Yall are going to think I am retarded... but how can anything you post on FB come back and bite you if you have your account set to Friends Only and nothing is set to public?!
I have had friend comment on a picture once that I was a perfect example of what not to post of FB because of future emplyers. The pic was of me, totally sober, totally clothed, sitting on my bed with a beer bottle label stuck to my forehead. I was merely being silly and this friend should have known that and may have.
Thanks CHeryl, I knew that =)
MzKitty - Really? I seriously had no idea that retarded was an actual diagnosis all by its lonesome. Truly I have never heard of it just by itself. I am pretty sure I used the word in compliance with one if it's definitions. I meant no offense to anyone. I DO take offense to your chastising someone on their word choice. It was not a complaint, it was an example. It did not hurt at all, I thought that it was a dumb comment for him to make. I think you missed the point... how can an employer see anything considering my profile is not public? My question was prompted by another one I read earlier today.
Employers can actually ask you that? WOW I had no idea!
ETA.. My kids are ADHD/Bipolar/Possible Aspergers/Anxiety Disorder....Actually, I have not run across that many people in my day to day life that feel retarded is a bad word. I just don't care for the PC crap... There is always someone who is going to have a problem with something ya know, like the stupid Happy Holidays vs Merry Christmas.. its a really dumb thing to argue about... but anyway... Thanks for your responses =)
LOL first of all retarded is NOT a diagnosis. This is NOT the 50's. That word is so not PC when actually referring to a person or diagnosis.....
Mentally challenged, or handicapped.....NOT retarded!!!
Anyways, facebook can be such a B*TCH. How good of a friend was this? People have way too much time on their hands, don't worry about it :)
Sorry M., I was reading your SWH and Retarded is kind of a bad word. I know lots of people who still use and have no idea but it really is not a nice word. Now you know and can start working on using a different word that expresses your thoughts better, like I feel silly but I have this question.
Retarded is a seriously offensive word to lots of moms who have kids with developmental disabilities. I know you did not mean to offend anyone, not your intention at all. But now you know.
A retarded person can look totally normal and still have an IQ of below 70. They can even be severely retarded and have an IQ of 30. It is a cognitive processing disorder. A person with Down's will have physical characteristics that you can see with your eyes and know without every asking if they have it. It is pretty unmistakable. A person diagnosed with mental retardation has a low IQ and may have NO other diagnosis, physical or mental.
I would just be careful with what you post. If in doubt, don't post.
FYI...Webster's definition of retard(ed) is: slow or limited in intellectual or emotional development or academic progress.
People get offended when you use 'retarded' as a synonym for 'stupid; because people who are slow or limited in their development are not 'stupid'.
A very dear friend of mine has a son with Down Syndrome and is very sensitive to this. Just something to keep in the back of your mind:)
If someone tags you in a picture they post, it's out there. When you "agree" to all those cute little apps, what you area agreeing to is that they can get all your info, your friends info, contacts, pictures, on and on. If you have it set to friends only and discuss your nightlife with a friend, a family law judge could supeona access to your WHOLE account to determine suitability for custody. If you file an insurance claim for a missing diamond ring and there is a picture of you wearing it on facebook dated after the "theft" that can be used in a court of law. There are inumerable ways that FB can bite everyone in the butt
ANYTHING on the internet can be accessed by anyone with a little computer savvy. Once it's there, it can never be completely erased.
One of the application questions for the school system where I work is "Do you have a social networking page?" They are allowed to ask. If you say "yes", they are allowed to look. If you say "no" and are lying, you won't get hired. Most employers do a FB and MySpace search before making an offer of employment.
Just because you have everything set to "private" doesn't mean that the folks posting pictures OF YOU have the same filters. If I were you, I would go through any pictures where you are "tagged". If you don't like the picture, "untag" yourself. The original poster won't be allowed to re-tag you.
A college friend of mine posted a ton of old sorority pictures of us to FB long before I had an account. She tagged me in them... I "untagged" myself in many of them. While I loved my Tridelta days, I don't really need a ton of pictures of myself in "jungle wear" or at a "naughty school girls and dirty old men" party and I certainly don't need my colleagues seeing them!
Your security setting should be set as high as they can be. Lord knows there are not only situations out there that require utter privacy, there are people out there crazy enough to go through gyrations to see you if they want to badly enough.
If a friend comments on your pic, it shows up in their timeline. Then their friends can see your pic...
Yep, good rule of thumb (even if it is all "private") is to NEVER post anything you don't want the whole world to have (potential) access to. I had posted a comment on a friend's page that I really shouldn't have and I didn't realize her page was public and the person (mil) (who is not a friend of mil) saw it. I was devastated because I really didn't mean it that way it came across and it really hurt her too. I learned a big lesson that day and to not post anything I don't want the whole world to see, even if I do think it's private. I believe with pictures your friends can see them and copy/paste them too I would imagine. Then, like I said if their page isn't private then their friends may be able to see it as well. Good luck and if I were you I would just erase anything that YOU think might make you look bad. But base it on your judgment, not someone else's.
Pretty sure they couldn't see the pic. Unless someone else has been tagged in the picture and thier setting is open. Or if they are a friend of the friend tagged type of thing.
Does that make sense?
I think your friend was just being silly by saying that.
M.:
Go to your privacy settings and click on custom.
You said this was a friend....so they must have been your friend via FB to allow the posting. You can remove the picture and the comment.
Hope that helps.
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Nothing you put on FB (or any other website) is totally private! Regardless of your settings, once it is out there, it can be found. If you have 100 friends (which is low for most people) then you have 100 security risks. I suggest you try googling yourself on a regular basis. You might be surprised what comes up! Future employers, colleges, etc can and will check you out and make a judgement based on your content. This is something I am trying to drill into my kids and their friends. Before posting anything, stop and think if this is something you would want a future employer to see!
