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No. I feel that's time I could be spending with my kiddos. We're also very private. If I want to talk to someone ill call them

Yes, I have FB. And like tv and other things, it can be a distraction from your real life.

I want to point out that FB doesn't "make" you do anything. Everything you post and all the time you spend on FB are choices that YOU made. You have the control here.

Yes, I have FB. It's a really easy way to stay in touch with friends and family all over. I really don't follow people or check in on them, though. I can go many days without it and it's not big deal. I don't update things on there, either. I pretty much use it as a way of messaging.

I'm confused, though. If you already know that no one is honest, then why do you get depressed about "perfect" family pictures? You know they aren't perfect. It's such a waste of energy.

oh please. facebook isn't subversively forcing you to stalk people on it, and if other people's happiness bugs you that much, you have issues far greater than FB. i am honest on FB, but being honest doesn't mean i have to 'share' every shitty thing that happens. i choose to share mostly happy stuff, pictures of my family that i love, articles i find interesting, and an occasional rant. if that makes people like you jealous, that's not my problem.
if you are spending time on FB that you should be spending with your daughter, and you are a helpless victim who cannot walk away from it, and it's making you miserable and jealous of people who are sharing the good bits of their lives, then yes, delete it. you're not using it appropriately.
khairete
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When did you give up free will? I am not saying I actually read the terms of use but I don't believe I am actually required by force to get on Facebook when I don't have time.

If Facebook is your excuse for ignoring what is really going on in your life that isn't Facebook's fault, is it?

I do have facebook, but I don't let it interfere with real life. It is supposed to be a fun and relaxing way to keep up with people, not a stress inducer. I would look inside myself to see if I could figure out why other people happiness was causing me stress, or why I felt the need to keep up with everyone. Also, just because you added someone does not mean you can not unadd them.

I have FB. I post what I feel like posting, when I feel like posting. I don't even boot it up if I don't feel like it.
I don't check every one of my friends' walls. I see what pops up on my news feed. The people that I am really close to will contact me by means other than a FB blast to let me know if something important is going on in their lives, as I will them.
Don't make the mistake of confusing FB with real life.

Yes I do have FB and I check it a couple times a day... I don't browse my friend's pages... just my homepage and check messages.

However, if FB is taking up your life as much as you say it is, then you need to delete it. You cannot regain lost time with your daughter and children grow up very quickly. Forget FB and take the time to have a good relationship with your daughter.

Bottom line, it is a balance BUT if FB takes over your personal thoughts and behaviors, then it is not a good thing. Also, people always post about all the good, wonderful things happening to them and their families. I read very little of people whining because their lives suck that day, a spouse is angry, children disobeyed, etc.. It is all relative!

Do something more productive with yourself and your daughter. Go on a nightly (an day) walk together and just talk, read books together, just spend tie with her and talk to her. If you get up and active with your daughter, your exercise will help clean you out from depression, and make you feel better all around.

I closed my FB account more than a year ago and I don't miss it one bit. I received an invite from EVERYONE and their grandma , it got to the point where not even setting lists to separate some friends from others would help.
for example I wanted to post a picture but only for family and some close friends to see it, so I had to create list after list of people that could see that album but not others UGH complete waste of my time. It is just impossible to have privacy, you will never know how many people saw your pics or even copy them.
If you have a business it might be a good way to promote but for personal reasons is out of the question for me.
I'm with you, just click "delete account" and be free :o)

I have an acct but I can't remember the last time I looked at it.
I initially checked it out to see what all the fuss was about.
I deleted all content and now it's there in case I feel like lurking a bit but I might as well have it deleted.
If it's not working out well for you or it's making you miserable, then delete away.

I agree with TF Plano. Her advice is spot on!

Go with your gut and delete it. I don't have it, my husband doesn't and my kid won't, even when she turns 13. I heard a great description of it the other day: It's basically press releases about one's life. We all know how realistic press releases are, right?

It has some purpose for things like folks posting about an ongoing illness when the person can't contact everyone with updates, all the time. Or for raising awareness about a good cause. But... wasn't that done via blogs on web sites, and via e-mail? Without all the drama, hand-wringing and bullying that FB brings along with any good it does?

FB lovers, I know you adore it, but it's just not for all of us. My friends know my e-mail address and if I had something to promote I'd create a web site JUST for that and not put my family's faces and business online.
So M. -- do what you feel is best and spend that time with your kid.

Hey, yes, Mamapedia takes up time too....time to go! :-)

I do ahve FB - but my kids are teens and it really wasn't around when my kids were toddlers. It's a wonderful tool to stay in touch with loved ones who live far away (I get to stay up to date with cousins, neiced & nephews, babies, etc.) But it can be very distracting. I try to limit it to those times waiting in the car for a kid pick-up (less now that my daughter has a license and shares driving) or lunch time at work, etc. But now having it on a smartphone is great so I can check on it waiting for a client meeting, on the train, doctor's office, etc. But like anything else - it's about finding a balance.

As for all the perfect families out there - consider what you post about your family. I'm not going to post about my son's ADD, or my daughter's rebellious phase - but only the positive things. That's essential for my family's well-being (imagine my son's horror if I talked about how tough it is for him to finish his homework or organize his notebook, or the not-so-great grade my daughter got on her chemistry test!). So realize that's all everybody else does to. The photo I use for my profile picture is from my nephew's wedding 18 months ago. It happens to be the best picture taken of my in about 5 years. Of course I'm using that - but it really only looks like the "me" I see in my mind when I pose in front of my mirror on a good day. The lighting must have been perfect for that photo - it was a good hair day, my smile was straight and I wasn't making a wierd face. The other 150 picures of me that I've seen in the last year are not allowed to be posted to FB - ! 'so yes - we do protray ourselves in only a positive light - but as long as you realize that you can know that none of those other people have perfect lives or perfect families. Trust me - their houses looks just as awful as ours do on a Friday afternoon after a full week of school, work, activities, etc. and their kids talk back, slam their beddroom doors and get a bad grade here and there too.

I have a FB. It is good to keep up with friends and family. I really don't post much anymore and keep all my settings private. I mostly keep it to keep in touch with some people, pay attention to what is going on with my kid and her friends. You can create groups to share with so that not everyone you have friended see's everything!

I do. I love FB. Yes, it CAN be a timewaster, and it CAN start to distract me from my life, but then I have to pull myself away a bit. Self control, just like everything else in life.

If you don't want everyone and their mother to know things, then unfriend people. It's super easy and so freeing to get some control back in your life. I am super, super private on facebook and have under 100 friends. I am only friends on FB with people that are truly my friends or my family in real life. I also am not on there under my actual last name, and have it set so people can't look me up anyway. I also have everything as secure as possible (if you stumble upon my page you can only see my name, profile pic and cover photos).