S.C.
First of all, you need to prepare yourself! If you are letting her watch them, then she needs to do just that. No mom stepping in all time or checking on them every 15 mins. I made that mistake and insulted a family member. She thought I was implyng that she didn't know how to watch my child. That said, make up a list of very specific house rules, including what to do if one of your children breaks the rules. If she will be there while the kids need lunch or a snack, make sure you set it out ahead of time and let her know exactly what your expectations are. This situation will work best if you are in another room or out of sight. Young sitters especially, will be really timid about disciplining your kids if you are right there. They sort of expect you to do it, I think. Give it a shot for an afternoon or for a few hours. If it works..great! If not, well nothing lost!