Friend Visiting from Out of State

Hmm, this one made me think. As the parent of a baby that NEEDS his naps, my schedule tends to revolve around his nap times. She's from out of state though, and probably is having to schedule her visits to get to see everyone. I think ultimately I'd do what was most convenient for her, since she's not around much. No harm in mentioning DD's naptime and seeing what she offers though!

I would let hubby take care of toddler and go out on Friday night. You've mentioned previously that you're dealing with depression. I suggest you need to find ways to have time for yourself.

You also mentioned that you daughter is resisting naps. I suggest that if you meet her half way it will be alright if your daughter misses a nap. She may end up a bit cranky but then again she may not. You can deal with her crankiness.

Your friend is from a distance and has limited time. I would give visiting with her priority. You have your daughter always. She can deal with having you gone for the evening. She'll have her father.

I suggest, if you're not leaving your daughter with her father that you need to start doing that. Your daughter needs to learn how to deal with changes in the routine before she goes to preschool. You need some time without her. You going out once a month without her will help how you feel and not be damaging to your daughter.

why can't you meet her out on friday night? everyone should make time, especially moms.....your daughter will survive

As a person who travels out of state to visit family and friends, I think she would greatly appreciate if you would just suck it up, as you put it. I am assuming she is only going to be visiting for a set amount of time and probably has her days fairly well planned out so she can fit everyone and everything in. Plus, if she has traveled a long distance to begin with to get to your state she probably doesn't want to travel any further than she absolutely must.

Just be honest and say that is DD's nap time and can you meet at another time or does she mind coming to the house so DD can sleep and you can get caught up? Good luck.

I am sure you drove down to your friends parents house because you wanted to and you were glad to bring a little cheer to her father. Nothing to keep track of.

Have you traveled to her home town? Does she have her own transportation or is she putting miles on her parents vehicle?

If she is a good enough friend, suck it up unless you are the one to put all the effort into the friendship, which I haven't heard yet.

Get a sitter and have a good visit with your friend.

IMO, Yes, you suck it up.

Do you have someone who can watch your daughter? It might be good for you to get out on a Friday night.
If you meet her half way, it's about a half hour drive if I'm reading this correctly. Will you daughter sleep in the car on your way there? On the way back?

I travelled a lot from the time my kids were very young, infants, and they were well seasoned little travelers. For instance, my son's first long distance trip was at 3 weeks after my beloved mother in law passed away unexpectedly. My husband took off without even packing anything after I got the phone call that she had collapsed. He was a little more than half way there when he got the call that she had passed away.
I packed for my husband, myself, and two kids and set off.

My kids just adapted to life around us as opposed to the other way around.

You know your child better than anyone so do what's comfortable for you, but a night in the city with a dear friend sounds pretty awesome to me.

I hope you get it worked out.

Best wishes.

Personally? I would get a sitter and go enjoy a Friday night in the City. You don't have to be superwoman... and everyone needs down time! The world won't end if your daughter misses a nap. We tried to plan our life around nap times when my son was young... went to family events late, got annoyed when people didn't "check with us first" about part times, etc. that might mess with nap time.

You know what we learned? If he's tired, he'll sleep no matter where we are. If he's not, life goes on without a nap. We stopped stressing about nap schedules well over a year ago and started enjoying our outtings and parties again as a result. With this little one on the way... she'll crash wherever we are.

Naps are wonderful things, but don't miss opportunities to see friends (especially out-of-state) ones because of nap times!

Do what works for you and your family. Sometimes it's ok to say " definitely next time"

you get a babysitter lol