My daughter just turned 3 early Dec. and still uses a pacifier to sleep. How do I get rid of it all together?
Thank you ladies so much for all the wonderful advice. Well I used the "Pasy Fairy". I talked to her for a week about how the pasy is for babies and that the pasy fairy was going to come and take it and give it to a new baby that needs it and that she will leave you something(money) to say thank you. It worked like a charm. She has not asked for at all.
1. Trade in the pacifier for a "big girl item" that she wants.
2. I took my son to the zoo when he was 2 1/2 and he "gave" his bottle to a baby monkey who needed it more than he did now that he was a big boy.
3. When my older son was 2, he dropped his pacifier at the beach - I told him a baby shark had it now. he cried for a day, but survived. Stop buying new ones and eventually she will drop/lose this one and thats it.
Good Luck
I just had to write and respond to you because I really had a tough time getting my daughter to give up her beloved Binky.
We had a very gradual but tearless resolution when it was time to say goodbye to binky. I tried everything to get her to stop using them, by the way. I even cut the very tips off of the ends of them to make them less appealing! She STILL used the cut pacifiers anyway!
Finally, just before her 3rd birthday, we decided she was really ready to give the pacifier up. I could just tell the time was right, as I am sure you can with your daughter. We had a little talk, my daughter and I and I told her a "very exciting" story. I explained that the amazing "Binky Fairy" would be visiting soon. THe fairy would be coming to take the binkies away from the "big kids" who didn't need them anymore so that she could deliver them to tiny babies who really had to have them. My sweet almost-3-year-old girl seemed okay with the thought of the fairy idea and almost a little excited. After a week of "Fairy Binky" hype and stories from me, it finally happened. While my daughter was fast asleep, I snuck into her room at night. I decorated her entire room with pink balloons and streamers everywhere. I gathered all of the binkies she had and put them far away in a closet. In the morning, her binky was gone and my daughter was so excited to see the balloons and decorations. I made a whole big deal about what a big girl she was. Also, my daughter found a letter that had been left for her by the "binky Fairy". I read it to her (guess who wrote it :) It told her how pround the fairy was of her for being such a big girl and that her binkies would be given to babies who really need them. She really was very excited about the whole thing and never shed a tear over losing her binkies. I truly hope this story helps. :) Good Luck and I wish you the best!
-A. M.
In my situation we started telling her pacis were for babies and when she used hers, we used to tell her ohh, you are a baby. One day, I hid all of them, she couldnt find them, she cried but then forgot about them. It lasted for 2 days and now the paci has been gone for months!! She turned 3 dec 9th, and stopped the paci in early oct.
Good luck!
at that age we were 'down' to just one pacifier
at around 3 & 1/2, the one pacifier got 'lost'
(it really did!)
and it was nap time...we searched high & low for it & I somehow talked my son into taking his nap without it, telling him it was nap time and he could take a nap & I would continue to look for it. I told him while he was napping I was going to search the whole house & call everyone- daddy, etc, to help try & find it...
it went better than expected!
then that night it was still 'lost'
so I told him to close his eyes & pretend he had his pacifier- I had him remember what it was like- & I told him a little story of him being a baby & geting a pacifier in the hospital, and how it was everywhere; his bouncy, his excersaucer, his crib, his pac n' play, his stroller, his carseat (somehow they like this stuff!)& how as he got bigger it was just for the car seat and crib & sometimes the stroller & then he got bigger & got a big boy bed & then the pacifier was only there for naps and night time & then how he's so big now...then I sang a little song (I made it up) about remembering the pacifier and how it was still with him in his heart & head & how he was going to dream about it, etc).
it worked!
that was the end of the pacifier.
He requested the story maybe for a week or so (they love being told about how they were a baby)&
I still sang the little song to him for maybe a week or two until he just forgot to ask about it...
others have had their child give them to babies in the hospital who need them (gather them & place in a box & wrap up the box as a present)
others have told the story of the Pacifier Fairy who comes and takes the pacifiers (for babies who need them) and then the Pacifier Fairy leaves a present...
you could try a combination of things
HTH (hope this helps)
Hi C.;
Been there, done that...it is a difficult task to tackle-but you CAN do it...with the help of your daughter!
The idea is to let HER be the one who is in control (or least she thinks she is). Talk to her about how big of a girl she is and what GREAT toys (prices) there are for a BIG girl, things a baby cannot have. Then explain to her how many babies are out there that don't have any pacifiers at all and how nice it would be to give all of her "binkies" to the "binky-fary" so she can deliver them to the babies at night so they can sleep and don't have to cry. In return the binky-fairy would bring something really special to her because she is such a nice girl to give up her pacifiers!
My daughter picked out a bed for her baby-doll but then deceided she wanted the binkies back. Needless to say the bed went in her closet (with the door open so she could see it but couldn't touch...) until she "changed her mind" 2 or 3 days later and wrapped up every pacifier in sight! She only asked once or twice but was easily consoled knowing that "some baby" out there is happy because of her.
Just make sure that you don't give in to find "one last binky" once your daughter truely made up her mind to give them up--get them out of the house!!
Good luck, hope it works out!
I. ( mother of 3, 2 are "ex-binkey addicts")
Hi C.!
I'm old school so I know many moms are going to disagree with my technique. My always swore that when I had a child that I will not let them pass a yr. old with their pacifier or bottle. When my daughter turned one I took away her pacifier and bottle cold turkey. It was difficult for about a week but it worked out great. She definately gave me a hard time with the pacifier but I was so determined not to have a child walking around with a pacifier passed a yr. old.
Everyone has their own way of doing things and that was my way and it worked out great. Rough for the first couple of nights but so worth it.
