Do You like Women?

You're not the only one like this! I really don't have any girlfriends. Like you, I enjoy my time at home with my husband. We have a large extended family so we have "company" a lot. I don't need or want anything else.

When I go home at night, some times I feel like I've spent a large portion of my day with "girlfriends" just from being on this site. It has provided just enough socialization for me that I really don't feel like I'm missing anything (like I used to).

Thanks for the friendship ladies!

You want to be my best friend... I promise to leave you alone! He He. Just being silly. But yes - I feel like you. I have acquaintances b/c I can't handle all the extra drama that we can create at times.

My true best friend is my husband and I love the time I get to spend with him.

PS I Love 80's movies too

Not all women are snobby catty b*&ches.

I love spending time with my women friends. Real women are awesome people.

You are fine, by fine I mean a lot like me. :)

Or there is something wrong with both of us.

If there's something wrong with you...with should have a little wacko party. (Except not, because obviously we wouldn't actually want to hang out ;)

My husband is my best friend, and I'm VERY happy with that. I have always liked to be around men much more then women.

I like women very much.

In small doses.

At a distance.

But then I've got 3 sisters, and other then my daughter, they're the only women I can stand for more then a half hour.

I like men, though. And that's the problem.

:(

If there's something wrong with you (and Jo), then I'm there too. My closest friends have always been guys. I married one too. That's how much I like 'em. :)

Im the same way, it sounds like fun to me to hang out with lady friends of mine but when it comes down to the day i would just rather hang w hubby and my boys. I had one of my best friends over the other night for martinis something we use to do yrs ago before i had children she was there about three hrs and all i could think about was damn i sure do wish she would leave so i can strip down to my undies and watch netflix ( i was dying to finish seaon 7 of greys anatomy ) lol i like the ladies i work with but not enough to hang w them after work or have play dates w their kids lol..... then again maybe im just lazy haha

Hi J., you are not alone! While I do crave for more than me and movies, I do understand when you say you aren't so up for the competition and conversations about such things that you have no interest in. I think it just means that you are comfortable in your own skin, and you have a good amount of self esteem, since you are not searching for someone to help you out with it!! Good for you, and I hope you get your weekend soon!!!

I have always been a guys girl. I'm a homebody. But as I have gotten older, and live a fairly reclusive sahm life, I find that I like to have a few outings with some other moms around here so as to avoid going crazy from boredom and no social life. I avoid the drama ladies, the ones I know are a lot like me and also are not into the cattiness aspect.

I don't see anything wrong with that. I think I feel that way about my newer friends too but my best girl friends from my teen years I could hang out with a lot more. Maybe they remind me of my youth:).

You are not the only one. I am like this too. I don't look at it like being anti-women friends...I am just introverted, always have been. I NEED alone time or I go crazy!

~Funny...I have never heard anyone refer to that group of actors as the '6 pack'...I believe it is the 'Brat Pack'?!

Totally depends on the women. I have some close friends and I love going out to dinner with them every few months. I would do it more often if our schedules allow. I also enjoy the company of some women I run with and some women I met at storytime at the library. I honestly enjoy talking to these ladies and feel I've been blessed to meet so many women that I enjoy spending time with. On the other hand, I do not enjoy going to monthly leaders meetings for scouts. I find the women involved (not all of them) to be catty and I don't like spending time with them.

I don't like anyone. LOL! I actually like to be with just another friend or two. I hate crowds and going out somewhere that will have a lot of people. Hubby and I even go off hours to see the movies because I don't want to sit next to anyone. =) I have TONS of me time, its so awesome! And I do go out with friends to, but it doesn't rule my life. Just find a good friend you really can be close with and don't worry about the rest. Good luck!

I feel the same as you...when I became a stay at home mom and started getting in some groups for my kids to get to know other kids and found out all about the world of mommies and it was nothing like I expected. Not all...but most I have encountered are worse than toddlers sometimes. It is nice to socialize but when my husband is home I am all about family time! With kids time is so precious...do what makes you happy!!

I have a few close friends that I love to spend time with, but I really love being at home (or out doing things) with my husband and kids.

totally understand - but at first (from your title) I thought you were saying everyone else is a lesbian and you aren't, lol.

I am somewhat the same way. I like a few friends, and we can go out w/o kids and just talk about what's going on in our lives but not in a competitive way, but otherwise, yes, you described me exactly.

I have individual women friends, but not one group who all hang out together. I like spending one on one time with friends, having lunch or coffee and REALLY talking. Not a huge fan of going out with a group of women. Most of my friends don't hang out with each other and I like it that way. I enjoy my friendships and feel that I'm close to a fair number of women because when we spend time together (even if it's only once every few months) we have each others' complete attention. It's just the way I like it, I guess.

I've been very selective in choosing who I spend time with. My friends are quality people, no competing, no cattiness, ok, we do discuss clothes sometimes, but overall, they're intelligent, caring, FUNNY people who I LOVE. And now that I'm going through treatment for breast cancer, I'm finding that I cherish my female friends' support more than ever. I'd be having a pretty tough time right now if it weren't for my friends.

I like SOME women very much. I can not stand a group of women. Once I was in MOPS and we had supportive, loving leaders. It was so wonderful. I even thought about volunteering so I could go back, but my schedule won't allow.

I have a few women friends but for the most part I don't like women as a group.
They tend to be catty, and frivolous.
I've always got along better with guys (from a very young age).
Which works out well since my career is in IT and it has always been somewhat male oriented.
There have been guys as individuals that I can not stand.
I had a female supervisor once who was fired for sexual harassment.
The few girl friends I have are out going strong women who don't fuss a whole lot with their hair and make up.

My girlfriends are down to earth, fun, real people. Maybe you need a better group of friends. Gossipy, catty women get old fast!

Is it that you dislike 'women' or just the dynamic in the group of women convenient to you? Is it the group part or do the individuals just not click for you? Personally, I have loved the gal pal times I have (probably because they're about once every few months). Maybe because most of my friends here are people I know from work or from a religious organization, however I don't encounter a lot of that competitiveness. We have other things to talk about besides clothes (no nails for me), and when we talk kids, it's usually about how they are doing, an activity both kids enjoy, or some problem we are trying to figure out. If my only choice was talking with the gals about fashion or homes, I would definitely feel like you (and I'd have been voted off the island by the group anyway). Anyway, I definitely GET what you mean about wanting that ME time which disappeared with the first baby and a fulltime job. I wonder how things would work if you found some women who shared an activity with you, one of those things you used to do and that disappeared when you had kids too. Just a thought... Kudos for taking the me time and relaxing in the way which works for you.

I do not like women at all. I am very much a girly girl and love being that way but I definitely prefer the company of men (especially my son and my husband!). Ive always been like that though. I thank God I had a boy, because if I had a girl, I dont think I would be able to connect with her very well.

I am so glad you asked this. Recently I've been feeling like I really should put myself out there more w/some of the small groups of women friends I know. And there's 3 women in our neighborhood that walk to our school together. Just yesterday I noticed them walk by and thought 'why am I being such an introvert?' But really that's my comfort zone. I have always been more comfortable with guys. They can say things to me - completely joking - and I think it's hilarious. And it makes for so much fun. For some reason, most guys always 'tease' me with things like 'you better put some makeup on' Ha! Ha! But then they will always say very positive things to me and show complete respect for my intelligence.

For whatever reason, most women end up leaving me out like we're still in high school. I just don't get it. And I've really tried to stop figuring it out.
The most difficult part has been being okay with not having a 'group' of women friends. Sometimes I really wished I did, but it just never seems to work out. Women friends do get catty and sarcastic and make comments about me-some to my face/some not.
I remember on a show I watched where the girl purposely made herself less attractive so the women around her would accept her. She didn't wear any makeup and she didn't do her hair. But she was still pretty without the makeup or hair done and in the end all the other females were envious of her and would not be nice to her. I think that is the biggest difference between women being friends w/guys or other women.

I have one best female friend with whom I chat with daily My husband calls her my wife because we call each other like 5 times a day. Yeah, so I'm married to both a man and a woman!:) In fact, I think she knows more about me than my husband does, go figure. I have groups of women acquaintances that I see here and there. I have a good balance of company, I suppose. I do wish sometimes though that I would have had a group of girlfriends from high school to hang out with now and share our lives like those gals in that movie about the travelling pants. I thought that was an awesome bunch of gals.

I'm not into a lot of "girlie" stuff - I keep my hair short so that I don't have to "do" it - I can rub a towel over my head after my shower and not even comb it and it looks fine. I keep my nails short and they get polished once in a blue moon. I work with my hands a lot and polish is a waste of time and effort. I have more in common with most of the men I know than most of the women I know. I'm more comfortable as one of the guys than one of the gals.

Your post made me laugh. Sometimes I feel the same way about our sex. I have about only a handful of good girlfriends, and about twice that in male friends. My weekends are usually spent with my son and husband. That's our time. During the week I will go to coffee or whatever with my friends.

I am not one for competitions, questions, or making comparisons. I hate it, actually. So, I don't think their is anything wrong with you. You sound like a real person, who enjoys the good things in life, and knows what is important. Which is huge!

By the way, St. Elmo's Fire is one of my favorite movies! Go 80's!

I have a couple of good friends that I like spending time with during the week-but certainly not every day. I like to have time with just my kids, or the kids and my hubby. I rarely go out on the weekends with friends, as I prefer to be home with my family.

I find most women to be catty and competitive as well. The women I'm friends with her very similar to me: down to earth, sincere, non-judgmental, and real. I can't be close with anyone who's not that way.

I hear ya on the alone time. I feel like I don't have enough time to just play with my kids so I give up most or all of any alone time I would have. I usually have about 30-60 minutes to watch TV or read before bed. I almost always end up just falling asleep. I always say I would love to go away by myself for a weekend and just watch movies, or read.

I only have 3 female friends and the one that is my best friend is the one that I find the most annoying out of the 3. Don't get me wrong... I love the girl... But some of the things that come out of her mouth.... Geez. Other than that... I enjoy hanging out with my family (And one of my female friends is technically family), my fiance, and my son.

It is not just you! I am very outgoing and friendly with everyone but when school/work is done, I am ready to go home. I had a hard time getting along with groups of girls as a kid and not much has changed. I'm also close to 40 and have finally realized that this is who I am and if other people (moms) have a problem with it, it is their problem. I do Playdates with other moms for my kids' sake, (just because it is my personality doesn't mean it has to be theirs), but if if was up to me, it would just be us hanging out together!

I generally get along with guys better- been that way since high school. BUT, I agree with Tracy M. I now have several female friends and acquaintances that I hang out with (seldom, but it does happen), and we have a good time. We goof off, joke around, NEVER competative, we don't get catty, and most of us don't wear makeup. We've just hung out at someone's house for a "project completion night", go to museums with our kids, or gone camping with just women and kids, watch movies, or shows, have drinks (but not out, at someone's house), eat snacks...

They are down to earth and fun. The type of woman YOU are describing? Not my type, either! ALSO, I always prefer my husband's company:)

You're not alone - I've always preferred hanging out with guys over women. And I'm a big homebody. There's nothing I'd rather be doing than snuggling with my husband on the couch watching movies. But that being said, I don't group ALL women together. I have a few very close friends who I've known forever that are wonderful people, and I don't know what I'd do without them. My best friend & I talk on the phone probably twice a week, text often, & get together once every 2 months or so. LOVE her.

Anyway, your post reminded me of another point that drives me crazy. Why is it that when groups of friends (or neighbors) get together, that all the women are expected to hang out with the women, & the guys with the guys? This drives me nuts. We live in a great neighborhood, and frequently hang out outside so the kids can play together and we like to socialize with the neighbors. But I get along with the guys a lot better, and don't really care for most of the women. But because I'M a woman, I'm expected to hang out with them. The few times I've gone over to the guys' group, I've gotten the cold shoulder from the wives of the guys I was talking to. And even my husband has noticed this phenomenon. He doesn't care who he talks to either, and will frequently hang out in "our" group, but the guys treat him strangely afterward. Why is this socially unacceptable? I hate having to hang out with one group of people just because we're the same sex. I really don't care to be grouped in with "the wives". Does anyone else notice this?

I'm with you on groups of women. But one or two close female friends is a different thing. I love the girl talk and hanging out with someone who's not the hubby and kids (although I love that time too!) Maybe you need to find different women friends who are more like you and avoid the catty-ness, etc. But I agree on the general feel of a large group of women.

To each their own but.....sometimes...even if you don't want to..you need to hang out with other moms. That is how you develop healthy relationships apart from your family. And it is also how you find friends for your kids. Lets face it...if you are friends..they will be friends. Maybe you are not opening yourself up to people who you enjoy. We have many couple friends and with some we laugh like crazy...it is a great escape from the monotomy...... How about your hubby...does he want/have friends to hang with? There are so many great "new" movies out....if a movie is what you crave....watch something new! Those 80s movies get old...I like to learn vs. just be entertained....

Funny - I thought I was the only one! My girlfriends think I'm nuts for wanting to spend time with my family over going out with them. True, I need a break from the kids every now and then but I'd much rather spend my free time with my husband watching TV. About every 6-9 months I'll go out to dinner with a girlfriend and those few hours are enough!

I personally only have a few friends that I would go have a drink with, get my nails done with, have a long lunch with, etc. I've never been the kind of person who enjoys big groups.

I LOVE talking about my son and soon my daughter once she arrives but, I can NOT stand comparisons! All children grow and develop differently. It isn't really a bragging right and I think it is just crazy that another Mom would feel compelled to try to put a "friend" down in a round about way.

Women can be catty, that is why I will share with friends and not aquaintences.

I appreciate the family time more than the "girls" day/ night out however, I do enjoy getting away like you do here and there.

Take care.

Not really...most of my friends are men. My career is mainly men. I always felt women can be backstabbing types. Most women are relatively jealous of my career, looks, college degrees etc.... and this is probably why my sister-in-laws hate me, because my husband's 2nd wife was uneducated like them. I was mostly a tomboy all of my life played sports, so I generally had men for company. Also, my brother and I are close too. So maybe, I understand men more than women. I also hate women sling to their men when I am around which I think they are insecure about me being around their men. My husband and I get along great, because he can talk sports to me and I understand what he is talking about. I don't understand the SAHM either, I guess I am a different type of woman too. I prefer men too, but I like who I am.

I'm with you. I have some awesome women friends, but I definitely need the "me" time. Women can be wonderful and supportive, but they can be very catty, judgmental, and superficial. Many women, unfortunately, also are less interested in friendship and much more interested in their social standing. They have an agenda, and they will only socialize with those people who meet their "high" standards (yeah, right). Take care of yourself, put your feet up, relax, and enjoy your me time with those awesome 80s movies!

I think if you have never had a core group of DECENT girlfriends that you have grown up with or have known for a long time -- before you were a wife and a mom -- it is definitely harder to form serious, genuine bonds with other women later on in life. Maybe we forget how to be good friends vs co-moms, co-wives, co-homeowners etc when we're older or something?? Anyway, you shouldn't feel bad about not having or wanting tons of girlfriends, but at the same time there's no reason to push a potential genuine girlfriend away.

I have a few very close friends some near, some far, that I've known for at least 15 years and who I value immensely. Like sisters. I don't get to see them, even the local ones often enough and it bugs me. Sometimes I just need to hear and blab about everything under the sun and sorry, but guys just don't seem wired to do that in the same way ;) I need that girl time even though I know that having a family means I get it less often. Maybe that's why I cherish it more now. The best part is we are such a mix of ladies -- not all moms/wifes etc so there's always lots of interesting, meaningful things to talk about, not just kids, husbands etc. Like 80's movies/TV shows/music!!! :)

And all in all, like you by choice we're a pretty mellow family with a very mellow social schedule and I LOVE it! I don't need to be out with friends every day... just the much needed occiasional, meaningful visits that keep life interesting.

I was just emailing with one dear friend who's in Chicago and we were whining that we couldn't have a 80's movie marathon together, so I feel your passion about all those silly movies!!!