Hi M. -
I had the same issue with my daughter 11 years ago at about the same age. She took a bottle right after she was born but we didn't stay with so when I was ready to return to my golf league, she refused the bottle. We followed our pediatrician's advice.
By feeding her after 10 minutes of fussing, she is learning that she can fuss and get what she wants. You have to let her cry untill she takes the bottle, you can't give in. Then, once she does take it, give her one consistently after that.
Have your husband or someone else who can listen to her cry stay with her for a half a day or whole day if that's what it takes. She will not let herself go hungry and will eventually take the bottle.
I left my husband and daughter on a saturday with a supply of bottles and milk and went shopping. Didn't have anything in particular to shop for - just went to the mall and looked around to get out of the house (i.e. away from her crying), and take my mind off what was happening without me. He walked her around, outside, whatever he could do when she was really worked up. He called me 2 or 3 hours later and said she took it and I could come home. He gave her a bottle everyday after that and a few weeks later I had my mom give her one to make sure she would take it from someone else.
We used Avent because they were the only one more like the breast. I'm sure lots of things have changed since then.
Like all behavior modification in children (or adults!! LOL), consistency is key.
Hang in there!
K.