I, too, have concerns about vaccinations. I was raised in a medical family, entered the medical field myself right out of college, and was fully indoctrined in the medical model. I faithfully took what the medical community "fed" me. However, I've now worked with entirely too many parents who have witnessed first-hand the negative consequences that have arisen from vaccine injuries. I understand that the medical community persists in stating that vaccines are not harmful. I would like to see that community investigate parents' reports of their children's responses to vaccines, as I believe that parents know their children best and if mom and dad say the child is different, then the child is indeed different. It's our responsibility, as a society, to find out why our children are having adverse reactions and to fix the vaccine process so that we don't harm our children in the process of trying to save them from disease.
I initially with-held my own daughter's immunizations due to concerns regarding autism. Now that I have done further research, my concerns no longer rest with just autism. I think that vaccines have helped thousands, if not millions, of people. However, too many vaccines are introduced to the human population without a thorough understanding of the full impact they may have. Furthermore, the vaccine schedule is a "one-size-fits-all" approach, rather than taking into account each child's medical history and the family history on both sides. My 11 month old child has food sensitivies and has had difficulty with her GI tract since birth. I, myself, have an autoimmune disorder. Her history of GI issues and my history of autoimmune disorders puts her at much higher risk of developing autism or another type of autoimmune disorder. We feel, for these reasons, as if we need to be more guarded with our approach to vaccinations.
I've read a few books that talk about vaccines. Of those, I would recommend "What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Children's Vaccinations" by Stephanie Cave & Deborah Mitchell. Stephanie is a physician who clearly presents information about vaccines. She methodically goes through each vaccine on the federally mandated schedule, presenting the history of the disease, the development of the vaccine, any changes that have been made to the vaccine, and reports of positive and negative outcomes for our society with each. I feel as if she did a great job of covering the topic in a non-judgmental way. She is not anti-vaccine.
Another great book, though it's definitely slanted against vaccinations, is "How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor" by physician Robert Mendelsohn. I, personally, enjoyed reading his book, as it was very refreshing to have a doctor who is willing to take an honest look at his profession rather than defend it to the death, as most docs do.
If you decide to delay immunizations or not to vaccinate at all, each state has a set of guidelines for exemption from the federally mandated vaccines. If people tell you that your child cannot attend church, daycare, or school because your daughter is not vaccinated, they are wrong. It's simply a matter of filling out the appropriate paperwork and submitting it. Scare tactics are regularly used in schools with parents being misinformed that their child cannot attend if he/she isn't vaccinated. Again, this is simply untrue.
Also, you may hear from other parents that they do not want their child to play with your child if she is not vaccinated. If they believe that vaccines really do work, then those parents shouldn't have anything to fear. Also, the medical community, while it would like 100% compliance with the vaccine schedule, admits that "herd immunity" is achieved when 90% of the population is vaccinated. Your child alone is not putting anyone at risk for anything.
Whether you and your husband decide to vaccinate, delay, or not vaccinate, you really do need to do the research for yourself instead of taking anyone's word (including mine). It's a very personal decision that each parent must make individually for each child they have. You know your daughter, you know the family history, and with a little research you will be equipped to do what you think is best for your family. Best wishes!