My daughter over 2 and a half and I am having a 2nd in 3 months. I sort of half assed tried to potty train her just a few months ago, but just gave up (Id let her sit on the potty when I went etc). The other day I said to her "today you are pee peeing on the potty" and I stuck her in a pair of panties and informed her that we dont pee or poop in panties. She seems to understand that thats the case and that pee and poo go into th epotty. The first day, we peed on the floor twice and peed in the potty twice. She seemed very happy with herself and her bribes when she peed in the potty. The next day she didn't really want to sit on it at all, today she doesn't really want to sit on it at all. But she doesn't seem to want to pee or poo (especially) in her panties. She's tried to her her diaper back on and I think she is holding both pee an dpoo. A few times she said "i pee pee in my panties" and when I felt it was just a little bit wet (like she started to pee and then stop). She also had a little poo mark in her panties and we sat her on the potty for a while,b ut then nothing else happened. So my dilemma is that do i just say "oh screw it" and her diapers back on? (knowing she will absolutely and without hesitation poo an dpee in them) or continue to keep her in panties and keep offering th epotty? I hate this!! I am so frustrated and I find myself just getting angry. PS I mostly have tile, so I got THAT going for me!
She is not ready.
And, once a child starts to withhold their pee or poop... this will cause medical problems. Not good.
She really is not ready.... cognitively or physically.
OK, it's so not worth getting angry over - she will pick up on your frustration and it can all backfire. The question is, does SHE want to be potty trained or do YOU? I can understand with a baby on the way not wanting 2 kids in diapers, but potty training on a deadline, especially if the child is not ready, generally does not go well. Plus, even if you do get her trained before baby arrives, the stress and change that comes with a new sibling can cause them to regress anyway. Every child is different in terms of when they are ready (physically and emotionally) and things generally go much more smoothly when they are truly ready - and it sounds like she is not. At least not enough. Let her have her diapers so you don't start running into issues with her holding on to her poop and whatnot - some kids aren't even ready until they are closer to 4 and we just have to be patient. I'm still playing the waiting game myself. Even once a child decides they are ready it can take weeks to months to have it all down (pee, poop, day vs. night, etc.). It is only a nightmare if you let become one.
Oh yeah, go back to diapers, have your baby, and try her again when baby is about six months old and everybody is getting used to life with a new family member. My kids are about the age difference of yours and that is what I did. Ultimately they have to be in charge of their own pee and poo, you just can't do that for them or control them in that area. My son trained at three no problem!!! I got him awesome underwear with characters and he had some thick cloth trainers. I set the underwear out where he could see it. When he asked if he could wear it I said "Sure, as soon as you tell me you are ready to go to the potty" He eyed them for a month and said he was ready one day. I said "great! as soon as you go one whole day in your cloth trainers without any accidents you get your big boy underwear." He was in underwear on day three and we have never looked back. Now he wears the cloth trainers sometime too bc they are really soft and comfy but he never has any accidents, he views it all as underwear, which it is. So I would totally let it go, let the whole power struggle go, let her see you are not worried or stressed about this at all. I wouldn't even bring it up. Then maybe a few months after baby, just put out some cute princess or Dora underwear, or just whatever she likes and see if her interest will peak. She will tire of diapers and being changed, sounds like she is just not ready and honestly, she might regress when baby came anyway, so waiting will be less stressful in my opinion. The minute you relax about it, she will too, and you will all feel better. She will train, she will train quickly, when she is ready. Good luck mama, and congrats on your soon coming little one :)
It sounds like she is on the right track to potty train soon but is not yet ready...Because I was in your situation I just had 2 in diapers for a short time. My DD got tired of it, stopped regressing and finally the light bulb went on and she wore big girl pants one day and that was it. Nighttime took longer. Let her wear her diaper..When she is ready you'll know it.
Potty training can take months when you start because you want it, but the child is not yet equipped to handle the challenge. Potty training is ultimately a process that the child must want, and must control, or else she's not trained.
If you wait until she's actually ready to go for it, success will be quick, and a positive accomplishment for her, just as crawling, walking and talking were joyful achievements. It sounds like she hasn't yet connected sensation to outcome, or is not ready to accept the new sensations of letting go without the 'safe' diaper on. Withholding can cause complications, consitpation can cause pain and slow the process down tremendously. But at some point she'll have all her little ducks in a row (neurological, physical, and emotional) and she will WANT to be in panties.
I'd leave her in diapers for now and do all the positive, interest-building pre-training stuff, like modeling how easy/quick it is for you to use the toilet, reading potty books or watching potty videos, having her toys/stuffed animals role-play pottying, and in general making a game of it.
Another reason not to push her faster than she's ready is that regression is extremely common when a new baby arrives on the scene, and you'll just have that much more cleanup and mutual 'failure' to deal with. She will want you to give her as much TLC as the newbie, and wanting to be in diapers or having potty accidents is often part of the picture, particularly if she's not on board emotionally with being trained yet.
Here's an extremely informative site that gives some great "readiness" checklists, plus the skinny on the various approaches to potty-training, their advantages and challenges. http://www.parentingscience.com/toilet-training-readiness...
Good luck, and congrats on the growing family.
If you are this frustrated, imagine how she must feel. If you wait until she is really ready it will be much easier on both of you. Relax. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. She will be potty trained when she is ready.
She doesn't really sound ready. Sounds like YOU are ready...but your daughter? Not so much.
I guess you've got 2 choices--push forward or abort the mission for now.
Maybe ask her.
Good luck!
She's getting it. This takes time. I have 4 kids 4 grandkids, none of them were fully potty trained until they were within 2-3 months of being 3 yrs old. With my first 2 I had 2 in diapers for almost a year. Most of it has to do with being able to control the muscles and kids are all different.
It depends, do you want her trained or not? Either they are too big for diapers, or they aren't. If they are too big for diapers, then you have some work on your hands. You will have to help her potty until she can do it for herself. Expect her to need your help for many months to come. 2 year olds are too busy to go the potty, so they frequently need some gentle reminders (race you to the potty before going outside!)
She isn't old enough to take on all the responsibility herself, and there will be accidents, lots of them, for a long time to come. She does sound very ready.
If you can't keep your emotions in check, then I suggest you put off potty training till she is old enough to not need help. The more emotion you show, the greater the chances that this will become a "control" area. That is the last thing you want!
Potty training is not an overnight process. It takes time. AND PATIENCE - YOURS. No reason to be angry about it.
It sounds like you've only been doing this for two days? Potty training can take months. Please be patient with her. Keep encouraging her and have her sit on the potty often. It is OK to use pull-ups when leaving the house, to make it easier to deal with accidents. But don't stop having her use the potty whenever possible even while wearing pull-ups or away from home.
My daughter was trained by age two, but I started by gently introducing the potty to her at 14 months. It's just a real gradual process, usually.
Try running water in the sink or tub while she's sitting on the potty (a trick learned from my Mom) and either moving the potty or having a second potty right in the room with her where she is playing.
And the only signs needed that a child is "ready" to be trained is that they are old enough to say "potty" and to pull down their own pants.
Nope - don't stop. This is how it works. It will all click in a few days. And accidents will happen for months (and months) so always keep extra pants in the trunk! And keep a bucket with water and vinegar filled up - then you can easily clean up messes. Dump at night and refill in the morning.
Potty training sucks - I agree. But you're in the thick of it so you should just keep going!
One thing I suggest is that wherever you are (supermarket, mall, parking lot) make her go. Don't let her not have access to a toilet for more than 45 minutes. and make her sit on it. And trust me, it gets better every day.
Good luck!!
the worst time to potty train is when you r getting ready to have a new baby ( the oldest one will want to be in diapers again to be a baby as well) aso you can either wait. Or, get it done fast. With my daughter, i would take her and sit her on the potty every 15 minutes to pee. She absolutely wouldnt poo, so after a week of giving in, i told her that her diapers were all gone and that she could poo inj her pants or in the potty like a big girl. So she held her poo for 3 days and when she couldnt take it anymore, she went and realized that it wasnt scarey and was fine. youve just got to be determined....
Have you tried pull-ups? Going cold turkey on anything is hard no matter how old you are. It sounds like she is showing interest in potty training, but doesn't totally get it. Maybe try giving her a book to read while she sits on the potty.
