Hi, M..
First, I am praying for you about where God leads you - you are right to find a place taht can love and support you and your family because that is why God made you: to be loved by Him (through others many times)/
Secondly, a good friend of mine attends church in the Gastonia area and sent me the following info when I told her about you. Please let me know if its helpful when you have had time to check it out.
Keep following - God keep and guide you.
From my friend:
The name of my church is Bethlehem Baptist Church...but we really function more like a non-denominational church than a traditional southern baptist church. I would definitely recommend it if someone is looking for a church with contemporary music, relaxed dress code, big emphasis on children's ministry, community outreach, and small group studies. Right now, we are located off of New Hope Road at the I-85 interchange (exit 20) just past the BoJangles on the northwest corner of the New Hope/I-85 interchange. We sold most of our land there and CarMax is currently building all around us, but we are still having Sunday service in our Family Life Center at 8:00, 9:30, and 11:00. Over the next year to year and a half, we'll be building a new campus on our S New Hope Road property (about 5 miles south of where we're at now.)
Both locations, where we're at now and where we'll be moving, are easy commutes from Belmont.
Here's link to our churches website...
http://bethlehembc.com/
Bethlehem Baptist Church
575 Separk Circle
Gastonia, NC 28054
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