All I have to say is 3 kids, 7 and under. S.E.X. seems like a distant memory!
I know a BIG part of our lack of intimacy has to do with him getting SNIP SNIPPED. He has basically decided he doesn't want to do it (after we'd agreed he would when we were done having kids). Now that he looked into it he's not convinced it's a good choice. I am stunned. After having three children I can't believe a little snip snip and any long term effects would even be a topic of discussion. Even the OB said, don't give in, it's his TURN you've done your job.
Well it looks like if that would have worked, it wound have by now. So back to BC for me, I guess.
Thanks for giving me some perspective mamas!
SEX? What's that? Been together 8 years, married 2, I'm 49 with a 2 year old!
If I have a choice between sleep or sex; at my age I always pick sleep! LOL
When we're both in the mood. Sometimes that's every day, sometimes it's once a month. (He's 61, I'm 46, no kids living at home).
Average once to twice a week - some weeks more or less than others. I work 3 overnight shifts a week so that tends to cut into it.
its kind of hard to be spontanious ore even want too when you have kids, but after they move out and you get to your 40's the sex is so much better.... so remind hubby he has that to look forward to.
wow! Everyone elses answers make me feel terrible! I go to school right now and in clinicals. I get up at 500 am and usually not home until 600. I plays with my kids (6 and 2) and then I have to study until about 1100. Then I get everything ready for the next day and sleep. I get about an average of 4 hours of sleep a night. And on the weekends I am asleep on the couch by 1000. I feel bad for him, but what can I do?
We have it sometimes once a week and about twice over the weekend. We have 2 kids 7 and 5 and we just do it once they are in bed. They go to bed around 8pm and we go to bed around 10:30 so they are good and asleep. Sometimes we sneak in a quick one during the afternoon on Sunday while they are upstairs watching a movie. :o) You just have to know your kids and their routine...if they stay asleep once in bed, you have 7 nights to work with! :o) I am always tired and mostly lazy but I make it a point to get into it on weekends. Some wine at night and some flirting during they day help!
1-2x per week. He'd do it everyday if I was up for it!
Past several months... nada. The muffin shop is closed.
Prior to this year, usually daily.
Not often enough! We're both always so tired, and have to work around the kids. Ours are 7, 5, and 1... I can't tell you the last time w had morning sex!! I miss it, LOL. BUT I do feel like when we do manage to squeeze it in, it's worth the wait ;) We have little spurts where we'll do it a few times a week... but then won't for a few weeks. I'm much younger than he is and it kills ME, I'm always the one to initiate it... but like I said, we make up for lost time :)
1-2x a week, although husband would like it more often.
Daily or every other day....but we have been passing around a cold since the end of February...so maybe once a week lol.
I was the first to get sick, and now after caring for them I have it again..hopefully I will feel better soon so we can get back into the swing of things. ;)
My case is odd, my husband is only in town, 6 days out of a month.....so um, 8 times a month, lol
YES! I am glad, I am not the only one! That is my major problem that I often feel bad about, because I know my husband wants it more often. I have two kids (1 and 2), so you can imagine the time I don't have to have sex! Well, another reason is my mood is not there either. I often feel unsexy due to my body image, especially post delivery with my children. This conversation could go on and on with me, because I need help as well. Also, I'm turned off from alot of arguing or being upset or irritated with my husband. I am not an initiator of sex at all. I didn't use to be like that. I feel alot now that when we do have sex, it is just to please him and not myself. It is not a good thing over here at my house. Do you have relatives that can watch the kids for you and your husband maybe one weekday or weekend?
Love this post and reading the response's! Lol! We have 3 kid's...I never really thought of counting? lol....Maybe 3-4x's? I don't no? But life is hectic and we're parent's! What are we to expect! It's alot of work running after 3 kid's, homework, schooling, after school activities,sport's, making sure house is neat and dinner is done...Hubby working his butt off at work putting in 14 hour's a day 7 day's a week! But now after reading this I think I just might start counting, that's if I have the energy! LOL...
Once in 15months!! Can we say born again virgin! LOL! Its ok. Its totally by choice. :)
Riley, I love your comment "the muffin shop is closed" LOL. 1x per week for us. We have 3 young kids which does make it hard because we have to wait till they are in bed or watching a show. We also work opposite shifts. I am so tired by the time 9 pm rolls around, I nearly always choose sleep over sex. I have to admit I just don't want it much these days. But seeing how often a lot of you are doing it, I think I might need to make a bigger effort.
3-4 times a week.. Been married 11 yrs.
well I would be having sex but I just had an emergency C-Section on the 1st so I can't have sex hahaha. But before hand since I was pregnant maybe once every two weeks seeing as it hurt me to have sex. Other wise it would be a couple times a week. I have a 1 year old so he goes to bed at like 730. once I am healed though I am sure we will resume pertaining that our new son is a good sleeper. He isn't home yet from the hospital though.
We have four kids and he works four days a week, 12 hours a day on third shift. For us it's typically once a week. Lately it's been 4 times a week though. (Not sure what got into him...but I like it!)
Before baby? 5-6x a week.
After baby? 2-4x a week...
trying to work on that more... but it's pretty difficult when she sleeps in the room with us... we are also living with my in-laws, so that puts a damper on things too. Not to mention that it really restricts our 'spontaniety' (sp?) and the number of locations available to us. :P
We have 2 kids 18 months and 4 years. It totally varies from week to week. There have been times where we go the week and then Friday night realize we haven't been intimate all week :) HAHA.. I just miss our Saturday or Sunday mornings :( The kids always sneak in our room before we can do anything. We have been married for 2 1/2 years. I'd have to say it is anywhere between 1-6 times a week lol. you just never know :)
I'm pregnant with my 4th. Need I say more? All I can say is pregnancy hormones are wonderful for making the mood strike more often. I'm due in about 2 weeks so we enjoyed those pregnancy moments while they lasted.
Lately, only twice in the past three days since I just had a baby (never could stand to wait any longer than necessary), but later in pregnancy, no more than once a week (this was a more uncomfortable pregnancy). Before pregnancy with only two kids, at least 4 to 6 times a week. I get really cranky if we go more than a few days without doing anything, but we work opposite schedules so it is not always doable. :)
about 2 times per week, but we don't really keep track that much...we are the unusual ones among our friends. :)
We have 2 kids and both work full time.
3-4 times a week. Sometimes more. :)
Well it wasnt for my allergies we would be having it once a day or every other, if we are lucky, sometimes we would get it in twice a day everyday!! ha! but my allergies have been killing me and i cant stop coughing and sneezing long enough to do anything! so needless to say we are def DUE! btw mom of a almost 3 yr old!
