Had an Early Miscarr. This Am and Have to Work Tonight (On My Feet)

I'm so glad you called in sick. Take some time to rest and heal. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Wishing you all the best!

What does your doctor say? Surprised he didn't advise you to not work/rest today.

Sorry for your loss.
But NO job is too important that you can't miss a day, honestly.
I'd stay home.

First, J.-- I am so sorry for your loss.

In answer directly to your question:

I have done this, and I do not recommend it. Both of those times were in a former life and involved using my exhusband's codeine to get through the day.

It's pretty horrible to be miscarrying at work. If you feel that you need a 'reason' not to go in, go to urgent care and get a note or call your doctor. (The doctor will tell you to stay home and likely provide a prescription for a heavier pain-killer than advil.)Even early miscarriages can be very, very painful. I've been through three of these and have almost passed out (got myself to the floor in time to lie down so I didn't hurt myself, but I was very lucky.) If need be, have your husband call in for you and tell them you are throwing up. They're less likely to argue with a man, and it's a small lie-- I understand you don't want them to know about your personal life, and stomach bugs can last more than a day, so if you need more time tomorrow, this should suffice.

I know it's not good to lie, but in this situation, I think it's pretty excusable and understandable.

First, I want to say that I am so sorry for your loss.

I think you should stay home. It really is better to be safe than sorry in this case. I would have to guess that any boss that would hear that you had a miscarraige would WANT you to stay home and not come in to work.

J.- so sorry! I've been there.

No job is worth going to when you are dealing with this. It is a legitimate reason to call in.

Call your OB if you feel you need permission, but honestly, just call in. You don't have to tell them why if you don't want to. You can simply say you will have a dr.'s note when you return.

Best of luck to you, and please stay home and rest.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I would tell your boss that you had a miscarriage, and ask him to keep it confidential (which, as your employer, he is legally required to do anyways, as he is bound by HIPPA laws.) I haven't had a miscarriage, myself, but my mom had 4 of them and my understanding of them is that it takes some time and there could be a lot of blood, even with an early one.

Big hug to you!

oh no! i'm so sorry. and even if you feel fine, there's got to be a way out of this. you should really stay off your feet for a few days.
listen to your hubby.
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Oh J., I'm so sorry.

:(

I REALLY wish you'd take a couple of days off girl. I REALLY wish you'd give yourself a break. WHY can't you tell your boss?

I really wish I could come there and cover for you.

Sigh, be good to yourself, ok?

:(

J.:

I'm sorry for your loss.

I would talk with my doctor and see what he/she says. It's possible that your body is not finished passing the tissue and you are on your feet - it can be a puddle of blood and most likely - you passing out - them calling an ambulance.

Call your boss. Tell them the truth. They will most likely tell you to take the day off. I know I would.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry J. for you and your husband.

But why can you not call in sick just one night? Especially the day of a miscarriage.

It really depends upon how far along you were in the pregnancy. If you were over 8 weeks, you had better not go in. Proper rest, with laying down and feet up is what you need as your body and hormones and fluids readjust.

Your husband is right to be nervous. Please listen to him and to us. Please call in sick.

GL!

I think it depends on the bleeding. When I had an early miscarriage, I bled like crazy for a good 6 hours. There was no way I could do anything but lay on the couch, the bleed was too heavy.

If your bleeding has mostly stopped, or reduce to a light period flow, I would think you would be alright, but I wouldn't push it.

Sorry for your loss.

I think you should tell them you had a miscarriage. If you start passing tissue and make a puddle of blood and stuff on the floor while your uterus finishes it's job you'll not only be embarrassed you'll have a lot of explaining to do.

I had one a long time ago and it was very hard. I know how the day after I passed a lot of stuff and nearly passed out during that time.

I feel on the floor I had just mopped at the child care center.

I'm assuming you are saying you had an early miscarriage?

I'm so sorry......

If you start feeling ill, just tell your boss you are having some "female problems" ... he won't ask for details, and will usually let you go, unless you frequently beg off.....

(Unless he is a crass idiot, that is....)

I'm sorry for your loss.
Is this the same MC you were expecting since June 13 (when you were 5 wks along)?
Your hcg was dropping and were told you could expect bleeding any day - and it took 2 months to finally start?
Or did you have that MC and this is another pregnancy?
The time line is confusing me a bit.
Any MC is devastating, but a really early one can be a lot like a heavy period.
What does your doctor say about working through this?

It depends how many weeks you were. You have the emotions to contend with and the physical as well. This has happened to me at 2, 11, and 9 weeks. If you are inside of 7 weeks its just going to be like a period with clumps. At 8 weeks and beyond you will have to pass more sizable tissue and there can be quite bit of pain involved (especially if the yolk sac comes out in tact, which is rare, but happened to me on about the third day of heavy bleeding. )
When I had my early miscarriage I went about that day trying to function as normal. But emotionally I could not pass it off. We did have to make some adjustments to my day because I became very teary and cried easily. We also ended up telling people because my mood and actions became odd and everyone was starting to think I was a jerk.
So play it off as long as you can but be prepared that emotionally, you may not be able to. Be prepared to tell your coworkers if your tears or behavior cannot be controlled.
Sorry you are going through this. Its really a let down, and an emotional roller coaster. It feels like Christmas got cancelled.

eta: good I'm glad you are taking the day off. Spending time with family is the best way to deal with this.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you took the day off. I lost one when I was 14 weeks along. However, I didn't have a miscarriage. I didn't know anything was wrong until I went in for my regularly scheduled dr appt and they couldn't find a heart beat. This was on a Thursday so I took off the rest of that day and Friday. I had to attend a wedding that Saturday and I had to go since my husband was in the wedding. I had the worst time. I had my D & C that Monday.
Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way!!!

J., I am so sorry.

You should stay home. Rest and put your feet up.

I would definitely call in. I hope you do & take the rest you need.

Best wishes and hugs.

J., I'm so sorry to read this. Have you been to the doctor for this? Will you need a D&C?

I'd call the hospital and ask to speak to an OB nurse. See what she says. I'd take pads with you to work, just in case.

I hope you get through tonight okay.

Dawn

It seems you took the night off, which is great. I hope your feeling better soon. And just so you know, HIPPA laws prevent your employer from making you tell him why. If he asks just polity tell him your health issues are private and if he is insistent tell him HIPPA guarantees that privacy.