Is It Age? Pregnancy Question

There is no question about it, we get less fertile as we age. But I agree with S. H. too. Getting pregnant and staying pregnant are different issues. You don't seem to be having trouble getting pregnant.

It didn't take you five months, it took you three months and you miscarried. It has only been two months since then. So, it hasn't taken you any longer to get pregnant than it did for either of your past pregnancies. Make sense? Hardly time to consult your doctor about it....

To me, after the miscarriage, you have been trying for only 2 months. Not 5.
You were pregnant.

My Doc says, if after trying for 6 months, then tell him.

You are not old.
I was older than you when I had my kids.

Go online and look for an ovulation calendar. Its free. There are many.
And KNOW your ovulation symptoms. Not just by a stick.

I also had a miscarriage before I had my son.
After the miscarriage, my Doctor said to WAIT 3 months, before trying again. Your body has to normalize and adjust.

Most doctors will tell you to try for a year before assuming something is wrong - especially when you've had kids before so it's not likely there is something wrong. This was my doctor's advice with my second pregnancy, which took longer to happen, and I was 37.

And, you did get pregnant after 3 months, although you miscarried early - which is really really common. I know it's emotionally hard to miscarry, but it's not an indication that anything is wrong, but rather it's actually a good sign in terms of your fertility because it proves that you can still become pregnant.

As long as you are ovulating regularly (and you are testing so you know), then it's not likely that you are having early menopause or anything like that.

I think you should give it 6 more months. If you have a regularly schedule annual exam before that, then certainly mention it. But I don't think this is anything to worry about.

Hey - I hear everyone and I don't disagree with them - but if you do want your baby NOW, you CAN work with the doctor on it. Your regular doctor ought to be able to review how the egg looks and when the "right" time is. I used a fertility specialist, but he was in Dallas and I live in Tyler, so my regular doctor did ultrasounds and sent them to him to review. But the ultrasounds were to see how the egg looked and if it was very particularly the right size. Then, the fertility doc actually gave me shot to release the egg at the exact right moment. So, a specialist can definitely help.

On the other hand, you are using the ovulation sticks - which really helps you know when you are ovulating. Since you are being so particular and "trying", I would give it another couple of months before you consult a specialist. Also, just an FYI, when the stick shows that you are ovulating the specialist told me that you want to fertilize on that day AND the day after.

Good luck!
L.

Hi. I completely understand what you mean. However, I found out after having numerous miscarriages it was a progestrone problem for me; as well as a fibroid. However, my doctor and my holistic doc told me that women that have numerous miscarriages have a progestrone problem and they usually prescribe either the progestrone cream / suppositories for you to take in the first trimester. Also, make sure you are taking prenatal vitamins. Ultimately in the end if you are still worried have your doctor to a full bloodwork on you and if the problem persists have them do an HSG (dye inserted into the uterus & tubes to view if there is any obstruction or fibroids). I am sorry for your miscarriages. It took me finding a great doc to help me...my kids are 18 and 4..yes big age gap. But now that we know what caused the miscarriages; we are now planning for baby #3 and look forward to the journey.

it could be secondary infertility. I would ask the doctor for a referral to a fertility specialist.

I'm sorry about the pregnancy losses. Hopefully a fertility specialist can help you figure out what's going on and not just chalk it up to age.

Your ob can run some blood work then determine if u need a specialist. I am 36 and pregnant w third and it took a lot of work. Hang in there.

Don't think it's all you.
What about your husband? Has anything changed with him? Has he gained weight? Has his diet changed? Has he stopped exercising since the kids came along?

I took me eons with my third, home runs in 1 month with my other three pregnancies.

I dont think its age because a old friend of mine has been struggling with her third, and she isn't even 30!

Btw, my first pregnancy was at 35.

It took over a year for number 3 to be conceived for us and it was certainly not from lack of trying! Most fertility doctors won't see you unless it's been over a year and I was at the point where I thought that such things might be necessary. Just relax, enjoy the process, stop focusing on the end result so much and enjoy the sweet kiddos you have already. It will happen. Your body probably needs some more time to recover from the miscarriage. Stress makes conceiving more difficult. Just enjoy time with your partner and it will happen.

My first two i was on the pill when i got preggo, my 3rd at 36 years took the second cycle. We have not prevented since baby was born, she 16 month and no pregnancy yet. Im 38. Sometimes it takes a bit, just relax and quit "trying".....easier said then done, i know.

I'm 36. It took me 6 months to get pregnant this time. I'm kind of surprised it happened so fast. You aren't that old. It will happen when it's supposed to. Once you hit 35, if you've tried unsuccesfully for 6 months, that's whem a doctor will do fertility testing.

Perhaps you were tat lucky. It took 21 months with my first child, when I was in my 20's and only 3 months with my second in my 30's. you've only been trying for two months. You're probably still recover g from the miscarriage even if it was an early one. Relax and give yourself at least 4 more months.

Btw, it does get harder to get pregnant as we get older, however I have two women in my immediate family who had children after the age of 40.