Lesbian Wedding Present

Updated on February 27, 2015
F.B. asks from Kew Gardens, NY
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Thought to get a friend who is getting married, some throw pillows similar to the traditional "Mr. & Mrs" ones you might get at a edding, only Mrs. & Mrs. as its a gay wedding. I would likely buy online. I like the look of these, in terms of the graphics, font, and color, but obviously, they are meant for a hetero couple. Apart from buying two, and setting aside the extra Mr ones with hopes that I might have a male gay wedding to attend down the line, any ideas?

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M48F2TU?psc=1

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F. B.

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

Do they have it on their registry?
How well do you know the couple??

I personally think it's a cute gift.

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C.C.

answers from San Francisco on

I would buy something off of their registry, if they have one. I say that because throw pillows are fairly specific, and their decor may not match the pillows (and then what? They couldn't exchange them!). No, stick to the registry unless they've specifically hinted at decor items they'd like. No need to get too creative with wedding gifts. I really think this is a time when practicality is best.

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T.F.

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I got married to a woman back in 2013 and a lot of our friends had never attended a gay wedding and thought they had to do something like this to be accepting.

No! Odds are the couple doesn't want more pillows. Do they have a registry? If so then pick out a dollar amount and spend it, if not it is a lot harder. Go to Bed, Bath and Beyond and ask what is a 'trendy' wedding gift. Use your judgement on wether or not it would be used.

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D.B.

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I'd make sure they're going to use "Mrs." first of all - I'd do that with a hetero couple too. If they are, then you can have a pillow embroidered rather than buy 2 sets; ask your local tailor shop if they do, or have someone who does, embroidery. A friend of mine just had aprons embroidered for some crafts she did at her 50th bday party. Or, if you just adore these pillows, you can buy 2 sets and put the remainders on Craigslist rather than wait for your own male friends to get married. That might be more money, though, than creating what you really want.

I'd really just do what I would do for any couple - I'd go to their registry or I'd use my own personal knowledge of them to buy something I think they would love. Gay and lesbian couples need exactly what heterosexual couples need: picture frames and coffee mugs and serving pieces and towels and decor items and everything else.

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Z.B.

answers from Toledo on

Ug! I've never been a fan of the Mr. & Mrs. gifts. It always made me feel like I gave up my identity. (Yes, my name is Michelle ... it's not Scott or Mrs. Scott Jones.)

If you think they will like them, great! But I would make sure. That's the type of gift I would have tossed aside wishing I could give it to someone else.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

If you go to etsy and type "same sex wedding gift" in the search bar hundreds of items pop up, I'd shop there!

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R.B.

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You're sure they will like this? I would not. I'd stick to the registry and something classic they'll have for decades.

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K.A.

answers from San Diego on

A Lesbian Wedding is exactly the same as a Hetero Wedding. Same needs and wants as any other wedding. They are setting up their home together, starting their lives together. Unless you know for sure they would want and appreciate Mrs. & Mrs. pillows, please don't get them just because it's a wedding of 2 females. If you believe they would enjoy them and want to get them then my suggestion is to look to etsy.com. That is the best place to look in my opinion. I would take a look at their registry to see what their chosen style is and see if they would fit. Congratulations to the couple! May they have a long and happy life together!

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O.O.

answers from Los Angeles on

Ugh. Personally? I wouldn't want those.
Don't they have a registry? I'd check that.
Otherwise? Ca$h.

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C.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

I don't have many gay/lesbian friends, but even I know there are some things that you should steer clear of, unless you know it is going to be a perfect fit for them. Just for fact you are asking MP...you should not go there.

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B.C.

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For weddings (doesn't matter about the gender), some candle sticks or crystal candy dishes are always fine.
Don't over think it.

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S.H.

answers from Santa Barbara on

If they have a registry use it.

If not, and you want to make them a crafty pillow, well they my love it or hate it (just like a non gay couple).

Are they planning on using the 'Mrs.' title? Some married lesbians do not.

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J.C.

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Why don't you give cash. If they want lesbian pillows they can pick them out themselves.😉

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L.*.

answers from Chicago on

I think lesbians would like a gift of money just like everyone else 😊

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J.P.

answers from Lakeland on

If you know them well then I would opt for something more personal like a pillow or blanket with their names and their wedding date.

Or go with a more traditional gift like crystal, china, etc..

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A.V.

answers from Washington DC on

Etsy is my Go-To when I need something crafty and custom.

Assuming they do use Mrs., try these https://www.etsy.com/search?q=mrs.%20and%20mrs.

O.H.

answers from Phoenix on

Personally even for a hetro couple the novelty pillows would wear off pretty quick I would think. I would get something else as I would for any married couple, something off their registry or cash. Good luck.

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K.M.

answers from Fayetteville on

Try Etsy.com. I searched Mr. & Mrs. pillows and found these:

https://www.etsy.com/search?q=mr.%20%26%20mrs.%20pillows

Contact the seller. Since they're custom, they can make you whatever you want!

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J.C.

answers from New York on

I agree with Etsy. Perhaps you can do their first names. But I think Mrs. and Mrs. is awesome whether they will officially use that title or not. On a be or sofa it will look so sweet. I think it's a very thoughtful gift.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Mrs. and Mrs. Pillows and joint pillow with Mrs. and Mrs. etc...plus ring holders and all sorts of other things for gay/lesbian couples. But I agree with others, this might be out dated...unless you made it yourself or something.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/197517343/mrs-mrs-pillow-cov...

https://www.etsy.com/listing/222909055/hers-and-hers-pill...

https://www.etsy.com/listing/199933737/mrs-mrs-pillow-cov...

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