Ease of Getting Pregnant

My Husband and I tried for two months when we got pregnant with #1, and had to try for 8 long months to get pregnant with #2. I think that the idea is to not stress about it. I know it's hard not too, but it's the best thing you can do.

How many tries have you had? There is a BIG difference between getting pg at 34 (you said you gave birth to your son when you were 35, so I'm figuring you were 34 or just 35 when you got pg) and trying to get pg at 37. There is a lot of fact to the biological clock declining at 35. It actually starts to decline in the 30s, but declines more rapidly at 35 and even more dramatically at 40. What happens is, the body uses up all the good eggs first, so as you age, fewer good eggs are available and fewer eggs overall. So more of the eggs you drop each month are abnormal. When your body detects a chromosomal abnormality, it may reject the embryo very early - so early you may not even know you were pg.

I don't know the particulars of your situation, but if you have been trying for six months or more and haven't gotten pg and you're 35 or older, you should see a reproductive endocrinologist right away.

I went through infertility treatments and ended up having no good eggs left - I was in my 40s when I was trying. I went to donor egg and I couldn't believe the number of women in their mid-30s who were already infertile.

I'm telling you this not to scare you - but to let all women know that all of these women you see in their 40s having babies are using donor eggs. We grew up hearing that at 35 our biological clocks declined - and even more so at 40. That's still true - nothing has changed. Yes, women are having children older, but they're often using donor eggs. It is virtually impossible for a women 44 or older to get pg, and very rare for a woman age 42 or over. When I was trying to get pg, everyone had these stories about how they knew a friend who got pg and she was 42, etc., but what they didn't know is that probably their friend used donor eggs (eggs of a woman in her 20s), but just didn't tell everyone.

Just trying to light a fire under anyone who is nearing 35 and is delaying having children - I wouldn't want anyone to go through what I went through!

You only ovulate a few days every month. These days are generally about 10-14 after your period starts but could be any time. I used Natural Family Planning and knew exactly what day I became pregnant with my last two. You will usually have a clear mucus when you wipe when you are ovulating. Hope this is helpful.

VAF

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I charted my ovulation for about a year before my husband and I conceived the second time around. (He is in the military and we had difficulty getting the timing right.) I finally realized I was stressing about it way too much, so I put my calendar and my test strips away for a couple of months and spent the holidays concentrating on family time. I have heard many stories of a relaxing vacation (maybe with a drink or two) loosening things up and letting the eggs flow.

My doctor also said there's a higher occurrance of low-birthweight babies in children born less than two years after the previous. Just statistics, but thought I'd share.

I got pregnant first try with the first baby, then was sure it would be same with the second. Nope, and I managed to convince myself that there was something wrong and I was going to have a hard time conceiving. I got pregnant during my second cycle. Don't worry, it was just one month, try again and again if necessary, and then talk to your doctor if you still have no luck 3 or 4 months from now.

I can't say that any of my pregnancies were diffucult except that I was with my hubby 3 yrs prior to me getting pregnant without using any form of BC we weren't trying to as a it had to be done but it came when it came my 2nd I did do preconcetion visit he asked me how soon would you like to get pregnant my answer was anytime after I know that i'm healthy & able to conceive he said go on see you soon,LOL I saw him 6 weeks later @ my 1st OB visit he was chuckling that when I wanted to get pregnant there was no stopping me.My 3rd she came unknowingly she wouldn't let it be known that she was growing in my belly I mean I knew after 6 tests that failed 2 weeks late then 2 positives finally a blood and a sono to confirm.The ages of my kids are 3 yrs. then prego with 2nd she was 18 months old with 3rd baby.You'll get pregnant soon I would recommend if you haven't get a prenantal exam get started on prenantal vitamins track your cycles.

With my son it took about 3 months of trying, with my daughter it took 6 months. I understand the disapointment that comes with each period. For my mom, it took her a year of trying to get my brother and then first try she got me. I don't think it has to do with first time vs second time, just nature. Good luck!

Ditto Vicki F.

I am not young... but I got pregnant, naturally. Each time.
I watched my body for ovulation symptoms. That is when you can get pregnant.
I knew my body and 'when' I was ovulating....

Per my OB/GYN... it can take up to 6 months to get pregnant... before he regards it as difficulty with conceiving.

ALSO... take Pre-natal vitamins already. My Doctor, ALWAYS said, to take prenatal vitamins, while trying to conceive and before getting pregnant. It is not only for while being pregnant.

all the best,
Susan

Well I haven't had any problems but my sister did. She got pregnant with her first right away but not with her second. It took 8 months! and she has no idea why. She is young about 28 when she was trying for baby #2 and her hubby was only 31. Her son is now 20 months and she isn't ready for another yet but she wonders if she will have the same problem. Kinda weird but after all that trying finally she just got pregnant without doing anything different. I think sometimes it just happens that way. Try not to worry too much I'm sure you will get pregnant soon. Best of luck.

I could have written your 'question' nine years ago. I easily got pregnant at age 30. Wanted a second so that the kids would be two years apart and it didn't happen. (I am not sure I even got my period back).

The doctors did test to see if I had PCOS (no) and put me on Clomid and told me to test to see when I was ovulating. Five sessions of clomid later and a miscarriage, I became pregnant. The boys are three and a half years apart.

Then six years later, while I was on the pill, I became pregnant with my newest baby at age 40. I did not figure out I was pregnant until 16 1/2 weeks along. I was not expecting to be able to get pregnant, not only because I was on the pill but because I had to use fertility drugs for the second pregnancy. She is now one years old.

So yes, it can be more difficult even though you have been pregnant before. Because of your age, I would go speak with your OBGYN to make sure everything is alright.

Good luck!

I was reading through your other answers and Leslie reported that women who are pregnant in their 40's must have used fertility treatments. Both myself (my mother was 40 and I was unplanned; she put me up for adoption) and my daughter were not products of fertility drugs. Yes, the likelyhood goes down but it can and does happen naturally!

I agree with Val... I think it is just nature. I was the reverse of you, took us 9 months to get pregnant with my first (son) and my daughter was an oops, 1 time (not oops we had her, we just were not trying and just took a 1 time event to become pregnant with her). My third (currently pregnant) was 6 months of talking about it and another 1 timer.

Good luck with your baby making and just remember to enjoy the fun times while making baby :)

M.,

I had a hard time getting prego with #1 (1 1/2 year), had the easiest time getting prego with #2. And we are trying for # 3 now. We have been trying for a year.It is hard. Especally when it seems everyone around you is getting prego. Good luck. I hope that you get pregnant soon!