Mamma's Boy Has Sever Separation Anxiety, Still Nursing and Co-sleeping

I too am the mom of a cling-o sorus. The way I got nursing under control was to put him on a schedule, stick to my guns, and then once he accepted it I started dropping one nursing time a month in order of which ones seem least important to him. Each time I made sure to have a fun activity to distract him. When I dropped the night nursing I told him it was sleepy time, rubbed his back for a minute and then rolled over and pretended to be asleep. Initially it's gonna be hell but remember it's good for both of you in the long run.
Sounds like you might need to have a chat with your 3 year old - explain that her brother is getting older and it's time for him to have less - "booby". Maybe even see if she'll help by playing with him?
Also, I would ask the daycare provider to please squeeze in some extra hugs for your son. Maybe he could use a few more during the day but does not get them because he isn't crying.

and P.S. I think your pediatrician's response was very insensitive! Unless she's offering to help out and wash the dishes for you I'd tell her to take a hike! Contrary to recent popular opinion, attending to basic hygiene and home maintenance does not make you a bad mom.

Don't be so worried. You are a loving caring mom and obviously have raised a loving caring little sensitive girl. Your baby is still a baby and cannot yet express his wishes verbally so in his frustration he lets you know (very clearly...good for him!!) what he wants. If children are given what they want and need they do not get so upset and when the need is satisfied they can relax and move on. If you have some device to allow you to safely carry him and still get things done, use it to keep your back from giving out. He will get over it. Stubborn is not an issue now. No need to stop nursing if that is satisfying to him. If you have the energy, try putting him back in his crib after nursing if possible. He is trying to have some control over assuring himself you will come back and he is not losing you. He Will move on from this if it is satisfied. Relax and enjoy this period in both your lives...all three of your lives. Bless you and your two little ones. N.

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Good luck!
A.

Hi J.,
This sounds really tough for you, your son and your daughter! My daughter used to have trouble around dinner time too, and I would put her in my Ergo carrier (soft carrier I can wear on my back), put on some nice music, and make dinner. She wasn't always 100% happy with this arrangement, but she wasn't in complete distress either. This way your son will be physically close to you but your hands are free to make dinner.
I highly recommend the ergo carrier, especially since your son is already 18 months old and probably pretty heavy. It's soft but it has a lot of support so your back won't break.
About the daycare sign-out, is it possible to sign them out before they see you? Maybe you can work this out with your provider so you can take care of business then be totally available for your kids.
Don't worry, the phase will pass. Maybe you can leave the dishes until after bedtime until things get a little easier?
Good luck to you.
A.