brother, who had a baby not too long after mine. but i guess we just grew apart because we were having different life experiences, and i didn't want my kids around all the drama and drugs that were floating around her (not her but her boyfriend and brothers). i still love her as my friend, but i think that it's best if we don't hang out,etc.

My best friend is a guy. Kinda weird but he's never back stabbed me like women have and always supports me. I call him "my girl friend" and he HATES it but he really is better than a "girl friend." And no...he's not gay.

We used to have crushes on each other but over time that couldn't be further from the truth. He even called me today to wish me a happy anniversary, my husband forgot until then. OOOPS!

I do. We have been best friends since we were 12. I love her like shes my sister, which she pretty much is. She knows more about me than my sisters do. We havent had any rough patches.