Love Problem

You named your post "Love problem".
So what is the problem?
I can't even understand what you are saying.!?.!?.!?

Neither sex or kissing is important in love. We love people that live miles away from us. We love people with whom sex is inappropriate. We love people who would not want to be kissed.

We do not have sex with our children. We do not kiss our best friends husband.

Do you mean is love restricted by culture? I don't think so. How we express our love is restricted by culture but not the feeling of love.

Sex is very important in order to have a loving marriage.
Kissing is important to show affection to your spouse
I don't know what restricte by culture means.

I assume you're speaking of intimate relationships (as in boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands or wives), versus say mother-daughter love or anything like that and that is what my answer is based on. Yes, I do think sex is important in love, as it is (or should be, anyway) the biggest expression of love, when you choose to give yourself to someone whom you deem special enough to have your all. Unfortunately, our culture has cheapened it by having everyone from athletes to teenagers have sex like it's going out of style because it's the "popular thing", there is peer pressure or a need to unwind, and they choose anyone from a co-worker to a prostitute for it, but I do think there's a difference still between making love and just having sex for the heck of it, though it may appear to be similar to most. Kissing is important I think as well, it's part of showing you love someone, so although it's not on the same level as sex, I wouldn't kiss everyone I see either. I assume you're talking about kissing on the lips, as opposed to kissing on the cheek which can be a greeting in certain cultures, by the way...As to love being restricted by culture, unfortunately, there are cultures that do restrict certain classes, religions, or other cultures from intermixing, due to their closemindedness. Also, some cultures may frown on such things as a woman having been previously married, having a child, or no longer being a virgin, or even the fact that she comes from a different race. I have had this problem when dating Iranian men, for example. I love meeting people from new cultures, learning new cultures and embracing them, but unfortunately, relatives can get in the way with their judgmental attitudes and ruin many relationships. There's a new movie about a Hispanic girl and an African-American man falling in love and wanting to marry, and the reactions of the parents to this news. It has America Ferrera in it, it is called Our Family Wedding and looks to be a romantic comedy, if you're interested. Hope this helps in answering your question.

I agree with Bethany C

In many cultures, sex is only allowed within marriage. Anything outside that can be punished (but usually the female is punished and not so much the male).
Kissing is cultural. Some cultures have everyone kissing everyone on cheeks as greeting or saying farewell, etc. In some cultures kissing is only for family (a good night kiss before bedtime), and in other kissing is only for married people. Some places in the world forbid public displays of affection (kissing, hand holding, etc.).
Culture certainly restricts love. You need to be clear about the differences between love and sex. Most cultures have certain taboos that are almost universal. Most frown on having sex outside your species, for example.
For a discussion about your particular culture, we'd need to know more about which culture you are talking about.

All of these questions will have very different answers based on whether they are being answered by people of different cultures, religious upbringings, ages, genders, or hormone levels. What you have been raised to expect is often very important in determining how important sex is, or what kinds of kissing are appropriate, etc.

I think that to many sex IS important in a marriage or relationship with a significant other. As well as kissing. If you are talking about other relationships, ie with children, siblings, parents, OF COURSE they aren't important. But if you are in a relationship w/ man or woman than part of that relationship is feeling wanted and desired, and loved. If you know that the other person desires you as well as loves you this makes your relationship more solid. Obviously, this is NOT the only thing that goes into a relationship. there are many factors that go along with this. Kindness, respect, friendship, admiration, etc. All of these combined create love. When a couple is younger sex seems to be more important, as you get older with this person a lot of times it becomes more companionable. As for as culture goes, I guess it depends on how much your culture means to you. if you have 2 totally opposing cultures, it might be very hard to get past and try to live a life incorporating both of them into one life together. but to love means to compromise, and if the 2 of you love each other then you will compromise.

Love is greatly influenced by culture. In Western cultures, love comes in many types and local attitudes. Christians talk of agape, which is heartfelt love for everything, comes from the love of the Christ (God) for mankind, and has morphed into parental love. The Greeks had several words for love, and agape is one of them. In some Judeo-Christian religions, love is not so easily distinguished from sex, so sex seems very important, especially to Americans. The more conservative Jews place a sheet between the man and the woman during sex, so as not to be too familiar. For them, love is different. Catholicism teaches that sex is for procreation, even though it can feel good and fulfilling in a relationship. The way southern men and women relate is quite different than northerners, and the beliefs of generations are widely different in their attitudes towards love, sex and what is acceptable. Middle eastern religions teach something entirely different. Culture makes a big difference in how someone sees love, and sex.

Kissing varies as much and is generally cultural, but not always. The American Indians did not kiss as we know it; Eskimos rub noses; women of different cultures use kissing differently, too. For some it is affection, for others foreplay to the sex act. Prostitutes do not kiss, generally, because it is too intimate, so generally, in the USA, kissing is the beginning of more. In the South, "sugar" can mean kissing, so a mom can say, "Give me some sugar" to a child and she means a kiss of affection. A woman can say the same thing to a man and mean she's ready for foreplay and sex. If kissing is affection, then it can be considered important to romantic love if both parties agree. I've known women who are avid kissers and others who do not like kissing at all. It can be a cultural thing, but I think it is more personal.

Is sex important in love? For the past several decades, sex and money have been the top two reasons cited in divorce. S/he wants too much or to little. The partners do not agree. If it can cause divorce, and half of the couples in the USA divorce, then sex is very important. That said, my wife does not care for sex and I do because it is a fulfilling (for me) expression of caring enough to make your partner happy while it is a wonderful way to express affection. Who can live without the caring touch of a loved one? My wife cannot discuss sex, either. I lived all my teen years in the sixties in Greenwich Village, NYC. THE era of free love and mutual respect. My wife comes from another country and missed everything about the sixties (and she is 10 years younger). She loves me, but without sex, she is comfortable while I am miserable as far as sex goes. I still love her. I would love to meet a woman in a similar position as me and enjoy each other to talk to, to touch and to explore the senses together (sex). It would not weaken our marriage. Rather, it would strengthen it because we love each other.

There are three kinds of sex: one you do to someone, one you do for someone, and the best is when you have sex with someone and the bond between you is love. There is more to love than sex, and there is more to sex than physical connection.

The Supreme Court of the USA ruled in the sixties that "two consenting adults" make all aspects of their relationship acceptable and private. That was a wise ruling and is the law of the land. In means the church does not have the fear of immorality as one of its ways to control people, and that better arguments must be found to influence congregations.

Whatever compromise you can agree to with your husband or partner is how you will demonstrate your answers to your questions. It must be your personal choice.