Okay I know there have been a lot of these, but please help me. I started potty training my son when he was 2, he is not almost 3 1/2 and he still won't tell me when he needs to go, i have to take him every 2 hours or so, and he still won't poop in the potty, when he needs to poop and he is sitting on the potty he gets really agitated and doesn’t want to sit there any longer, now if he begins pooping in his underwear and then i get him to the potty he will finish there. We have tried the reward system, and he understands that he gets a reward only when he poops in the potty, but I guess he doesn’t care anymore. I am at a loss, Please help me!!!
My advice is to relax, my son did the same thing. He will get it when he is ready. My boy is now 4 and he has never had an accident. Potty training was a nightmare we tried everything...now I realize he just wasn't ready. When he was finally ready it just happened and never had any issues afterwards. Hang in there and just remember he will not be going to college in diapers! Good luck!
I always said I'd never use candy as a reward. That changed. I would use M&Ms. He would get one for telling me he needed to go, one more for tee-tee, two for pooping, and one more for washing his hands.
My three year old finally "got" potty training when I made him clean himself up after each accident. I would just stand him in the tub and let him strip off his own wet or soiled clothes and then hand him wipe after wipe until he got all the poop wiped away.
He only pooped in his pants twice after he was totally responsible for doing the cleaning. The second time it happened he cried and cried because poop was "gross".
I was doing all the cleaning up and he just stood or laid there while I cleaned and wiped...so it was never his problem.
Also, I had him pick out his own underwear, per all the advice (he had Thomas and Spiderman...and had no qualms at all about peeing or pooping on them)...I had an odd pair of undies with frogs and alligators on them, he got as a gift. Anyways...we got down to that last pair and as soon as he saw the animals on them (he LOVES animals) he said "I can't poo poo or pee on my ANIMALS!!" This happened about the same day or so as I started the new cleaning yourself routine. I raced out and found every pair of animal undies I could find.
So, animal undies or cleaning himself...don't know which...but its what worked for me.
Hi A.-
Honestly, it sounds like you've gotten trained instead of him if you're taking him every 2 hours. My guess is that you just started too early and he wasn't ready yet. My suggestion would be to stop. Explain to him that you want him to go on the potty when he needs to and even go ahead and offer another reward for when he does go but it has to be him initiating it. Encourage him, gently remind him when he does go in his pull up or underwear but let him make the decision that he is ready and wants to do it. Once it's his call he'll figure it out and he'll be so proud of himself when he does! Right now it's you telling him every 2 hours that he has to go sit on the potty, and that's no fun!! You're in a power struggle and you need to take yourself out of it.
Good luck,
K.
Well, I can tell you that..I got a book and said lets go read and get all that nasty stuff out..he would grab my hand soon after and tell me lets go read...he loved to read and listen and he felt relaxed...it will come in time..dont rush it and have fun with it...he feels overwhelmed..this is a big step..good luck!!!
He is not ready! Don't force this issue. You don't want him hating going potty and it being a battle. My some was almost 4 before he just did it all by himself! Potty training is a developmental thing, don't rush it. It WILL come. Hang in there as I know it is so frustrating with them being older but hang tight, soon, soon!!
You could try keeping his bottom naked when your at home so that he doesnt have any pants(or diaper) to use the bathroom into.
Lot's of good tips on potty training at this blog on young children. Good luck!
http://blogs.goddardsystems.com/Cedar-Park-TX/2009/12/13/...
