Looking for Book About Puberty & Sex for Boys

Updated on July 08, 2008
H.H. asks from Plano, TX
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I made it through with my daughter and I know there is a great American girl book for girls about puberty etc. but I am having a hard time fnding one for my son. He is 10 going into the 5th grade and they will start some puberty/sex education this year in school. I want to talk to him first...I could chicken out and let my hubby do it but men are so not good with details and I want my son to be able to talk to me like my daughter does. Anyone found anything for boys?

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E.C.

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It is not specifically for boys, but a great one is, "What's Happening to Me" or "What's Happening to My Body". (It is one of those...)

It is a great book that explains both sides. I personally think that is important for my son and daughter both so they can understand the opposite sex as well.

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S.W.

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Look for the book "What's Happening to Me?". I don't remember the author but it talks of the changes to the body of both boys and girls tastefully. I got it for my son and used it with my daughter as well.

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A.G.

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It's funny that you mention this. I just finished having a series of puberty/sex talks with my 10 year old son. I told him it was the beginning of talks that would never end. :-) It went really well. My husband talked to him at the end of the day when he got home, but I went over everything first. Like you, I want my sons to be able to talk to me about anything. We have The Life Cycle Books that my husband had when he was young. I gave my son the one about a boy becoming a man and had him read that, but he said he got a lot more out of our conversations. Good luck! We actually had fun talking about everything.

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S.H.

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There is a book called "It's Perfectly Normal" (authors and Harris & ??) that I got for my 10 year old daughter - it addresses questions for both boys and girls. It has A LOT of information, so you might want to look through it and read parts with your son. I have a background in HIV/STD education so I may be more information based thatn most moms...good luck!

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T.H.

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I came across a book at the library today and thought of your request. I have not read it personaly but wrote down the title because it sounds like what you are looking for and says it is for boys ages 8 and up.
It is "On Your Mark, Get Set, Grow!" by Lynda Madaras
I hope you get all the information you need to talk to your son and good luck!

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L.K.

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I was referred to some books written by Stan and Brenna Jones. These books have won the "Christian Book Award" - but they discuss God's design for sex (and all the things that go along with that). These are books you can read with your children at ages three to five, five to eight, eight to eleven, and eleven to fourteen. The parent's resource is the one I recommend you read as a parent first "How and When to Tell Your Kids about Sex. A lifelong approach to shaping your child's sexual character". Then, there are 4 books to share with your kids. "The Story of Me" is book 1 and it's for ages 3 to 5 and it's goal is to lay a spiritual foundation for the child's understanding of sexuality. "Before I was Born" is book 2 and is for ages 5 to 8, "What's the Big Deal? Why God Cares about Sex" is for ages 8 - 11, and "Facing the Facts: The Truth about Sex and You" is for ages 11 - 14.

All these books were written as if dialogue were an ongoing reality between mother, father, and children in the home.

My children are 6 and 8 -- so I have read Book 1 with them so far -- and I wanted them to absorb the information in that book first. Then later this summer, I plan to read Book 2 with them. These books are a great resource and a great thing to have in your home so if and/or when they need to refer to them again in the years to come, I think it's great to have around. Also, it's difficult to have these conversations with your kids -- but it's so important that they hear this from their parents before their friends -- and I find using these books as a resource really helps make this much simplier to explain and they know you have a resource with which you are sharing this information from.

Best of luck!

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G.F.

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I haven'g got to that yet with my kiddos, but what we are planning on using is the Family Life information by Dennis and Barbara Raney. They have a Christian workbook that you go through with your pre-teen (10-11 yr. old). It is called Passport2Purity. I have heard and read great feedback on this material and I am looking forward to using it with our 4 kiddos when the time comes. This is the write up on their website about it:

Get away with your preteen or teenager for a one-on-one adventure of a lifetime! Passport2Purity® will guide you and your son or daughter through biblical principles for life's most difficult challenges; including dating and those other difficult topics to discuss. Let Dennis and Barbara Rainey lead you through an encouraging do-it-yourself retreat full of discovery, communication and fun.

Go to www.familylife.com and check out their store, and then look under the parenting section. There you will find this kit. It is actually on sale right now.

Good luck.

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L.S.

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I think that it is for both of you to discuss. I think that he will be embarassed by how you approach it, not necessarily who does it. He may be more open to you or your hubby, just depends. You need to be able to talk to your son about things, just as well as or in addition to your hubby. But it might be a good idea for you husband to be in on it, to silently back you up, and to let your son know that what is happening is normal and wonderful....even if you do all the talking or he conferences with your son later. Your husband will also lend a bit of legitimacy if he doesn't believe you and this incredible story of how things work. I think that if you are expecting for him to be close in that respect, or talk to you like your daughter, you may be disappointed. Or he might now, but won't as he matures, I would think. I think that the previous reply about "you shouldn't do the talk" is off mark, though. I think as mothers we should all do what we can to raise healthy boys. But I think to expect him to talk about it like a girl to her mother is a little unrealistic.
My hubby would never do the talk and hasn't yet. He himself is to embarassed. If I wait for my husband to do it, or rely on what he knows etc. I would be old and gray before he got to it. I am a nurse and am not embarassed or averse to explaining things. Me and my sons already have pretty frank discussions about things anyway. I bought "What's Happpening Down There?" by Karen Gravelle. I have also heard "Hair in funny places" by Babette Cole is good. And you might try, "Puberty Boy" by Geoff Price.
I am approaching that milestone myself. Lord, Bless us all.
Good luck,
L.

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B.P.

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H.,
As a mom of boys I understand that you want him to have a safe place to talk about this subject. I have found through a lot of research and talking that the Dad is the more appropriate person for the son to talk with about sex and his male body.
It is difficult but this is the time that the boy needs to be able to push away in a healthy way from Mom so he can become a man. We got our youth pastor involved and my husband is good at taking our sons fishing and having guy time.
There is also a program that we have looked at called Passport to Purity. We have read Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and that helped me understand that I have to step aside for some of this(though I do still make sure that I know what is going on).
Good luck with your son. We dealt and deal with the things that young boys are exposed to that we did not have to know about when we were kids. Having strong and involved parents is the first step and having a powerful church family and trusted friends has made this journey much easier.

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L.W.

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Try www.Amazon.com and plug in how to talk to my son about sex. Never know:)

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K.S.

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I heard there are good ones by James Dobson. If your husband is willing, and will explain things in a way that is suitable for a boy, then it really is best that he talks to your son...or both of you talk about it with him, together. After it is all explained, it may be good to set down an talk about it again as a family. Hopefully this would help him to talk openly with you and his sister, when he has a difficult question that comes around.

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D.S.

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Good luck with that! No really its not biggie- You will find that its not just one talk- especially with the girls- they have a ton of questiosn later. Ithink hving your husband explain it could be truly beneficial- you just pop in the details- just make it non chalant-best bet I think is after a movie that sort of touched base on it a bit on it or mentioned sex-that works best-good lead in. They do go over it in school - so don't worry about that. Just be open honest and tell him about girls getting their periods as well- It makes them that more in touch with the "other side" - ha!
No real good books for boys in their pre teen years- but check out
Queen Bees and Wanna Bees- for your dgt-wait I just saw- shes 21- too late! great info!

D. Sansone
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N.H.

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I think it is called 'all about boys'. I'll try to double check on the title. Just stay open and i'm sure you'll do good.

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M.R.

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Why not just have an honest conversation with him? I'm surprised you haven't already; my kids all wanted to know where babies come from before kindergarten. Don't make it sound/feel dirty or forboden; you'll peak his curiousity. You're blessed to be married to the love of your life; share the beauty of that with him in an open and age appropriate way. This is a great opportunity for you to share with him the kind of man you envision him being. You can do this; mommas have been having this talk with their boys for a long time. Don't know if you're a Christian, but if you need a scripture to stand on, try Proverbs 31.

Blessings
M

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S.B.

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I used a book from ABEKA which gives character lessons as well. But if I were you I would ask your husband some questions to make sure you are on the "same page". None of my boys (especially at that age) wanted to talk to Mom about sex, so don't be discouraged if he is embarrassed and will not talk much, after all, in his eyes, Mom doesn't know how boys think/etc...It's funny because last Sunday I was talking to some fathers at church who were saying how much time they spent on developing the character of their sons even to the point of denying them easy access to computer and tv to try and keep them from having a cavalier attitude toward women. I wish you well.

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L.P.

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I am a single mom with a 16 year old boy. I grew up an only child, so no brothers around either. As a little boy my son always asked me about things about his body, etc. I knew at some point this would start to fade and he's not always comfortable talking to his dad. I went to Barnes and Noble and told them what kind of books I was looking for and they took me to the section. I sat in the isle and went through many books to determine what I felt was best. I bought 3 books for different stages. A very basic book about the changes for his body, then a little more advanced that was actually a cartoonish type book for boys and girls and then a more advanced specifically about young men and gave these books to him at the times I felt were appropriate for him. I sat down and talked to him and told him if he had any questions or concerns that he was embarrased or uncomfortable talking to me about that I wanted him to have the books so he could check because the information you get from your friends is not always right and then if he wanted to talk or discuss anything I most certainly would. This has helped alot. It really helps for them to have a positive male to talk to. You've received lots of book recommendations and I would certainly check them out.

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L.M.

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Actually, I think it would be more appropriate for your husband to talk to your son. Your son would probably feel more comfortable asking questions to his dad and it's a great bonding for them for your son to know he's got that in common with his dad. There is a series of books that actually starts at 5 year olds and goes up...It's called Learning About Sex: A series for the Christian family by Carol Greene.

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