B.A.
Over a year ago, while I was pregnant with my second child, my husband and I were on the verge of divorce because we were soooo stressed out! He worked very long hours, I worked a very fast paced, stressful job and we had pretty much had it with our lives! We had a 7 year old with severe ADHD and I really felt I needed to focus more on him. It was the biggest leap of faith I've ever made and I won't lie and say it's been as easy as pie but EVERY MINUTE HAS BEEN WORTH IT!
I found a "mommy makes calculator" and after putting in all of my "work expenses" (gas, second car note, lunch money, clothes budget, daycare costs...etc.) I was only BRINGING HOME approx. $300 a month. And I was making WAAAYYY more than that in my corporate job!
So, I did some online research and found a few website's that have helped me as we've hammered out our new budget.
Websites:
www.thegrocerygame.com
www.livingonadime.com
www.hillbillyhousewife.com
www.angelfoodministries.com
www.miserlymoms.com
I found that our food budget went down b/c we weren't eating out so much and I started making a lot of things from scratch (hillbilly housewife gave me a lot of neat recipes and tips on what convenience foods are worth it and what you can make yourself for much cheaper). We utilized a food pantry on a couple of occasions and also Angel Food Ministries as we were just starting out on this.
My second child was born with a physical disability so I'm not able to return to work even if I wanted to (I think God knew what he was doing when he put it on my heart to quit working!)So, we've had to make this budget thing work!
Give yourself a year of up's and down's before you get everything running smoothly. And try to use CASH for as much stuff as you can. Don't carry credit cards or debit cards with you to the grocery store or out to eat. Budget and don't spend over what you have budgeted!
- Make a schedule for your day so you get things done. Maybe clean bathrooms on Monday, kitchen on Tuesday, organize office on Wed....etc.(after you let yourself veg out for the first week or two after quitting your job...destress a bit!)
- Set a specific time that laundry will be done during the week so you aren't running load after load day and night. Your washer and dryer use up ALOT of electricity! I have 2 days a week that I do laundry in the mornings and that's it. Whatever dirties has to wait until laundry day to get done. (Unless it's a special occasion, of course!)
- Wash dishes by hand as you go to save on the water that a dish washer uses, or make sure you have a FULL dishwasher before running it. (and I mean full, organize dishes so you maximize the room) I only run the dishwasher once a week and handwash everything else.
- Eat Leftovers! Living On A Dime has WONDERFUL resources in their books and free newsletters that show you how to take leftovers and turn them into a totally new meal! My hubby "won't eat" leftovers but he has so many times not even knowing it! I'll make a meatloaf for dinner bigger than I'll need and then slice the leftovers for sandwiches for the next days lunch. Make a pot roast on Sunday that can be eaten on throughout the week as sandwiches and then turned into a vegetable beef soup for dinner one night.
I know alot of this info won't help you "Get there" but it will help you stay there once you have! Just make a budget now, pay off what you can and remember that your families happiness is what matters in the long run. STICK TO YOUR BUDGET AND SACRIFICE WHAT NEEDS TO BE SACRIFICED. We took a hit to our credit by returning my car that was a $450 monthly payment for a car that had a $150 car payment. We moved from a luxury apartment to a moderately priced apartment. It was TOUGH but we kept our eyes on the goal and found that happiness did not come from the things we had but by how much JOY we took in being with each other!
Good luck to you in this AWESOME endeavor!! It will be worth anything you have to do!