WAHT I HAVE DONE AT MOVIES WHERE ADULTS OR CHILDREN WERE DISRUPTIVE AND/OR DISRESPECTFUL.....We usually go to the movies at Shorline in Mt. View or The Mercado in Sunnyvale...once at Shorline, the people in front (the row just in front of us) were so loud, rude and obnoxious, after being told by management to settledown and it still didn't happen and they were not asked to LEAVE....I went to the ticket window and ask for my money back....I got my money back.
So, don't suffer in silence, if people are bothersome and have been POLITELY ask to stop and management has also asked, then go ask for your money back or new tickets!
Blessings.......
Dear E.,
Since your a new Mama, I hope you will take this to heart, it will save you some greif in the future.
I see this all the time, even in the nicest places. Some parents think their child is just so cute going from table to table or running up and down the isles making noise, that no one minds. People MIND, it’s annoying and not cute at all. It sounds like your little guy didn’t belong at this particular place.
I never let my child just walk or run around in a public place, restaurant, movie, church, grocery store, malls, etc. If he started getting restless or noisy, I took him outside so he could be noisy and run around if he wanted to. Parks, playground, your own home are places you can decide what’s O.K. or not O.K.
As for someone else shushing a child, if the parents aren’t taking care of the situation, I will say something and I think it is O.K. The manner, in which one does this, is another matter. For instance if I’m in a store and a child is running around unattended, I say where’s your mother or father? I tell them, go find your parents and stop running around. I especially hate those little shopping carts at the store, if the parents aren’t monitoring the children and the little ones are running into people because they are using the cart for a TOY!
If a child is in someone else’s home and does something out of line and the parent does not correct the child, I think its O.K. for the person whose home it is, to say something.
What parents view as not noisy or annoying, especially by the little ones, may be viewed quite differently by others. It’s a very touchy situation, but I would recommend all parents keep a close eye on their children when the family is in a public place.
A shouting match like the one you described should have never taken place. To escalate an already angry situation can sometimes be dangerous, especially with people you don’t know. What if your fiancé got into a fight and was hurt? Wouldn’t it be better to have just left or ask the manager or security if it was O.K. for your child to be doing what he was doing? Then they could have spoken to the men or let you know what their policy was.
Blessings.....