I know it's hard to do but you have to keep track of what goes in. You can't lose weight if you are taking in more than you burn. Since you don't have time to exercise (I know the feeling) then you aren't burning much.
I discovered not too long ago that I have a condition that is linked to heart disease. I am a 41 year old mom with three small kids...I need to get healthy. So I decided this year I was going to change my life.
I emailed a whole group of friend and family and we have started a Healthy Living group. We email eachother about tips and things we have researched and found out about healthy living. I email everyone about successes I've seen and others have told me about. The only person in the lime light is me....others didn't want everyone else to know how much they have been doing or not....so I just email out tips people send me or tell everyone about successes without using names.
I spent 25 years of my life eating what I want in quantities you would find hard to believe. I weighed 100 lb soaking wet when I graduated college. I'm 5' 3" and in January I weighed 164 lbs.
In a nut shell I had to start counting calories. I write down every single thing I eat. A few of my friends don't have the discipline for that because they work and just don't have time....so they went out and bought everything already packaged and counted for them....individual salads, veggie packs, dressing packs, snack packs, diet meals to nuke, cans of tuna, easy recipes to make and figure out. One of my friends was very skeptical about this, but she saw how well I was doing so she tried it. She bought all the pre-packaged stuff and in three days she lost three pounds. She's hooked now. She's preparing easy meals to count, eating more veggies, and so forth.
I research places like realage.com, national body challenge, and places like that. I have a stack of books I'm reading about portion sizes and diets people advocate. I glean what will work for me and then pass it on to everyone else.
In Jan I weighed 164 lbs...I now weigh 143 lbs. I don't get to work out much because I have a little guy and two girls I watch all day. So that's more or less all from watching what I eat and how much I eat.
If you would like just shoot me a message and I'll respond with my email address...then I can add you to my email list of Healthy Living buddies...no names are ever given out so no one is embarrassed.
If you don't feel comfortable with that (after all you don't know me...so I'll understand), here are a few things that have helped me:
1.) Throw out all bad foods....I can't have cookies, chips and such in the house because I have no will power. And your kids don't need it either. They need to eat right just as much as you do. If you guys want a treat, then stop by the store on Friday...and have a pizza night with chips or icecream sundaes for just that one night. The rest of the week, eat healthy. Throw out all snacks and packaged junk food.
2.) I divide my plate this way. Half my plate are veggies...not corn or potatoes...veggies, something colorful and cooked in a healthy way. One quarter of my plate is a starch...most recommend brown rice or something like that, but I can't do that...so I do regular rice, pasta, potatoes, or corn. And then the last quarter is a lean protien...that's the best, but I stick to just a palm size portion of meat, whatever that is.
3.) I count it even if it's just a bite. If you don't want to count it or figure it out, then don't eat it....or just guess on the high side.
4.) I always eat breakfast.
5.) I caluclated what I need to eat by doing this simple formula. I multiplied my weight that I tend to stay at by 12. (164 x 12 = 1968) I was eating about 1968 calories everyday to keep that weight. So I had to cut out 500 calories a DAY to lose 1 pound a WEEK. I couldn't cut out 1000 because that would put be below 1200 and that's not healthy...you will be too tired to function. Add some exercise whenever and you can burn more.
6.) I try to make everything from scratch or eat it raw or steamed. I don't do packaged foods because they tend to be high in calories, sodium, and sugar. All killers if you are trying to lose weight.
7.) Since my kids are small and not arguing about eating right or exercising (they love Lazy Town...the tv series...we have it on dvd)....I didn't have to encourage them. I've read that I chart for the family is a good thing...challenge everyone to eat healthier and exercise. Everytime someone eats a healthy meal...they get a star. If they exercise for 15 minutes by walking, riding a bike, or climbing stairs or whatever, they get a star. The person with the most stars...gets a prize. The person with the most results also gets a prize. That way you can get the whole family on board.
I could go on and on, but I have to go feed my kids some lunch. Fish, baked potato slices, orange slices, and a small salad w/ tomato, green pepper, cucumber, and a sprinkle of parmesan cheese.