Husband Thinks He Has Potty Training Solution!!

I actually tried the same thing... kinda. I put underwear on him with a pull-up over it, thinking that he would feel the wetness, he could pull it up and down like underwear, and it would eliminate messes. No good. He didn't care that he was wet and wouldn't tell me. I tried just underwear and he hated the feeling of it running down his leg, so he told me right away when he was wet. I'm taking a break for a week or two, but when I start again, I'm going fullforce with just the underwear.

I agree, do not put a diaper on him, that is regressing back to diapers and you'll have to start all over!

Tunk your dh in the head. ;)

I have a daycare and when the kids in my care are training I put the thicker underwear on them then I buy the plastic pants- the ones that you use for cloth diapers, and put those on over them. They help protect everything and they still feel the wetness when they go. That always seamed to help. I think when you are potty training diapers should be totally out of the picture. maybe just use pull ups for bed time.

I did the same thing as ur sayin... i just put underwear on my girls when i potty trained them... it was way easier. its easy to clean up messes i mean look u probably pick up after the kids every day. Second have u ever thought about tryin the plastic that goes over the underwear. its just like underwear so its not confusing to the kids so they think that its a diaper. I agree putting diapers or pull ups are confusing kids. and sometimes just lettin them walk around with nothing is hard cause they go and u don't know where they went. Just went through that with my 3 year old neice. We couldn't find it any where in the house. ewwwwwww anyways... good luck and hope u guys find a solution that will fit both ur ideas.

Hi A.,
I agree with you, putting on a diaper over underware will confuse him. It sounds like he is doing a good job so far. Your husband has to remember that it doesn't happen overnight. My son also did well when he was naked but when I put underware on him he would forget and have accidents. Since it was summer I didn't really worry about it. By winter he had it down. No accidents. Sounds like your son is pretty close. Keep up the good work.
Chris

Hi A.! I agree that your husband's theory probably won't be the best way to go about training Nick. HOWEVER, I'd tell your husband that if he really wants to try his way, that he can take a week off work (b/c it takes a good week to potty train). Then he can be the one to clean up the messes, ask Nick if he has to use the potty, etc. This will also give YOU a week off! Take the baby and go to the beach and hang out while daddy and son learn to use the potty ;)
I actually let my husband train our son. Mike said he really thought that his way might work and he wanted to try - so by all means, I let him!!! He stayed home from work for a week (while I went to work) and would you know - his method worked!!! I'm pretty sure he called his mom a few times for advice!! But the point is, he wanted to try his way, so I let him. If your hubby wants to try his way - then let HIM do it!! And if / when that way doesn't work out - you tell him, okay, NOW we are going to try my way and see how that works out!!!
Goodluck and let me know how it works!!
Linds

Keep doing what your doing. He is only 2 1/2 and he seems to be getting it. My daughter got it but didn't actually want to use the potty until she was 3. Kids will have accidents even after they are trained so tell hubby to get over it.

Good Luck.

you are absolutely right A.! you're the one home with him all day, you know whats best. go with your gut.

diaper would just soak it up.. what if you got those rubber pants? meijers sells them I believe

Hi A.. We (when I say "we" I mean me) are also in the process of potty training our 2&1/2 yr old son. I agree that diapers are confusing, and just the feel of the diaper on will make him think it's OK to go in his pants. Naked does not work for us, he will just go on the floor since it does not get him wet at all. I use underwear, but at first when he was having accidents, I used the W. cotton absorbent underwear (called training pants from Target). They absorb a little more than the regular underwear and put shorts on him as well, that will help. In the beginning when he was peeing in his pants, he would not make a mess on the floor, his underwear and shorts would just be wet. Anyway, good luck. I know what you are going through with a "know-it-all" husband.

I agree with you, it will confuse him. Maybe try plastic pants if you're really concerned about the mess. He can pull those down with his undies. Another option would be training underpants that are extra thick fabric. They cost more but do catch the accident much better then regular undies. You can find both side by side in the infant department at Wal-mart for sure (just got them for my daughter on Monday)and probably at Target or Kmart too. DO NOT put the diaper over the underpants whatever you do.

HI A., I have been working on potty training my daughter who is 2. I am reading everything in sight. Every book that I have read, every parent that I talk to, and the experience with my 13 yr old, says no diapers or pull ups. Once you get rid of them, get rid of them! They confuse the child. Instead, try some of the absorbant underwear. They really do absorb a lot. But in your case I wouldn't even do that, he has it down pat without anything, so you're pretty much there. Take him to the store and let him pick out his underpants and a toy, tell him that if he can keep his new underwear dry for 3 days he will get the toy (obviously you want an inexpensive toy) or try a treat like going to the park or some other favorite place of his. but explain that he has to be able to pee in a potty before he can go. Good Luck

You know, I just saw a comercial the other day on tv about a pull up they have out now for potty training that makes it so they can "feel" it. It gets cold- that way they know when they went. http://www.pull-ups.com/na/products/coolalert.asp?WT.srch...

Same concept as your husbands idea except that it's a pull up made just for that.

I totally agree with you!!!! Putting a diaper on your child WHILE potty training will give him mixed messages - is he a Big boy or a baby?! I think what you are doing is excellent. My daughter was the same way. If she had a pull-up on or underwear, she would soil herself. If she had nothing on, she would try and hold herself because she did not want to be wet. It took her about 2 weeks to really get it down and of course, there is the occasional accident - she still tries to wait too long before going to the bathroom because she wants to keep playing. I would not change a thing on what you are doing. Best of luck - it will happen soon.