Hi J.,
It sounds like you are doing a great job and have your daughters best interests in mind.
I homeschooled my son until he was 12 years old. He is now 18, graduating from HS and going to a private college next year. I also have a 13 year old daughter who started school when she was in 2nd grade, because her brother went to school she did not want to be home with out him. Both my kids went to alternative charter school based on Waldorf philosophy when they did go to school. This was a K-8 school, then my son went to a traditional public HS (he's graduatinig this year)
We were total unschoolers. I am a proponent of the Better Late Than Early approach, by Dr. Raymond Moore. I concur with a few others who have already posted that it is a good idea to back off a bit and let your daughter spend her time discovering the world around her.
I also read and followed John Holt. And as someone else suggested you can put in "unschooling" in your google search engine and find all kinds of resources.
This is quite a different approach in regards to schooling from what you are used to most likely and may not fit for your personal belief system so I hope that you can take some of the information and find a good compromise for your situation.
Honestly, my kids spent much of their time playing, helping sort laundry, helping in the kitchen, getting together with our homeschool group, with very little "formal" learning. We read all the time, went to the library, took a few classes but I did not ever use any formal learning tools, curriculum materials, etc.
I really want to encourage you to check out the books by Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore, they are Christian homeschoolers. I will admit that I am not necessarily oriented this way, just so you know, and I found this book to be a very great and useful resource. While I did not necessarily agree with everything in the book, it is very sound in it's approach.
I have found a very good review for this book written by an ex primary school teacher: http://www.excellenceineducation.com/better_late_than_ear...
Here is a snippet from the review:
Dr. and Mrs. Moore’s first book, School Can Wait and its twin for laymen, Better Late Than Early, introduced me to the facts about education and child development. The Moores collected early childhood research from medicine, ophthalmology, neurology, and psychology and came to the inescapable conclusion that for most children, the optimum age to begin formal academics is between the ages of eight and twelve! For those of us who are steeped in the culture of early academics, this is a strange pill to swallow. But the Moores didn’t stop with mere laboratory research; they studied homeschool families in the 70’s and 80’s to see what happened when children were free to learn at a more natural pace. The result was several more books, culminating with The Successful Family Homeschool Handbook. This volume elaborates on “The Moore Formula” which Dr. and Mrs. Moore developed over the years as they combined research with practical application.
The “Moore Formula” includes three elements in approximately equal portions: study, work and service. They do not recommend formal academic studies before age 8 and in some cases, as late as 12. (My younger daughter fell into this older category.) This does not mean that the child does not learn anything until age 8+. Children are learning voraciously from birth and only the roadblock of clumsy “schooling” can retard or stop a child’s otherwise insatiable thirst for knowledge. Books are useful and important tools, but for a young child, the world is filled with much better learning opportunities than can be found on the printed page alone. When a child is allowed to explore and question and wonder, whole worlds of interest can open that might never be discovered otherwise. In this homeschooling style, a child might learn to read at five, at seven or at twelve, depending on the child."
I wish you and your daughter the best and hope you will take this information in with an open mind.
You have your child's best interest at heart and I know you will continue to figure out a way to make it work for you and for her.
Warm regards,
E. E.
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