Getting Pregnant After Miscarriage - Allentown,PA

I am almost the same as DM response/situation - I had my first child at 36 pregnant at 37 which I miscarried when I was 11 weeks along (it wasn't viable) and then got pregnant again within 2-3 months and had my second child at age 38. Both healthy children - I say go for it! Since you are longing for this, I would think that would outway the scariness (which is normal regardless) and stay positive!

I am SOOO sorry for your loss and know how painful it can be. I lost one when I was young, and then had two miscarriages in a row in my 40s. It was one of the most emotionally painful times of my life. (I had had one healthy baby in my late 30s, then the 2 miscarriages). We were not sure we wanted to go forward with another try, but we decided to try one more time (with the blessing of my very supportive physician)...and we ended up having our last beautiful and healthy boy. I wouldn't be alarmed about the testing that came back after the D&C. Most miscarriages occur because of chromosomal or other problems, so the fact that your tests came out that way is what I would have expected. Only you and your partner can make the decision about whether or not to try again. Best wishes on your decision, and peace to you during your healing process.

C.

I am very sorry for your loss. I personally have not experienced miscarriage, but a family member very close to me has. She had a completely normal pregnancy with her son, and then 3 miscarriages when they decided to add to their family. They also did genetic testing on 2 of the 3 and both came back with a trisomy, I forget the exact chromosome, but it was not viable to life. She went thought lots and lots of testing and they never really found anything specific wrong, but she went on to natually concieve fraternal twins and has an uncomplicated pregnancy and 2 healthy babies. Hang in there!!!

Hi V.,
I had two miscarriages before I finally had my daughter. I didn't know to have the first miscarriage tested, but I changed doctors and got pregnant again. I lost the second baby and it had an extra chromosome. I was so scared to get pregnant again but the doctor assured me that it was not genetic. We finally have our little girl but now I am scared to have another one because I don't think I could go through all that again. Good luck.

HI V.,

So sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage (at about 6 weeks), and likely there was some genetic problem with the baby. I conceived again two months later and have a wonderfully healthy child, who was born when I was 41.

Talk to a genetic counselor to assess the risks in future pregnancies. It's a tough call, I know. Talk with your husband, and decide how you would proceed if you conceived a child who ended up having limitations. Only you and your husband can make the choice for your family.

Having said all that, even though the risk of genetic abnormalities is dramatically higher for us "older" moms, the overall risk is still fairly low. (Check with your genetic counselor, but I seem to remember that the over-all risk for most random genetic problems is in the single digits. Do check this with a professional, though)

Best of luck to you!
C.

I am so sorry for this heartache you are going through. I lost two pregnancies, one before my first son and one before my second son. We had testing on the second loss and the baby would have had Down Syndrome. We talked with a genetic counselor and did decide to try again. I think meeting with a counselor can be very helpful and can give you the information you need to make your decision. No one can give you guarantees, but you will know what you want to do after talking this over. If you decide not to try to conceive, but are longing for a baby, maybe adoption is an option? My husband and I thought about this too. My prayers are with you for making the decision that is best for you!

friend just had a mis at age 29... her chromosones came back abnormal too. her dr. told her to go to a genetic counselor. she also has healthy 2 yr. old.... go see a genetic dr.

I got pregnant at 37 with my son after I had a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage at 37 after being 10 weeks pregnant and sitting in the waiting room of the ER for 1.5 hours. I did not have anything to test to see what was wrong with the baby. I figure it was in gods hands. I wound up with an awesome ob/gyn who was a high risk doctor. My son came out great. The point is that after a certain age you will be at risk for birth defects or genetic abnormalities such as downs syndrome. In your respect having a miscarriage was gods way of knowing something was wrong with the baby and the baby would not make it. Take good care of yourself,eat right and no caffiene. Take some prenatal vitamins too. Wait at least three months before trying to conceive again. God bless and good luck

I am so sorry for you loss! I had three miscarriages before we had my first son (we now have three). One was 12 weeks and was the most emotional painful loss I had experienced. We had seen the baby's heartbeat twice and he/she seemed to be doing well. We didn't do testing on that baby and I did have two more after that, but then I had my three boys and couldn't be happier.

I know there were times I wasn't sure I could continue on that journey. We went to a genetic counselor and they did initial screens and gave us some peace of mind that overall everything looked really good. If that is the path you want to pursue, do it when you feel emotionally ready. For awhile I wasn't and felt I couldn't handle another loss but when I was it was good to have the scientific information in front of us. We just wanted to know either way so we didn't have to wonder if there just wasn't any way we would have a healthy pregnancy or if it was an actual option for us. Best of luck!

Can you schedule an appointment with an geneticist? A close friend of mine was counseled into terminating a pregnancy when routine prenatal testing indicated a severe genetic condition that would result in the baby dying within hours of birth. They worked with her OBGYN and geneticist who explained the likelihood of another pregnancy with the same condition, along with other "at risk" conditions and were able to have a beautiful, healthy little boy about a year later!

Hi, V.:

Your miscarriage was nature's way of taking care of it's own.
Try again.
Good luck.
D.

Such a tough one! I had my two at 36 and 38 - and suffed the miscarraige before the first at 10 weeks. Never did the testing. You never know what the oucome will be at ANY AGE. Nature and those with more control over life (GOD or what you choose to call it) have much more control than we do. Miscarriages are almost always b/c the life wasn't viable. Not always an age issue - and VERY common. If you want another baby - go for it! As with all pregnancies.... you take what you are given. No guarantees. Also, my cousin has three kids - all healthy - she was 41,42 and 44 when she had them!!!