We've been invited to a family friends daughter's confirmation. The kicker is that the mother included a note in the invitation that any gift given should be a small token of affection and no more than $10.
Now to each their own about the note, I would never do that but whatever. Since my husband is the one close to them, I'm trying to keep an open mind. My problem is I have no idea what to get the daughter for under $10 that has meaning to a confirmation?
I thought about a copy of The Little Prince or another sentimental book, or an angel pin? Ugh, I just don't know.
I would ignore the request and get whatever I wanted:). I think her intentions were good, she probably did not want people to feel like they had to give an expensive gift, but I still think it is tacky to tell people what to get or not to get.
A devotional book. Cross necklace or earrings. A frame that says "best friends." You can find some nice gifts for $10 (or maybe a couple dollars more).
I would go to a Christian or Catholic bookstore and look for a really cool cross she can hang in her room. I only had a second to look online to give you an idea what I was thinking...something like this...
http://www.ebay.com/itm/Hanging-Metal-Decorative-Wall-Cro...
My son got a really cool one for his First Communion last year.
About the note...the mom may have wanted to keep the party/celebration about the sacrament and therefore wanted to limit gifts.
I'm trying to think of my own Confirmation. I know that my mom's parents bought be a cross with the resurrected Christ on it. I'm sure I received something from my sponsor (because she is a very thoughtful person). I would guess that my dad's parents sent me a check.
I think money would be perfect.
A sentimental gift is most appropriate when it is coming from someone you're very close to. If you or your husband were close to the daughter, a sentimental gift would be perfect. But if you are really just friends with her parents, I think money would be more appropriate. If she's not terribly close to you, a sentimental gift is somewhat awkward.
How about a piece of customized confirmation jewelry like a cross or keepsake box?
Find out what she's getting from her family. The obvious gifts might be already taken care of and a bit more expensive then just $10. A pretty cross on a chain, a small travel bible, or a devotional book and a blank notebook?
A book of daily devotions or a simple cross necklace from a store like Walmart or Target might do it. I would be too strict with the under $10 dollar thing. MAybe ever a $10 gift card for a religious bookstore?
What about a daily devotional book, Sarah Young I believe writes some good ones. I bought one at a Women of Faith event.
Why does it have to be "about" confirmation. That wouldn't be a token of affection, that would be something special, more personal for her.
I think the mom is just wanting people that want to give her daughter a gift to do it because she means something to that person not because she's having confirmation.
A copy of "The Theology of the Body for Teens" or "Did Adam and Eve Have Belly Buttons?"
Religious frame for a keepsake photo? You could look online at Christian gift websites. It's not religious, but if it's just meant to be a token of affection she might enjoy a $10 gift certificate to a coffee shop or frozen yogurt place. I think an angel pin might just end up tossed aside in a drawer.
for confirmation and communion, many kids get a lot of religious stuff like crosses and frames... however, the mom did say a small token of affection.. it needn't be religious just something sentimental.. Nordstroms used to have these rings (not for the fingers )although you could wear them there, but rings that had different colored faux rhinestones embedded, for example blue.... and on the side of the ring, it would say love.. then another might say faith, friendship.. etc etc.. they had these inexpensive chains you put either one or as many as you want on them. I gave one to friend when she was about 13 that said love and hope, to this day, she still has them.. there weren't expensive, just pretty.. so something on that line.. even a bracelet of sorts.. earrings... charms for a bracelet..
when my son made is first communion, he got so many crosses and photo albums, which was great.. but sentimental items are wonderful too..
hey for a teen,, even a nice card and a ten spot... kids that age could always use the money.. but up to you..
good luck
i think a classic book is THE perfect gift for this situation.
khairete
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You can get a nice peice of costume jewelry for just about $10 (OK maybe $15) - glass beads, etc. If you get to Kohls when they're having a big sale you might even be able to get some silver earrings or something like that.
I agree with others that a nice devotional book is a good option too.
I think the mom was trying to alieviate the issue of the $50 dilemma and doesn't want people to feel obligated. I appreciate the mom's thoughtfulness - especially since sweet 16 parties are only a few years away and they are a nightmare (black & white theme, floral theme, etc.please dress accordingly, extravagent affairs where you have no idea what / how much $ is the norm, etc.).
I wouldn't worry about going over the $10 - i think mom is more trying to set the tone and I think that's wonderful.
Amazon has a Confirmation Frame for about $5 and $4 for shipping. Here's the link:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00I0VIFNU/ref=mp_s_a_1_44?...
A $10 Itunes gift card also makes a great gift.
Best,
T. Y
SAHM of 5
(13, 12, 6, 4 & 2)
You could get her an inexpensive cross for her room or a scarf.
