Marry Me or Lets Break Up!

Hi K.. I think you're doing the right thing. You seem to be successfully trying to maintain your priorities. And your 6 year old guy is your priority. I'm assuming you love this man since you've been with him for 3 years now. But, like you, I would definitely be putting my foot down about spending nights at his place. Since he's now 6, I wouldn't be doing that with my son either. You're doing good, K.! Keep focused on your priorities and you can't go wrong!

Oh, I was also going to ask how old your bf is because you know, generally, men mature at a much slower pace than women. This is going to be even more true if he is not a parent himself. So, he may not be at your maturity level. Good luck, my husband and I have been together 14 years and it is hard work!!!

it's hard to say, if he's a really great guy and you want to keep him around, i wouldn't give him an ultimatum. why is marriage so important to you? to me love and how well you get along is what's important in a relationship. husband and boyfriend are only titles. are you expecting anything to change when you get married? with today's divorce rates it's probably better to wait. wouldn't you feel better if he married you because he wanted to, rather than because you bullied him into it? my husband and i were together 4 yrs before we got married, and i'm glad. we worked out all the kinks in our relationship before we were legally tied to each other. good luck in whatever you decide.

I don't think three years dating is too soon to get married. It sounds like he is putting things off. You don't need to keep hanging around someone who isn't serious. I think you are doing the right thing. Set a time limit you can live with and if you don't have an engagement with a real date for a wedding, then you should consider leaving him and looking for someone who will give you the comitment you and your son need

Hi K.,

I had the same situation only no children were involved. I stuck it out for 7 years! I finallyl decided that I didn't really want to be married that I had to "talk into" loving me and committing.

You don't want to waste your time with someone that you have to convince to marry you. Good luck.

V.