C. (and all who have responded) -
Thank you so much for posting! I am in exact situation with my 3 year 10 month old girl. We potty trained in May - pretty much over a weekend. She pooped on the potty then. After a week or so she started asking for the pull-up to poop. She has always had some 'pooping issues' (not going enough, hurting, etc) - so we did not want to cause OTHER issues in this area. So we gave her the pull-up. This was not without some 'tough love' and tears - but we did give in... I must admit.
So - here we are in late October - still giving the pull-up. We have discussed, we have tried PRESSING the issue, we have the bribe in the living room - front and center and what SHE chose (police cars), etc etc. We are now at least having her IN the bathroom in her pull-up for pooping. My next thought is to have her SIT on the potty (big or little), so that she can get the hang of the muscles needed to poop sitting down (she has ALWAYS pooped in a standing up position). Someone suggested this to me - and then to possibly CUT the pull-up away - until it is GONE - with each attempt... When she is peeing, we make a game of her 'trying to boop' at the same time (aka FARTING) - so she can get the 'action' required... I am also thinking of trying what someone recommended to 'spike' her food a little to FORCE the poops. Through all of this, I am concerned about making too big a deal of it - and causing constipation and bigger issues than THIS... I am hoping she will surprise herself one of these days - and it will all be over.
Keep in touch and let me know how you get it solved. And someday we will look back at all this fondly, right? Or maybe not fondly... :-)
-M.