How to Handle a Child Who Hits Mine

I would just tell her that hitting isn't nice and forgiving her is better then hitting back. If it continues then perhaps she need not play with her. But, atleast she got to see the little girls mom discipline her so there was a chance for both of them to learn hitting isn't right.
Hugging and conferting her is good. But, help her learn forgiveness I hope the other mom asked her to appologize that would give both them a chance for forgiveness.
GOod luck.

Good morning. I run a small in home daycare and my response to the kids is always consistent in this position. I normally say "and that wasn't a very good choice was it, because hitting can hurt. Maybe next time we can use words instead of hands" then give them a hug. This reinforces you KNOW it hurt (even if it didn't physically, it hurt their feelings) yet next time if they are the hitter, you can inforce the "YOU made a poor choice to hit them...let's use words".

Just a suggestion. Good luck!
D.

J.,

No one likes to see their child bullied, but unfortunately hitting happens, especially with very young children. You were right to not make a big deal of it. If you overreact, your child will be more apt to tattle for attention.

Later, especially if your daughter begins to immitate the behavior or she brings it up again, talk about it. Without demonizing the child who hit, just explain that children sometimes do that. It is wrong and when children hit, they go to time out. Tell her you hope next time the other little girl will remember not to hit. Then give your child some strategies if it happens again. 1. It was good that you didn't hit back. 2. Tell the little girl to stop; it hurts you. 3. Walk away and play elsewhere.

I am glad to hear the mom did something about it.

Best wishes,
S.

Use that as a "life lesson". Hitting is not nice and because she hit you she is in time-out. That is what will happen if you had hit her back or if you hit someone. Kids are going to hit, your daughter included, they have to test the waters. I really don't think this was a big issue, if the other mother had not disciplined her daughter and it continued then that would be a problem.

The best thing to do is just point out that hitting is not nice and that the other little girl is getting time out for it. Also be sure to praise her for not hitting back; that's really great that she didn't retaliate.
Other than that you handled it wonderfully! Good job!

Dear J.,
I usually just told my children that I was sorry they got hurt, and that yes, hitting hurts and isn't nice at all. And of course, gave hugs and kisses. If the other child has apologized, I would also point that out, and let my child know that we must forgive. Children are wonderful in that they don't usually hold grudges, and will be playing nice together again in no time. And good for your friend for disciplining her child right away. You can't ask for more than that. :)

M. B

You are right. Hitting is not ok. There are two sides to every story did your daughter do something to provoke the other girl?

That is beside the point. I would tell your daughter that hitting is not ok and her mommy is taking care of it.

I think you handled it fine...if you want to go into more detail why it's ok (telling your daughter that the other child got time out for hitting)then tell her.