M.P.
I had a scheduled c-section with my som because he was late, with no progress and he was very large. I have to say it was scary. Anyone who tells you they weren't scared is tougher than anyone I know. I was very nervous and crying a lot before. But considering all the emotions and the fact that you are about to become a mom and have major surgery... I think it's to be expected. Just try to relax, but don't freak out if you are having a hard time. As soon as the baby was out, the anesthesiologist (sp) had to give me a shot of demerol to stop the shaking.
For recovery, I would get up as soon as you can. drink lots of water. Also, limit the number of guests, and maybe don't let anyone come right away. I had requested this, but was ignored and will be more adamant this next time (due dec.). You need rest and to recover from the shock of this big life change, and you can't do that with company around. I plan on delivering early morning and not having company until late afternoon. Also, with the pain pills, it's hard because you don't want to risk being in pain, but they often will make you sick. I took too many pain pills, because I was afraid it would start to hurt. (just want to clarify, I didn't take more than I was offered or was suggested, but for me personally it was too much)
When you get home, you will need help, but not as much as you might think. Make sure the people who come to help aren't people you feel the need to entertain. This was another mistake I made. I had people over to help, but I didn't nap the way I should because I felt slightly obligated to socialize. I stopped having people over for the most part, after a week or so. I did keep having a friend come over, and I thinkt hat was good, simply for the socializing aspect. It kept me from feeling isolated and sad. And since she had just had her own baby six months before, we could share a lot of experiences.
If you have any other specific questions, feel free to ask me. I would love to help in any way possible :-)
Oh, and one more tip, buy a stroller/car seat combo, you can put the baby in the car seat and wheel her around with you. She can sleep in it, and it's easier to get her in and out of it. It will be hard to bend over a lot, and a big no-no to bend over and lift the baby up. You really want to not use your ab muscles. They will be weak to the point that it's a challenge to lower yourself onto the toilet seat :-) But it all passes, and I think all in all it was a lot easier than 24 hours of labor, stitches in the vaginal area, and hemheroids (sp)!!!!
Good luck!!! Let us know how it goes :-)
P.S. Which hospital are you delivering at?
M. P.