you are describing my hands. i have had it my whole life. the oozing blisters, that oooze because you cant help but scratch them because the itch is like no itch you ever felt before. water makes it so much worse. if you can keep them dry as much as possible,,,but i know, as a mom, that is impossible,,,every diaper, all the dishes, bathing kids,,,my hands are wet more often than they are dry. i also know stress makes it worse. i so feel for you. i just want to hug you :)
i have had times where each finger is oozing so bad, that i have to wrap each one individually in gauze so that when i sleep, they don't ooze and stick together during the night, because pulling them apart is a nightmare. hurts!!
in all my dr visits, all the creams, all the advise..the best thing i ever found was keeping them dry for 24 hours and using good ol vaseline. they steroids actually used to thin my skin and make it worse. ( the clobex was the worst one for me,,,actually made the cracks bigger and made new ones appear
!!)
you also shouldn't get the steroids on kids,,,especially the strong ones.
Castellani Paint is something that helped me as well. The one I was given was home made, but it was amazing. It is technically for fungus but even though mine was not fungal, i would put on the C.P. then half an hour later, do plain ol vaseline and over night it started to heal. in the morning, the corners of the cracks were visibly closing. still,,,through all that they further from water you can keep them, the faster they will heal.