Sounds like you are doing the best you can - I wish you both well.
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During pregnancy, when you imagined parenthood, you probably never pictured your new baby crying inconsolably in your arms. But here's your child, sobbing for hours on end, and you have no clue how to help. It's enough to make you cry, too.
About 20 percent of babies develop colic, which is something of a medical mystery. If your newborn cries for more than three hours in a row, three or more days a week, for three weeks or more — and there's no clear medical reason — it's colic. It typically starts at age 2 to 3 weeks and is at its worst around 6 weeks, diminishing after that.
The good news? Most babies are through it by the time they're 3 to 4 months old. (Yes, that's a lot of crying!) Until then, here's help figuring out what could be causing your infant's distress, along with products and strategies for soothing it.
Could it be tummy trouble?
There's no conclusive evidence that a colicky baby cries because of gas pains, but if your baby scrunches up his legs, kicks, and passes gas while screaming, it's at least a reasonable possibility. (You may notice this more often right after a feeding or before a bowel movement.) Your baby's digestive system isn't in full swing yet because it has very few of the digestive juices it needs to break down food. So as his body tries to process proteins, he may indeed produce gas. Gulping milk — which causes babies to swallow air — won't help matters, either.
Another possibility is that something in your breast milk or your baby's formula is bothering his tummy. Ask your child's doctor if you suspect that formula is the problem. Or, if you're breastfeeding, look for possible culprits in your own diet. Potential problem foods include dairy, wheat products, nuts, and caffeine — with dairy being the most likely because some infants are intolerant of the protein in cows' milk, which does pass into breast milk. Some nursing moms find that eating spicy foods or foods that cause the mother to produce gas, such as broccoli or beans, seems to aggravate their baby's colic, although there's no scientific evidence for this. The best way to identify the problem is to stop eating all likely offenders for a few days. (In the case of dairy, you'll have to cut it out of your diet for up to two weeks because cows' milk protein can remain in your breast milk for that long.) If your baby seems to improve, introduce each item singly, waiting to see if his body reacts to it before adding the next. The process may take a while, but if it saves your baby any crying time at all, it's worth it.
# What helps: The right bottle. The more air your baby swallows with breast milk or formula, the more likely tummy trouble becomes. Experiment with feeding positions: Try holding him more upright, for example. If he's bottle-fed, it's important to find a bottle that won't contribute to gulping. The nipple should have a hole that's not too small (which could frustrate him and make him gulp for more food) or too large (which would cause the liquid to come at him too quickly). Some bottles are especially designed to prevent colic by reducing air intake. Some are curved, while others have internal vents or liners, which keep air bubbles from forming in the liquid and the nipple from collapsing.
# Musical accompaniment. Frantic feedings will also cause your baby to gulp air, so don't wait for him to start screaming. Feed him before he's starving, and try to keep the surroundings calm. Turn down the lights, put on some soft music, and ask siblings to listen quietly (you can always hope).
# Natural remedies. Parents have long treated colicky babies with natural remedies like weak herbal teas (especially fennel, anise, and chamomile) and gripe water (a combination of herbs and sodium bicarbonate). You'll want to be careful with dosages, so consult a reliable herbalist and always talk to your baby's doctor. Some breastfeeding moms report that if they drink helpful herbal teas themselves, their babies benefit noticeably.
# Anti-gas drops. You can try over-the-counter anti-gas drops if you think gas is bothering your baby. Look for the active ingredient simethicone on the packaging, and be sure you're buying drops created specifically for babies. And as with any medication, get your doctor's okay first.
# A hot water bottle. You may be able to release some of the pressure on a troublesome tummy by placing your baby across your knees, tummy down, and rubbing his back. Some babies appreciate a hot water bottle (filled with warm water and wrapped in a towel) under them, too. Or simply place the hot water bottle between his tummy and yours, with him lying on top of you.
Tip: Frequent burping will help get those air bubbles out of your baby's tummy before more liquid traps them on the bottom. Don't wait until he's finished a full-course feeding to burp him. Prop your infant up for a burping when you change sides during nursing, or every few minutes when bottle-feeding.
Could it be an immature nervous system?
Some doctors speculate that there may be a connection between an infant's immature nervous system and colic. If your baby was born prematurely, he may need extra time to adjust and mature. Another possibility is that your baby is just a little sensitive by nature. It's certainly easy to understand how any newborn might be overwhelmed by all the stimulation around him — especially by the end of the day. Colic may be one way, then, to block out everything around him and let out all the tension inside. No matter what the reason, your task is to help your child relax, to feel safe and secure. It's a matter of trial and error, but try to find out what soothes him. (Hint: Things that mimic the familiar environment of the womb are a good bet.)
# What helps: Continuous noise, 'er, music. Babies like sounds that remind them of the rhythmic heartbeat and whooshing noises they heard in the womb (think vacuum cleaners, humidifiers, and clothes dryers). You can even find soothing CDs of womb sounds. The rhythmic sound of a shower may also be music to your colicky baby's ears. Turn on the water and put him in a bouncer seat on the bathroom floor. When your baby's ready for a change (or you are), try lullabies or other gentle tunes.
# Rockers, swings, bouncers, and carriers. Everyone knows that babies like to be rocked. In fact, they're comforted by gentle motion of all kinds — try a baby swing, or a simple bouncer. Your baby might also find it soothing to be walked around the house or the neighborhood in a front pack or sling. Keep in mind that he may prefer being held higher in the pack, close to your chest and your heartbeat. Try gently bouncing up and down in this position while hugging your baby close. Keep in mind, though, that while some babies are comforted by motion, others need a reduction in all stimulation and respond better to quiet, stillness, and darkness.
# Swaddling. Think about how snug your baby was before his birth, and you'll have a good idea how wide the world seems to him right now. Swaddling — a method of wrapping your infant in a blanket or cloth — can help him feel less out of control. You can try swaddling him during feedings if he has trouble focusing on his meal, during his usual colicky period, or for sleep. Not only might it help him get to sleep, there's a good chance it will help him stay asleep, too. Researchers have found that babies who are swaddled sleep more soundly than those who aren't. That's because when a baby twitches during sleep, his own movements often wake him up. Swaddling keeps that little twitch from becoming a full-fledged flail — something he's not likely to sleep through. The swaddling technique is easy to master. Once you find that your baby loves to be swaddled, you may even want to invest in a special swaddling bunting.
# Aromatherapy. Some babies respond well to scent. Aromatherapists develop essential oil formulas, based on aroma, for a variety of problems and conditions, from headaches and fatigue to anxiety and fear. You might try one geared for calming and soothing nervousness. A spritz of rose oil or a scented bath might just do the trick (if not for your baby, then for you).
# Pacifiers. Anything that helps your baby calm down is priceless right now. For some babies, sucking is the ultimate soother. So you might want to try offering a pacifier, even if you ordinarily wouldn't.
Tip: Many parents find that the noise and vibration of a ride in the car is the best remedy for colic. Buckle your baby into his car seat and go for a drive to get a change of scene for you and (possibly) relief for your baby.
Caring for a colicky baby can be very stressful and for your own emotional well-being, you need to take regular breaks. Be sure to have your mate or a friend or relative take over for you while you take a walk, go shopping, or have a good cry yourself.