Ok I need help. I am trying to get pregnant. My husband said he is fine with having another baby but he dosn't want to do all the "planning"...you kow whe have to do it on this day at this time blah blah blah...he want the if it happens it happens deal. I liked that idea untill its been over 4 months and it has NOT happend. So I am going to do my best to "plan" it without him knowing its a "plan" lol. I only have my period everyother month. Im on it NOw started Monday. My sister said start taking ovulation sticks about the 12th day when it says your ovulating do it. Does that sound about right?? Anyone got any other ideas?
We have acually been doing the "if it happens it happens" method for about 5 months now...it has not happend. So Know I am going to try and do a bit of planning and see if it will happen.
We tried for 2 year with our boy...finally I stoped "TRYING" and it just happend. So I thought it would go the same way for the second..but Im getting impatient...Im not getting any younger and my son is only getting older. I don't want them too far apart. This will be my last one its all or nothing....I need advice...get me preggo!!! LOL.
You have answered your own question - stop trying...you are putting excess stress on your body and in doing so - you are creating a mad creature..
Take a deep breath and stop TRYING to plan it out - have sex for fun and often!!!
It took us almost 4 years (lots of tests, exams, medicines, etc.) when we finally just said ENOUGH - then 4 months later we were pregnant...
I find its when your not trying you get the best results. I should know I had 4 children in 7 years that way lol
Relax !!!! Have a couple cocktails and FUN :-) That is what its all about, no pressure, no stress on either of you !!! and/OR you could have Sex Everyday for a month (doesn't that sound divine?!!!) and See what comes of it :-) the more I think of it, YES have sex Every day for one full month !!!!!!! You'll both be happier too !! ENJOY xoxo
I agree .... stop trying. Our 2nd son was almost 3 when we started trying again. And I thought it would never happen (took almost a year), as soon as I had quit "trying" or thinking about it I got prego. And as soon as We welcomed our 3rd we had talked about waiting a year, then trying for #4. Well God had other plans. :) We r due with #4 come november. Have sex to have fun, not to worry about getting prego. It will happen when you least expect it. :)
One week to 10 days before you expect your period, do it, then put a few pillows under your hips (or get on your hands and knees, face down, butt up).
Have fun trying!!
Instead of spending your money on ovulation predictors I suggest you get to know your own body by monitoring your cervical secretions. This will tell you when you are fertile. Google "Billings Method". This method will teach you how to make a boy and a girl but more importantly you will learn how to listen to your body. Best of luck!
You answered your own question with your last paragraph. Stop trying. Just enjoy your husband. You'll be pregnant before you know it.
Look up Fertility Awareness. Learn the cycles of your own body, particularly if you menstruate irregularly. This is much more accurate and useful than counting numbers of days from last period.
Seduce your husband when you are most likely to be fertile. He is unlikely to object. :) And you're more likely to be interested!
Four months is actually not a long time to try. I heard somewhere that the average couple tries for more than a year. A healthy normally menstruating woman may be optimally fertile for only 2-3 days per month. This is easy to miss accidentally.
Good luck!
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Keep track of your cervical mucous (CM) on a chart. Don't base when it's best to conceive on when you have your period or don't. Instead, make sure to BD (have sex) during your ovulation or EW (eggwhite) mucous days. My cycles were 10-70 days-very irregular and by keeping track of CM, I got pregnant in one month with all 3 of my kids.
Use this chart. Remember that CM that is like an eggwhite is the best for conception. And also remember that semen can sometimes look like EW CM. True CM is extremely stretchy and clear and abundant - Semen is stretchy, but not as much. There is A LOT of EW mucous and not semen.
We always counted 14 days after I got my period and "tried". Worked for us.
