Having Trouble Agreeing

Well, my advice is to sit down together and talk about something you BOTH agree on and stick to it whether its the corner or taking away a favorite toy...you also got to remember you are in the terrible two's which is a really fun time but also a big time to start setting the ground rules. I watch a two year old and she is very good most of the time but she still has her crazy time and when she doesn't listen I put her in the corner it works because she will cry and feel bad then as me if i am mad at her and i say no but she needs to listen...hope this works

I must say I agree with the other responses on what you might do to come to an agreement on discipline for your son together with your husband, but I am more concerned on how your husband responded to your disagreement. You say he really does not mean it, but I would question his "controlling" behavior and how it sounds like, "my way or no way", if this is the case you may have trouble getting him to sit down and work out a mutual way to handle your son's discipline.

C.,
You two have to sit together (away from the child) and agree on a course of action for discipline when it is needed. You have to be consistent. If a child detects any inconsistency he will act out more. You have to go over the rules with your child, let him know about the punishments for each action that way he knows. Sometimes it helps to put a chart up and track his good behavior. Don't track his bad behavior because then he will feel down on himself and act out more. When children can see their progress on paper it helps sometimes. I have a document that I use to help my son develop bad behaviors into good behaviors and I would be more than happy to email it to you. Just email me at ____@____.com and I will float it over your way. His teacher in school even uses this form to help him there as well.

I wish you luck!

R. :)

I believe there is not a perfect way to discipline but any way you choose, it has to be consistent between both parents to be effective. Is his way over the top and your too soft or vice versa? To save your son and marriage :) discuss discipline and let him know that you are willing to compromise and both agree that you won't contradict each other in front of your son, no matter what. I hope that helps. I don't always agree with my husband for the most part we are on the same page, but i will wait till after he disciplines and then we will discuss if it was handled correctly and how next time we can tweak it a bit

If you can't come to an agreement on your own, the only other thing is to go to counciling together.
You really didn't mention what the discipline is, so I cannot comment on that.

what kind of discipline are you using?

Gointo a bookstore and let him pick out a couple parenting books and compare the way they dicipline in there. That way a "third" party will prove your and his points. A great book is Supernanny (yes from the show) it is a very unbiased and well versed nanny discussing tactics.

There are parenting classes available that you and your husband can attend together. As a mother of 5 girls, I have found that my husband and I definitely have to agree on parenting tactics! The kids learn pretty quickly how to use the disagreement to their advantage.
M.