I'm an anti-goody bag mom. LOL I don't know when this started, but I don't remember ever getting goody bags when I went to parties. I even had a friend who told me that if i don't give out goody bags, then my kids won't have anyone coming to their parties. How ridiculous is that!?!?!
Anyway. . .here's the thing. It's your child's birthday. Let him have his day. Let it be about him for one day a year. You are providing a party with probably some snacks, food, cake, drinks for the kids as well as probably some type of entertainment (games, movie, etc). Why are you expected to also give presents to the kids who are already getting to have fun at the party? Does that make sense? Besides, most goddy bag ingredients are full of junk that just gets thrown away or broken as soon as they step out of the door to go home. I don't get the whole idea of giving these out, but that's just me.
Of course, some kids will be disappointed because unfortunately we live in a world where the kids have become the decision makers in some families, and they expect to GET things. Don't let that be the reason to spend a lot of money. It's important for them to learn how to deal with being disappointed, and it's also important for them to learn that the day is about someone else, and they were one of the kids that were invited, which shows that he thinks very highly of them.
It may sound harsh to some, but as a mom and teacher, I think a lot of people really have flipped it around and do whatever the kids want rather than what is best for them. I hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes by being so blunt. Hope it helps some.