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I have had almost the same problem with my 8 year old step daughter my husband and i have had full custody of her since she was 2 years old and her mother used to disapear for months at a time but now is finally starting to get her act together (somewhat) and has visitation every other weekend. I am also a stay at home mom since we got full custody of her so she is very attached to me we started out with little outings with her mom because she would not let me leave her and i did not trust her mother with my daughter we would go to parks and all 3 of us played together we do not fight or argue in front of her as hard as that is eventually she has gotten to the point where she will go with her for the weekend but calls me a couple of times a day when she is away usually morning and before bed to say good morning and good night. The most imortant thing is to get along with the father as best as you can for your daughters sake and meet toghether so she knows you are not gone for good like dad does and has been that is what she is most worried about start slow and let him know this is what is best for his daughter and their relationship and tell him honestly it is because he has left for the military leave out him leaving other than that it will only start a fight. And make sure he will let her call you any time day or night I have gotten many 1am bad dream calls even if you need to buy a cheap prepaid cell so if you are running errands she can call you most phone companies have a forwarding service for no fee that way when she is gone you can forward your house phone to the cell # and she only has to make one call and she dosn't think you are out having fun with out her. I learned that the hard way we had to start from scratch because i wasn't home when she tryed to call i was at the grocery store with out her also if you have plans when she is gone DO NOT tell her what they are but you also can not tell her you are sitting at home being sad and missing her so much that gives her a guilt trip and she will feel bad that she is leaving you alone. I hope this has helped you. If you have anymore questions please feel free to email me anytime ____@____.com