Can you give an example of something bad she did? it is hard to give advise with out specifics :)
H.... Thanks got it :)
Okay, The whole subject of one human spirit in charge of all important choices on behalf of another human spirit is bizarre.
Once we are " adult" we are allowed to choose, and no one comes along and tells us to Stay at home or removes our hair dryer or TV??? I know "but the police"...these issues our kids get grounded for are rarely of the breaking the law type :)
I try to prepare my children for a life where they can think for them selves and demand for the right to do so. I rarely " solve their problems" for them. We talk I make suggestions usually completely dumb suggestions to prompt them to solve their issues themselves. This really works, soon they can face and solve most things they run into.
I always give them the right to let them try to change or handle my viewpoint on the issues.
I teach them a no is never a no.... there is always a way.
in your daughters case i would have welcomed a solution so she could have gone to visit her new friend, especially because you have just moved there. kids need to have friends to feel alive.
She could have suggested a phone call, or that the kid came over to your place instead.
Do every thing you can to empower her, you don't want to raise a robot who ends up taking anti depressants because she coulden't speak up along the way and felt completely at the effect of life and the people in it = depressed.
Give her all of your reasoning, have her add some ...get her to solve her desires with your approval and support. This takes some time to refine this skill, but once in place parenting an older child becomes an amazing and proud journey.
Love H.
But sometimes usually when it deals with another adult in their life, teacher, a friend