hi T., her 1st food should be infant cereal mixed with breastmilk or formula, rice first, then oatmeal, barley, etc... general rule of thumb is to intro each new food alone for about 4-5 days before introducing something else. after introducing the cereals, you can move on to veggies and fruits, then the meats. just steam the veggies and process them. some people say to start with the yellow veggies, some just say to start with veggies over fruits, they say that if you intro the fruits first they wont want the veggies because theyre not sweet. though if you are nursing, the breastmilk is sweet anyway, so theyve had it. lots of people cook and strain the fruits, i always just processed them raw, peels and all, i think its more nutritious that way and they always loved it, though i used to peel stuff that i couldnt get organic right in the beginning, dont know if that was necessary or i was just being paranoid, but thats what i did. neither of my kids ever had a jar of store bought baby food, and its really no big deal, especially if you have one of those little processors sitting right next to the stove. its really up to you, i was a lot stricter with the order of things with my first than my second, and they were both amazing eaters, no problems (now my son is 3 and gives me a hard time, though my little one will still eat anything i put in front of her.) anyway, that super baby food book that someone mentioned is a good starting point, though i agree that it makes it more complicated than it needs to be, though the basis of their recipies is a very healthy grain mix, i used a lot of whole grain brown rice, lentils, and wheat germ, that book will give you more, i forget the rest. plus they have some helpful charts you can flag to keep track of the order of things if you like, guidelines on when to give what and so on. once you start mixing things, go for nutritional punch with things like kale, collard greens, brussel sprouts, spinach and broccoli. i make up big batches of "super veggies" and freeze little cubes, i still throw them into the kids food all the time, eggs, cereal, etc. some books will tell you not to make your own baby food out of certain things like spinach, and maybe carrots? because they can be high in nitrates. there are also some foods you should wait on, eggs (just the whites? or the yolks? i forget, one is a longer wait than the other), fish, nuts, peanuts, though more so if you have allergies in the family, talk to your doc. no milk till 1 year old, then whole milk till 2. no juice, i dont know how long, ideally forever, i think! anyway, i used lots of apples and pears to sweeten the veggies. really, i went crazy with my first baby, making all kinds of recipies and things, with my second, i usually just processed whatever we were eating once she was introduced. the introducing one at a time can take forever, you will probably be doing that for a while, though once a food is "in", its in, and you can mix it up. it can be fun to try different stuff. great starter foods are squash if you are going for the veggies first, and bananas if youre not, just mush it up with a fork. i found the easiest way to do the baby food is to make big batches and get those little tupperwares and freeze them. tupperware has those little things for salad dressing, theyre about 2 oz each, which is plenty for a serving for an infant. if you look in the one step ahead catalog (or online) they have these little cubes that you can use too, i love them, though the tops tend to pop open when you freeze them if you fill them too much. im sure you can just use an ice cube tray too, i would cover it, or maybe just freeze and then throw the cubes into little baggies. dont nuke anything in plastic, let it sit in hot water to defrost. sorry if you know this stuff already, just trying to cover the bases. remember that it can take many tries before the baby will figure out how to eat, theyre used to tongue thrusting in order to nurse or drink from a bottle, so its a switch for them, my kids never had a problem, though i waited till 6 mos to start, might be different at 4. if she pushes it back out at first, just try again, maybe wait a few days if she continues to give you a hard time with it and try again, she might not be ready yet. either way, have fun with it, its so much fun to see them discovering all the new tastes and textures! take care, D.