I've had two c-sections, and I really wish I could have done it differently! I don't know your reasons for wanting an elective c-section, but I've always thought that women who choose a c-section just don't know what they're getting themselves into. It sounds so easy, but it's not.
My first was emergency. If I were to cancel out the fear and uncertainty and just focus on the surgery itself, it still sucked. They didn't know how big my son was, and they didn't make the incision large enough. My incision tore, which caused bruising and swelling and a lumpier scar. As they were pulling him out, I got the worst headache I have ever had in my life! Besides the really disgusting feeling of the doctors yanking me around, I thought I'd pass out from the headache. The anesthesiologist started freaking out, because I couldn't talk to tell him it was my head and not that the anesthetic was wearing off or something. I also started shaking uncontrollably, and the anesthesiologist had to hold me on the table so I didn't flop off. I couldn't see my baby for 2 hours except on the LCD screen of our digital camera. And then I had 3 months of pain afterward. THREE MONTHS is a very long time to be in pain! It was horrendous.
When my second son looked like he'd be a 10 pounder, my new doctor said I shouldn't attempt a VBAC. I was upset, but resigned myself to my fate saying that at least I wouldn't be going through labor first. I even did my hair and makeup, thinking I'd look great in photos because I wasn't going to have to do anything but lay there.
I was wrong.
I had a spinal block. Just a few minutes into the surgery, I was really tired. I asked myself, "Huh, I wonder if they'd let me fall asleep? Wait, let's think about this. Why am I here, and what are they doing?" after a few minutes of difficult thought, I remembered "OH! I'm here to have a baby. I'd better stay away for that. Hmmmm....I'm so tired. I wonder if they'd let me fall asleep?" I was so loopy on the drugs, I couldn't even remember I was having a baby!
Then, as usual, I got a split second to see my baby before they whisked him and my husband off to the nursery. I didn't see him for over 2 hours. They wheeled me into a recovery area, which was blessedly dark. All I could think of was sleeping, since I was so tired. I was hooked up to all sorts of monitors, though, which started beeping whenever I started to drift off. The nurse kept coming over to wake me up, because she thought I was slipping into a coma. Then I started shaking because I couldn't control my body temperature. They had to put a heating blanket on me to get my body temp up. After 2 hours of that torture, they finally wheeled the bassinet in and then pushed me and the baby to our room. By then, my body temperature had swung the other way, and I was dying of heat. I made them crank up the a/c and was still hot, but everyone else was freezing, including the baby. I still couldn't hold him because he had to be under a heat lamp because my room was so cold. He was 3 hours old before I could hold him! Thankfully my recovery was much shorter, because I was able to get up and walk, but let me tell you, the first few days are excruciating!
You also can't get up to go to the bathroom for a while. You have a catheter. Then nurses have to help you because it hurts so bad to sit on the toilet and get up again, and because you could easily rip out your staples. And they don't let you shower for a while, which has you feeling really horrible. When they discharge you, you feel so ready to go home after 4 days, but then you wonder how you'll survive without the hospital bed to help you get up and nurses to bring you pain meds all the time.
I am SO not looking forward another c-section. I suppose a lot of women have them and don't have so many problems, but I know a lot who have had similar experiences to mine. So when women think it's the easier way to go, I just want to laugh!
Again, since I don't know your reasons for wanting one, I can't weigh them for you. Just take my experience into consideration and know that it is NOT the easy way out. I would much rather go through a few hours of pain during labor than weeks of excruciating pain afterward!
BTW, I had both babies in the room with me after my c-sections. But if you're alone when they start to cry, it's killer to try to get them out of the bassinet yourself. Horrible.
Coughing, sneezing, and getting out of bed hurt like #%$^$%^ for weeks after you otherwise feel better, even if you curl up around a pillow before you sneeze. Which is sometimes hard to do in time. You feel like you've pulled open your incision again.
I liked someone's description that you can't drive until you can do certain things "without passing out from the pain." She hit that right on the head! That's how bad it hurts!
And yes, walking is the thing that helps the most. The bassinets are usually on wheels, so you can push that around the maternity ward, leaning on the bassinet when it hurts too bad. And let me tell you, it hurts, bad.