Myself Going Back to Work

Hi F.,

I'm a 42 year old first time mom of a 4 month old. I've always worked and in my last job was a director of a school district. I'm staying at home with my son but I'm also starting to go a little stir crazy. Although I adore playing with him and being at home with him, I really miss interacting with adults. I'm going to try working part time from home because I don't feel comfortable leaving him in daycare until he's at least 1 year old. I've heard too many horror stories.

Heck no! It's perfectly normal. I was working from home for a while and felt guilty because I didnt have my daughter home with me. But she gets more out of socializing with other children rather than me not being able to give her my full attention. Some people aren't cut out to be stay-at-home moms. You are not bad for feeling that way. Give it a try - worst case scenario, you find out you'd rather be at home with your kids right? :) Good Luck!!!

Hi F.,

Well I cant tell you that I know what you are feeling because I hadnt have a job that lasts for years. I got married when I was about 20 years old and right now Im 23 years old since all that time I havent worked and so when I had my little one my husband told me to stay at home and take care of her. So I have been doing that since 2 1/2 years now I love being with my daughter.Berly around 2 months ago I was looking for something to do from home which I love. If you want to stay with your kids you can work from home but if you want sometime off thats ok I mean just with one I sometimes get crazy but if you want you can work part-time at home and part-time outside it just depends on how you feel. Well if you want more info on how to work from home let me know visit my website: www.workathomeunited.com/V.
I wish you luck and tell me what you decide.Take care

V.

Hi F., maybe you could go back to work parttime?? I understand about going crazy and wanting to be out in the work world but this time when your kids are little will not last forever. I was able to stay home until they went to school and I am soooo glad I did!

Hi F.,
No I don't think your a bad mom for feeling that way. You going back to work gives you and your little ones new advintures. After all day care is not a bad deal, your little ones can learn new things and make lots of friends. while you get the opertunity to put a little more time back in to yourself. While you love your little ones you have to remember to love yourself too.
Besides if the money isn't a necessity then you know you can at least give it a try and if it dosen't work out or ya just can't stand to be away then at least you know.

no, honey, i don't think there's anything at all wrong with wanting to go back to work. you get other things from working than just the money... especially with your husband often away i am sure you start to need a little face-to-face with some grownups... being around just the kids all the time i'm sure gets more than a little stifling... i know how you feel i'm a first-time mom to a 4 1/2 month old, as a single mom not going back to work wasn't really an option but luckily i'm a business owner so i've been able to take my son to work with me. this has worked out just fine so far but i'm currently on the lookout for a daycare to put him in for 4 or 5 hrs a day. it's not that i don't LOVE my son but i just need some time where i'm ME, not MOMMY! i know that i'll have that much more appreciation for him & enthusiasm for the time we have together if i can have a little time for myself! (of course i'm still agonizing over where i'll choose & telling myself IT'LL BE OKAY!) i know this dosen't make it any easier, but keep in mind the fact that you were "just F." for twenty-three years of your life! now that you are also "mommy" dosen't mean you should feel guilty for wanting to be "just F." again for a couple hours a day! if you feel that this is something you need (as i feel it is for me) then do it! it will be good for all of you!

Hi F.,
As a matter of fact, for some woman it's better if they go to work, nervs and all. But the way i did it. I only worked part time. So that way, i could still spend time with my daughter.
It is really important for children to learn to be apart from their parents for a little while. I have seen some cases, where little kids were just used to their moms, and would cry for hours, if away from them.
And please don't forgett, try to be thankfull, that you have this option. Alot of moms have to go to work fulltime to make a living. A.

I am in the same situation you are in. I have been married for nearly 9 years and worked for most of them. With my older boys I went back to work not too long after they were born. My last pregnancy was hard on me, first a car accident, then emergency surgery at 37 weeks and delivery 2 weeks later. I stopped working and have been home since 1/06. It has been very hard on me to stay home. I even did go back to work but only was able to for 6 weeks because my son was in daycare and always sick. So I stayed home and it is hard. My husband works in sales so is gone most of the day too. Sometimes it seems I am a single mom. I love my kids but I do sometimes need a break. Due to daycare cost for an infant and after school care for 2 boys it is easier to stay home, but not having my own money is hard. I can sympatize with how you feel. But do not feel quilty for needing to get some time away from your kids. If you can, go back to work. The kids will love being with other kids.

Hope all goes well.