Embarrassing Info for OB/GYN

Dont worry... they hear so many crazy stories they are immune. It gives them some funny "patient" stories to tell to their friends. I'm sure you will be anonymous. Just another "vagina" monologue :)

why do they need to know what it was, J. tell them ur symptoms and if they do't find anything mention u used a not so clean item

I'm sure they've heard/seen worse ;) As a professional, I'm sure they'll hardly bat an eye, and you're getting yourself all worked up over nothing. It's sooo important to be honest with your OBGYN!! Good luck, and calm down!

Here's the thing-you don't necessarily have to reveal every detail. If you think you might have an infection from a toy/object that's all you really have to say. But you may not have to say anything. Just explain that you have been having pain, whatever your symptoms are and let them go from there. But if it seems you need to offer up more info please know they have heard it all and then some.

Do you have to tell your doctor what you think might have caused the infection? OB/GYNs are good at fixing infections. I don't know if it's really necessary to tell him/her what you used. Even if you did have to reveal it, honestly, I'm sure they've heard everything. Try not to worry. If all else fails, just blame it on your husband and say it was his idea.

Doctors have seen and heard it all... Go and tell your doctor what is going on. Who cares what he thinks? He'll do his job and you can stop being in pain!

guarantee it won't be the strangest thing your doc has heard. Better to be embarrassed than to get an infection. I would get to the doctor ASAP by the way.

Trust me...your OB/GYN has heard worse!!! Take care of yourself and get it checked out:)

No sweat. They are OB/GYNs for a reason. I'm sure it's not the first time they have heard of something like that, and it's not going to be the last. It's important that you divulge information to your doc, because otherwise they can't help. As long as it wasn't a saw or some hedge clippers, I'm sure they've seen worse. :)

Plus everything that has been said before - another piece of mind. Everything that you tell your OB/GYN is completely confidential. He may not take the knowledge to the grave...but he cannot share who it was or which patient.

Just tell him/her that there is possibly an infection and were playing with something that wasn't "clean" and go from there.

Hugs - I feel for you.

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! not at you but with you....! Come clean and tell 'em....that way they can help you! I am sure we've all tried something new at one point or another :)

Dear Anxious,

I don't think you need to divulge the toy came from the tool box or anything remotely close,, not even a sex shop. Just go in and get the possible infection looked at.

I used to assist a GI (Gastro Interologist) doc, and it was down right sad, not just embarrassing what some people do with their orifices. All was handled professionally. No judgement passed. OK, maybe once. But it was not over a tool from a tool box.

Believe us, your doc has seen much, much worse. They will not think poorly of you. If anything, they'll respect you that you respect your own body to have it checked out and taken care of. They will probably want to gently confirm that you were a willing participant. Because sometimes foreplay does get a little rough for some couples.

Hope you feel better soon. Have you tried A&D or Neosporin yet on the area that is painful?

Though your OB/GYN may discuss your issue with someone else they cannot provide your name and it is important that you give them all the information so that you do not get an infection and it lead to something very serious. Be upfront and honest you probably have not done the freakiest thing he or she has heard of and you do not have to explain to them how normal you are. Set your appointment and let them know you are experiencing pain when the nurse comes in and ask what is wrong let them know you are experiencing pain and when your doctor comes in you can reveal the situation that occurred to them but do let them know that you used something during foreplay that you believe may have caused an infection and giving you pain. Don't be too embarrassed your health means more and you are an adult doing adult things.

I had a friend in high school who's mom worked at the E.R. He would tell me about different things that they would have to pull our of people and their xrays that went with it.. Like shampoo bottles. I can't remember the other ones, but the bottle stuck out in my mind. I doubt yours will be the weirdest or funniest. You at least got it out. It may be embarrassing, but it's not the end of the world. You need to tell them so that he can give you the right antibiotic or whatever he feels is necessary.

i was going to suggest writing a note, I think it's just easier sometimes to write it than to speak it outloud.

I would start by just letting the dr know that you are in pain and need to be checked,

Then depending on what they find out and say back to you, you might need to tell them that the object wasn't sanitized. I'm not wording it right but you know what i mean, I think it's important that they know that unless they just right in and say you need an antibiotic.

Is it out now, or do you think they will find it? Because then you wouldn't have to say anything at all.

I am interning/volunteering at a midwifery office while taking the science prerequisites to get into a nursing (and eventually midwifery) program. Let me tell you: you canNOT shock an Ob/Gyn. I mean, by the time they get through their residency, they have seen it all and then some. You also shouldn't have to hide your sense of embarrassment, though. Just tell your OB "I'm so embarrassed I'm practically crying, this was a one-time thing, etc." That will help her give you the reassurance you need. However, you NEED to tell her exactly what that thing was. The best thing would probably be to stick it a bag and put it in the bottom of your purse when you go in. She won't be shocked, she'll respect your privacy, but she may need to submit it for lab testing, for bacteria etc.

I'm surprised that you don't feel comfortable enough with your doc to relay this type of information.....I mean he/she may not even need to know the specifics however I urge you to inform him/her because this could adversely affect the way they decide to "treat/diagnose" you.
As someone else said I'm sure they have seen and heard much worse. There was a show once and I don't know that all the stories are technically true but its called 1001 ways to die and basically its about stupid ways people have actually died. There was a guy that liked to stick things up his bottom bum and had to go to the hospital. While he was in the ER the doc had stepped out. He notices something an object and I cannot remember the object but it was made of glass. He proceeds to insert after just having the ER retrieve something out. During this process the doc walks back into the room scares him and he tries to "hide" the act from the doc by sitting back down on the bed. Well you guessed it it burst inside of him and he dies right there from internal bleeding due to all the cuts....the doc had no clue what was going on until after the fact....so no never ever feel embarrassed about it....it could cost you your life-is that worth it? This story I do not know if its true or not but it certainly could and sure that it probably HAS happened so tell your doc the truth and fess it up. I would even start the conversation with well I have to let you know something that I am VERY embarrassed about that I feel I need to share with you......I'm sure you will be glad you did after the fact......I don't agree with the others advising you not to tell him what the item is....if it were "metal" he may tell you to get a tetanus shot-if you don't tell him "what" it was then he wouldn't think of telling you need one.......just my opinion though.